I came across a box with all my little keepsakes from my relationship with my ex. I'm the kind of person who saves everything-ticket stubs, playbills, pictures, etc. I threw almost all of it out because it really doesn't have any meaning anymore but I couldn't bring myself to throw out the pictures. I don't want to totally erase those years even though that relationship is over. Some of my best friends are in some of those pictures too. Should I just get rid of them? Do any of you keep that stuff or do you toss them when the realtionship ends? Just curious.
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about a year into my relationship with hubby, I found a picture of my ex of 4 years...I nearly barfed - couldnt believe I had wasted so much time with the A$$hole - when all along my soulmate was right there waiting for me to come to my senses!!
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I recently got rid of all my old pictures. I never look at them and didn't need to keep them anymore.
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I have lots of letters, pictures and gifts from old bf's. The letters and pictures I left at moms and now shes insisting I either throw them out or pick them up. I dont want them in my house although dh knows I still have them but I cant throw them out either.
I am not a picture thrower awayer either. I just cant do it. Its memories. The jewerly is probably the one thing I tend not to wear anymore because I think thats rude to my dh. Its hard though cause when I see his memories, I hate it! LOL
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I threw away everything! Including all picts. I just dont think its appropriate to keep them anymore, and I wouldnt want to hide them from my husband... He would find them anyway even if I tried. For him I know he keeps a box of pictures in his parents basement. I came across them when we were looking for a picture of his old car... It totally upsets me that he keeps them! Ever time we go there I want to just throw the whole box out! I'll let him make that decision though, but in the back of my mind it totally upsets me... What I am saying is I know how it feels to find these pictures of your husband hugging and kissing another girl. It does not feel good AT ALL.... How would he feel if he found pictures of you hugging and kissing another guy? The other thing is why would you keep them? Its not like you are going to pull them out 40 years from now and show your children!
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What I am saying is I know how it feels to find these pictures of your husband hugging and kissing another girl. It does not feel good AT ALL.... How would he feel if he found pictures of you hugging and kissing another guy?
It wouldn't upset me in the least.....we both have memento's and pictures of ex's.... We have actually looked at them together and laughed at each other! lol!
We all have had lives before we met our DH's and to pretend like none of that happened is just silly, IMO.
I certainly don't have any pictures of my ex's on the mantle, but I do not see any reason to throw them out.... My DH is not upset by them and I am not upset by his....
Every relationship is different though and you have to do what works for yours...if your DH would be upset or uncomfortable with you keeping them, then out of respect for him do what you have to do.....
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I threw everything out except the pictures. Those photos are from prom, graduation. . .things like that. I couldn't throw that stuff away just because my ex-boyfriend is in the photos as well. I also still have some jewelry that I wear on occasion (hey it's a shame not to wear a beautiful diamond/sapphire ring!) and my DH knows where it came from. All other jewelry I sold (double heart rings, anklets) when we were getting our wedding rings engraved.
It doesn't upset him at all to know that I wear it. I know he's got a couple photos from past chickies too laying around somewhere, and I'm fine with that. It's all a part of our past lives before we got together, and I don't see anything wrong with that.
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It wouldn't upset me in the least
We all have had lives before we met our DH's and to pretend like none of that happened is just silly, IMO.
I certainly don't have any pictures of my ex's on the mantle, but I do not see any reason to throw them out.... My DH is not upset by them and I am not upset by his....
Every relationship is different though and you have to do what works for yours...if your DH would be upset or uncomfortable with you keeping them, then out of respect for him do what you have to do.....
Totally agree.
Just don't look at them
AliKing
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Every relationship is different though and you have to do what works for yours...if your DH would be upset or uncomfortable with you keeping them, then out of respect for him do what you have to do.....
Very well put! and I totally agree. Thats what it is w/ our relationship. I cant even bring up an x-bf name with out him being upset, if it were pictures forget it! I would never hear the end of it! As you said, every relationship is different.
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Even though my hubby wouldn't necessarily mind...I didn't particularly like looking at old pics of him and other girls. So I threw mine out to be fair. Plus I want to create new memories with him and I always have the memories in my head.
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I didn't have an ex so not an issue, LOL!!!!!
He on the other hand did, and I threw them all away. BUH BYE!!!!!!
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I threw away everything! Including all picts. I just dont think its appropriate to keep them anymore, and I wouldnt want to hide them from my husband...
I agree, I threw everything out. Not to sound morbid, but think about when you leave this world...what do you want to be left of your life for others to see??
Honestly unless it's jewerly or functional items, sweaters...etc What are you holding on to?
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I responded to this yesterday, but I'll have you know that it must have been on my mind last night....cause I had a dream about my ex boyfriend last night!
I woke up really pissed too - he cheated on me
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I tossed everything out.
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One day when we were moving, I came across a card that my DH's ex gave to him and I read it. It was a beautiful card and it was actually given to him after they split up. But the words were so nice and I could tell that it meant a lot to him, so I did not throw it out although I was tempted. She is from his past and I cannot pretend there was no one ever before me - so if he wants to keep it, fine. We all keep nostalgic things. As long as he doesn't ever see or talk to her again, I'm ok with it!
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One day when we were moving, I came across a card that my DH's ex gave to him and I read it. It was a beautiful card and it was actually given to him after they split up. But the words were so nice and I could tell that it meant a lot to him, so I did not throw it out although I was tempted. She is from his past and I cannot pretend there was no one ever before me - so if he wants to keep it, fine. We all keep nostalgic things. As long as he doesn't ever see or talk to her again, I'm ok with it!
That was very mature and openminded of you.
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Although I did not look at my pictures of exes, I did throw them away. Sometimes I come across things and will junk it. I sold most of the jewelry but I have to admitt I had this one bf who gave me fantastic stuff that I did keep.
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Actually I dumped most of them away. I'm a very sentimental type of person who keeps almost everything (e.g. movie tickets, pictures, broadway playbills, etc.). However, since most of my ex were the dumper and broke my heart I refuse to keep any of their crap or anything sentimental from the past broken hearten relationships as I was the dumpee. It hurts to see this stuff as it brings back old memories that should stay in the back of a closet. I threw most of the stuff away as my DH doesn't want to see any stuff from my exes. I do want to erase them in my life as I was so hurt and felt so used like a tissue by them, thus why should I be reminded of them when it only causes tears and depression?
Why should my DH should want them in our new home? I want a new chapter in my life with my DH with OUR stuff not other's exes. There's no space in our apt. for old exes's sentimental stuff as it's all history. I want a new chapter in my life with DH and my stuff together. However, I kept a journal of all the past relationships which is the only recorded history from these exes that I plan to keep. It's time to move forward.
