dilemma about missing/?non existant gifts PLEASE HELP

Original post by MushesGirl

Jul 17, 2007 06:55 PM

Hi all, this is my first post since coming back from the honeymoon. Everything was absolutely great both wedding and honeymoon. Here's our problem:

DH and I were going over the gift envelopes and sorting them out, and we realized there are envelopes either missing or not given (ie people attended and we have no envelope or gift).
This is very upsetting to us, simply because we are ok if people didn't have funds for a gift, but at least if we got an empty envelope we know we didnt loose it! Now we dont know if people simply didnt give us a gift or its gone.

We tried to be meticulous about putting any envelopes into the box as soon as possible, just so as to AVOID this situation exactly. DH remembers seeing envelopes in the bridal suite after the wedding when we were in a rush to get everything packed, things flew everywhere.

And now what do we do about thank yous?? I can't call someone and say 'um did you forget to give us an envelope?' What do I write on the thank you??? Thanks for your generous gift????
If anyone went thru this or has input i'd greatly appreciate it. We are missing envelopes from about 5 couples/guests.

JennyO Posted: Jul 30, 2007 11:31 PM

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Posted by JennyO

We were missing envelopes from one family that was sitting together so we were afraid we lost their envelopes. I told my mom right before we left for the honeymoon. She brought it up to this family without my permission and they say they always mail their wedding gifts. (I think it's tacky to ask) It's over a year later and still no gifts. I was going to send them a thank you anyway for attending but our thank you cards were preprinted with the phrase thank you for your thoughtful gift. My husband and mom were adamant that I do not send them a thank you. They didn't have to give a gift if they couldn't afford it, but a card would have been nice.

Two of the people that didn't give us gifts just gave us our gift at a family party over a year later. Now I feel bad that I didn't send them a thank you at the same time I sent everyone elses out.

I was shocked when they handed us the envelopes. My husband was waiting for them to get married so we could attend and not give a gift. I don't think I could have done that though. Even if your wedding was over a year ago you still may get a gift.

Summer07Bride Posted: Jul 31, 2007 09:48 AM

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One of FH's friends did not give a gift. So to call and 'ask hey did we misplace your gift could be taken the wrong way'. For those people I am still gong to write a thank you, but just write 'thank you for sharing our special day with us'

L&R Posted: Aug 02, 2007 02:10 PM

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We went thru the gifts and realized we were one gift short - a friend of mine from school. We know she is having a tough time financially, so we were just happy she was there, but we thought she would have at least gotten us a card. We didn't know what to do, so I spoke with a mutual friend and asked if she knew anything - explaining that I didn't care about the gift, but wanted to make sure we didn't lose it (or it wasn't taken, etc). She explained that our firiend planned on giving us something, but forgot her check book and was going to mail it to us. Haven gotten it yet, but we don't mind.

kimvin714 Posted: Aug 02, 2007 02:54 PM

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its been over two weeks and we are still missing gifts from 59 people!!! some are couples/families so technically it is 31 gifts, but seriously, it is starting to upset me

EverlovingEv Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:11 PM

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Posted by kimvin714

its been over two weeks and we are still missing gifts from 59 people!!! some are couples/families so technically it is 31 gifts, but seriously, it is starting to upset me

omg that's crazy!!!!