do you go on vacation without your DH?

I had a voucher that I had to use by the 15th of this month, so i convinced my sister, cousin and gfriend to come along with me to puerto rico for the weekend. (i asked DH first but he couldnt come bc of work)
well let me tell you, i was soooooooo bummmed, i wanted him there so bad, i felt almost pathetic and sorry for myself. dont get me wrong i love being with the girls and we had a greattttt time but maybe because as a newlywed i missed him like crazy. maybe when we're married longer it will be different.
what do you ladies think - did you ever go wihtout your DH on vacation - after your married?????

i've been on a weekend trip here and there without him and it's just weird. while i'm having a good time, i just can't wait to get home & be with him lol. Sometimes once a day or two goes by it subsides & i have a great time, but i'd much rather prefer to be with him or atleast have him around. I feel bad 'cause my mom always asks me 'lets just go away with the girls'...and it's not that i dont want to go, i do...but i honestly just have a better time with my hubby there..when he doesn't come i feel like i spend money to go on vacay but all i do is think about going home, so it's a waste lol. i feel ya on this one

I've never been on a vacation with my DH (even when we were dating or engaged). I think I would miss him too much!

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Posted by jtgarsik

i've been on a weekend trip here and there without him and it's just weird. while i'm having a good time, i just can't wait to get home & be with him lol. Sometimes once a day or two goes by it subsides & i have a great time, but i'd much rather prefer to be with him or atleast have him around. I feel bad 'cause my mom always asks me 'lets just go away with the girls'...and it's not that i dont want to go, i do...but i honestly just have a better time with my hubby there..when he doesn't come i feel like i spend money to go on vacay but all i do is think about going home, so it's a waste lol. i feel ya on this one

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i know - he's like check out all the hot spots so when we go together we'll know where to go!!!

I ahvn't yet. But I dont see any problem in going with girlfriends on a relaxing getaway. But I think if I went soon after the wedding I would have been bummed as well, but say I do it in like a year- ill prolly be fine getting away from him for a day or 2.

I was invited to mexico with my mom for last month but I said no even though she offered to pay because....

Its not fair IMO for our situation especially. I only get a certain number of vacation days so it would be really unfair of me to go without DH i feel because those few days should be spent with him especially if he WNATS to go away. Same with him-his schedule is limited so he tries to work things around me.

Our sitch is diff though; I don't see him but for a few days a week so if we get 3 days we want to spend them together. if we don't, and one of us goes away for a weeknd, then essentially we won't see one another for 2 weeks.

We do go out for 'nights out' with our friends once in awhile seperately but its just for a few hours so thats fine.

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Posted by GinaZ

I ahvn't yet. But I dont see any problem in going with girlfriends on a relaxing getaway. But I think if I went soon after the wedding I would have been bummed as well, but say I do it in like a year- ill prolly be fine getting away from him for a day or 2.

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yeah thats what i think - maybe in a year

my gf's are like when are we doing this again
im like --------- me??????????----- lol - next year

lol

I just recently went to FL with my cousin to visit our grandparents for a week and it was tough- I got through it and made the best of it, but thought about him and spoke to him throughout the entire trip! I think regardless of how long you've been married- a week, a year, a decade- it's normal to miss the person that you vowed to spend your entire life with. It's just normal

Before we were married i went to Italy for two weeks to visit my family - and cried every single day. I tried to come home twice... i had a GREAT TIME but i just missed him horribly

I am planning on going again next year but for a shorter time, it is going to be so hard! i am also planning a long weekend in Fla with my sister. . .

Honestly, if I am spending the money and taking the time off of work - it is going to be to go away with DH. . .

well maybe a little trip back to NY to see family/friends...

he's going to Ecuador for three weeks - he's leaving next week! but he'll be visiting his family..

do i love spending weeks apart from him? of course not! but i do think it's healthy and i love that he'll get to spend so much time with his family that he only sees once every few years! the hardest part of him going to Ecuador is that we can't speak every day..

I digress...

i do...but it's hard. although I think it's good for each of us to spend time apart to do our own thing, I think it makes us stronger as a couple to be able to be independent like that.

it's also a little different for us---because he's away a lot with the Army, that's when I might go away with my girlfriends, or my family...so it's not like I could have been away with DH anyway, and it helps pass the time till I get to see him again

ive been on 2 vacations already with out FH because of work

they werent huge deals..i came back to NY for my BFF graduation and another one with my SIL to KC for a weekend

I went once bfr we were married to Vegas for a long wknd.
I hated every second of being away from him there.
Most of my friends were all not married most were single - so it put me in a bad spot -esp when I was planning a wedding.

Than he went to CT for 3 or 4 days for business 2 months ago - that was strange. Our first time w/out each other since we were married.
One of the days I had a private GTG w/LIW girls though they helped me through it

2wknds ago I went to AC for the night all girls for my bday it was AWESOME - I didn't think about him like I did my first trip away bfr we were married in Vegas but it was nice to come home to him


I think it is healthy to feel guilty being apart and at the same time to have funn - than look fwd to each others returns

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Posted by ant n tilde

Before we were married i went to Italy for two weeks to visit my family - and cried every single day. I tried to come home twice... i had a GREAT TIME but i just missed him horribly

I am planning on going again next year but for a shorter time, it is going to be so hard! i am also planning a long weekend in Fla with my sister. . .

Honestly, if I am spending the money and taking the time off of work - it is going to be to go away with DH. . .

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Thats how I feel. I go away when need be-like if something comes up and friends or family need me I go, same for him. But if its a major vacation at this point in our lives, definetly not because we only see one another 2-3 days a week as is. We get PLENTY of 'alone' time.

Maybe when schedules even out and we're together all the time like most married couples we will want more 'on our own' time but right now, nope.

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Posted by PeteysBride

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Posted by ant n tilde

Before we were married i went to Italy for two weeks to visit my family - and cried every single day. I tried to come home twice... i had a GREAT TIME but i just missed him horribly

I am planning on going again next year but for a shorter time, it is going to be so hard! i am also planning a long weekend in Fla with my sister. . .

Honestly, if I am spending the money and taking the time off of work - it is going to be to go away with DH. . .

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Thats how I feel. I go away when need be-like if something comes up and friends or family need me I go, same for him. But if its a major vacation at this point in our lives, definetly not because we only see one another 2-3 days a week as is. We get PLENTY of 'alone' time.

Maybe when schedules even out and we're together all the time like most married couples we will want more 'on our own' time but right now, nope.

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You may cling to each other more!!!

From about May to November DH and I see each other for less than an hour a day - and that time is usually spent eating,napping and doing random boring household stuff. So from December to April, all we can think about is that the 'bad' time is just around the corner and we really just want to spend a lot of time together!

I will always go visit my family in Italy but I will only do that when DH is working from 6AM to 11PM. . .I would never see him anyway. i WOULD NEVER go when he had his down time!

AND going to Florida with my sister. She REALLY wants to take my niece to Disney but does not want to travel alone so I said I would go with her. . . I know it is STILL going to be hard.

A lot of people say you need time away, and I understand that but for us - we have TOO MUCH time away from each other as it is and I wouldn't add to that