Did your DH help you with the Thank Yous at all?

JimmysBride Posted: Apr 22, 2005 01:38 PM

Did your DH help you with the Thank Yous at all?

Last night I was stamping and labeling the TY envelopes (please let's not discuss how horribly late my TYs are!! ) and hinted at DH that he could pitch in.

His comment: 'I didn't sit on my azz at a desk all day!' (Big deal - he took a couple of days off to work on the house)

It's not like I asked him to write them, they were all written, I just hinted that he COULD help me with sticking the labels & stamps on, considering it was almost midnight and I had to go to work the next day, unlike him. Plus I was doing this in bed while watching TV, it's not like he even had to get uncomfortable to do this!

So he gets up OUT of bed and goes to play on the computer until I finish!

I am just totally shocked that he really honestly feels that he has ZERO obligation to thank anyone for the very generous gifts we got and that somehow, that's only MY job!! Meanwhile, whenever the gifts come up, he is always so quick to point out how HIS family was so much more generous than mine!!

Was your DH this way about the TYs?

LauderLady Posted: Apr 22, 2005 01:45 PM

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I'm not even sure my DH knows I sent out T/Y's!!!

His excuses are as follows:

1. I have terrible handwriting.
2. Why didn't you wait until I got home from (fill in the blank) to do them?
3. I don't know what to write
4. I don't want to mess them up and get yelled at.
5. But YOU do it so much better.

brideinapril Posted: Apr 22, 2005 01:46 PM

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All I'm going to say is NO - he did not help at all!!!!

BCTM33 Posted: Apr 22, 2005 01:46 PM

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He helped put the return address labels on 1/2 of them. I don't really count that as helping....

Jan05Bride Posted: Apr 22, 2005 01:47 PM

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My mom did the labels for me, that was a big help.

DH wants to write his aunts, his mom's, brothers, and groomsmen, so we'll see

woozshle Posted: Apr 22, 2005 01:58 PM

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I FORCED him to write his parents, bro, sis, and one of his guys.

Anniegrl Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:01 PM

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Nope, didn't help. Actually, he didn't help with anything wedding related come to think of it
And I actually had to MAKE him plan the honeymoon. He didn't believe me when I told him that it's the groom's job!

treilly13 Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:02 PM

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He will be doing most of them for his non-mutual friends, co-workers and family. He already knows this and is fine with it...for now.

TwoBugs Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:06 PM

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I made him write to his family. I gave him a list of each person, what they gave (so he could refer to it in the note) and their address. And I showed him where we keep the stamps.

FeliciaDA Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:10 PM

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He wrote out 2 . One to his boss, one to a friend of his I cannot stand

I was stuck doing his ENTIRE family, and let me tell you there was double the amount of his family than there was mine

Even those 2 were like pulling teeth

So basically, I voted NOPE

dpli Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:23 PM

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I did them all, and he signed his name to them. I chose to do them, however, because I wanted to know for sure they all went out and not have it hanging over my head. If I had asked him to help, he would have.

nov2004bride Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:28 PM

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He did his side and I did mine

Karacg Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:30 PM

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DH finally signed under my name when Iheld a knife to his neck. I did everything else.

nov04LIbride Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:33 PM

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Not one! But then as I asked him to write an anniversary card to his grandparents, I realized that he is physically incapable of writing a friendly note!

casey31 Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:45 PM

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He didn't do one thank you note. He did help with a lot of the wedding planning (although over all i did much more)- we chose all the vendors together and he planned the honeymoon. But yes, for some reason it was 'assumed' that i had to put together the invitations and write all the thank you cards.....why is that?

halloweenbride04 Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:50 PM

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I made him write his brother's who was our BM. He sealed and stamped a handful of them.

wc0143 Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:54 PM

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I didn't want his help except I made him write the ones to his siblings & uncle.

heidla Posted: Apr 22, 2005 02:56 PM

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No, Nope, Nothing, Nada!!!

Can you tell I was happy about his decision to let me do them all. By myself. Even to people on his side that I didn't know.

tourist Posted: Apr 22, 2005 03:52 PM

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yep- he did his side & our mutual freinds since I have a bigger family. & he addressed them all ( I think) because he ahs better handwriting.

He neded a little help with what to say, but I wrote out a few basic scenarios to chose from & we did them together, so if he wanted to add on a personal comment, he'd always run it by me, b/c he is self concious of saying the wrong thing.