Do you send thank you's

To people that came to the wedding but did not bring a gift? (like they said they 'forgot it' and would mail it but never did?)

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We sent thank you''s to everyone who came to the wedding, regardless of if they gave a gift or not. We were apprciative that they took the time out of their schedule to celebrate with us.

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There are so many posts on this topic. If you do a search, you will find them.

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In the end we only had one person that did this- he gave us a blank card- I mean nothing written in it at all- as if it just came from the card store. It was Frankie''s friend- I left it up to him! He was so pissed and he said- no, no thank you I never want to see him again- there is more behind it then just the card thing but that was the final straw.

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There has been many post on this topic, you will have to do what feels comfortable for you and DH.

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We're going through the same debate right now. Most people quote the '1 year threshold', which I personally believe is ludicous. A gift is a gesture of warm wishes to the new couple on their new marriage - if you attend the wedding, eat the food, dance to the music, you should send a gift - PROMPTLY.

I think it's probable that some of our guests may just have forgotten. We are going to send a 'Thank You' for attending our wedding card, and see whether it will jolt their memory.

This is so frustrating. It's not the money, it's the gesture. It's a sign of character. I have friends that survive with 2 young kids on one teacher's salary and they gave us a gift, one that they could afford.

I hope whomever reads this will remember the next time they attend someone's wedding. It's very disappointing to think that your friends don't value you enough to give you a gift for your wedding (it's not like that happens so often!) Enough...I'm sure this has been said/written countless times and there are still inconsiderate people out there.

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We sent TY's to everyone. We had one non-gifter. For 2 months after the wedding, she kept saying 'I'll bring it in, I'll bring it in' and never did. If you don't have any intention of doing that, then don't say it.

I can handle no gift but I don't understand not even bringing a card to congratulate us.

Personally, one time I did forget to bring the card with me to the wedding and it was in their mailbox before they came home from their honeymoon. I was so embarrassed about it too.

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Interesting question....

Can add two more questions to this topic?

Do you send a thank you to those people who sent a card but nothing in it? We had people invited from Europe, they sent an empty card, do they get a formal thank you?

Also,
What about if one of the checks you recieved bounces? Does that person get a thank you?

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I would probably send a note to the people overseas that couldn't make it with a picture and a note saying they were missed.

We sent the check bouncer the same TY as the no-gifter.

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wE HAD ONE NON GIFTER AND NO CARD. PLUS THEY RESPONDED 4 AND ONL Y 3 SHOWED. NO WAY will i send a thank you unless hubby insists.
but its more to it then that.

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The people that did not bring gifts probably didn't have it and I am ok with that- I am glad they came.

I just think if I didn't bring a gift (which I would never do) I would be embarrased to receive a thank you.

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I wasn't going to, but at the last second, I decided to. I'm glad I did. I feel like the bigger person.

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I got so mad, not for the non gifters but for the NON _CARDERS !!!!!!!!!

I understand about money issues, and I didn't plan a wedding to get gifts or make money, but for goodness sakes - NOT EVEN A CARD?????????

I was NOT going to send them a TY- but DH insists we do, so we'll be the bigger people...... whatever.......... I have a good mind to put(not that DH would ever allow such a thing) 'THANKS FOR YOUR GENEROUS GIFT OF NOT EVEN WISHING US WELL'
HA!!!!

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OMG-

How could people not even give you a card?

So rude! Unfortunately I WILL be the bigger person and send a thank you to all that attended the wedding whether or not I feel they deserve it.

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i had alot of non-gifters/non-carders. one was even in the wedding party! hello...

anyway, we decided that for people who were important family relatives (who's gifts that came after the shower and we thought were shower gifts, but may have been early wedding gifts) will get thank you's. however for friends no gift (or card)= no thank you. we ordered extras so that if they ever do send something then they can get a thank you.

my feeling on this is that my friends are mostly in the same financial situation as us. now we didn't pay for the whole wedding but we laid out a good chunk of change that we didn't really have for these people to have a good party to come to. then they came, ate $115 dinner, $17 worth of brunch and enjoyed my dj etc. and they brought me nothing? sorry no excuses are good enough for me, i don't have a lot of money either and i managed to throw the wedding so don't tell me you don't have $20-$50 to spare on us. please.

okay vent over