I came across a box with all my little keepsakes from my relationship with my ex. I'm the kind of person who saves everything-ticket stubs, playbills, pictures, etc. I threw almost all of it out because it really doesn't have any meaning anymore but I couldn't bring myself to throw out the pictures. I don't want to totally erase those years even though that relationship is over. Some of my best friends are in some of those pictures too. Should I just get rid of them? Do any of you keep that stuff or do you toss them when the realtionship ends? Just curious.
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I tossed a good deal of stuff recently. I just couldn't even look at some of it without thinking 'what was I thinking?'. lol.
What I have a hard time getting rid of are photos. I just don't know what to do with them because I don't believe in throwing away pictures. So for now they just sit in an album at the back of my closet. DH knows it's there and has seen it.
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I dated a guy for about 5 years when i was younger and I still have a bunch of momentos from him. Mostly because it was from my whole teenage years. Prom pictures, Graduation stuff, ect. I also kept the ankle braclet he bought me because I think it will be funny to show future children the nutsy things their parents bought
But from the relationship that i had right before DH I kept nothing. I gave away all his gifts and any pictures that had special meaning I stored away in a box at my moms. The rest I threw away.
alina
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I only kept the photos or things that I still use (such as Valentine day candy mugs)
Cira
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I got rid of all my 'past' stuff when Rob and I got engaged - I just wanted to start fresh and leave some of my past behind. I did keep my prom pictures, sweet 16, graduations and other pictures that were milestones that may have contained an ex, but all pics with just me and an ex are gone. Rob did the same.
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I keep pix if I am the only one it. I throw everything away. It no longer serves me any purpose. I am sentimental but I do not live in the past especially with exes, if its over, its over.
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I kept the jewelry! And the good memories...
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Posted by shamma
I keep pix if I am the only one it. I throw everything away. It no longer serves me any purpose. I am sentimental but I do not live in the past especially with exes, if its over, its over.
Take my advice....if you keep the pictures make sure you hide them good!!! My daughter found one of me and my old boyfriend in a few of the same vacations spots me and my DH went to and showed my DH and he got a bit upset!!! I planned the vacations so he things I did it to remember them!!! He got over it though just was mad for a day...pictures gone now!!
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Mine are thrown away.
I see nothing wrong with keeping mementos of your past as long as they are stored away and out of sight of your spouse.
My Dh has mementos from his past (well the brief one he had- I was his second girlfriend)
Tammy I do not think you should throw them away. I would not keep in in plain view of Dh though.
The only reason my love letters and such are thrown away from my ex boyfriend is because I moved out of my mom's house forgot to take them and they were thrown away.
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I am very sentimental, so I keep everything. The only relationship I have personal things from (besides pics) was w. my HS boyfriend. Those momentos, cards etc. are in a big box w. all kinds of things from that time in my life. I never really thought of throwing it away, b/c I cannot throw anything away DH has some stuff from his HS girlfriend too that was moved inadvertantly w. a box of stuff from his moms house. It does not bother me at all, I dont think its holding on to the person, but rather the memories of the time.
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I kept the pictures of old boyfriends from high school and college, but the ones after college have been thrown away. The only momentos I kept are ones that I can still use, like jewelry.
Tammy5-03
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It was a college boyfriend, it feels like 2 lifetimes ago. I just hate throwing away pics, it feels like erasing your own life. I threw the rest of the stuff out already. I wouldn't want to hide the pics from DH. I think that makes it way more important than it is.
jennbaby
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I still have some certain items from a few exes. Those are memories of my life I want.
nrvbrd
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Posted by Tammy5/03
It was a college boyfriend, it feels like 2 lifetimes ago. I just hate throwing away pics, it feels like erasing your own life. I threw the rest of the stuff out already. I wouldn't want to hide the pics from DH. I think that makes it way more important than it is.
Tammy I am not suggesting you hide them, I meant not to display them around the house for all to see.
Dh has a box of letters/pics of his old girlfriend, girls he had a thing for. He keeps it in his closet. I mean I know about it, but I do not have to look at it all the time. It does not bother me at all.
I mean it is a part of the past, you cannot erase it. As long as it is not thrown in my face I really could care less about it.
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Kysha,
I see what you mean about not displaying it. That makes sense to me. Its been in a box in the closet for years anyway, I'll probably just put it back. I don't think DH would care as long as its not out in the open. Thanks ladies for your advice and opinions as always.
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I kept a few things from my last relationship before I meant DH. It was a part of my life good or bad so I didn't want to toss it.
It's all in my mom's attic though - when we buy our own house I'll probably through it away then.....
franksbride
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Nope...everything's gone. I may have a few old photos somewhere, but it's not because I want them, I'm just too lazy to go looking for them to get rid of them.
Diane
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Nope.
AndrewsChick
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I actually still have my professional wedding album from my first marriage...but it is hidden away in my mothers attic....although I was very happy when I got divorced - it just felt strange to me to throw it out. Is that horrible of me?
