Do you think this is rude

So my mom informs that 3 of our wedding guest asked her if I sent out my thank you cards yet.
I actually just ordered them this weekend and will be sending them out right after the holidays.
Anyone think this is nervy or am I over reacting?

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i'd hate to think that they're actually looking for the thank you and not just making sure it didn't get lost in the shuffle of the holiday cards

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I think it's kind of annoying, since etiquette DOES say that you have a year to get them out.

But I wouldn't really put any more thought than that into it!

If it makes you feel better, I got married two months before you and still haven't ordered mine. I'm waiting for a 50% off coupon from shutterfly/snapfish/etc etc etc before I do. We have like 300 to order it adds up!

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i feel like its a little rude.

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i think it's a little rude only because it hasn't been THAT long ... if it was 10 months, i would totally understand.

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched

If it makes you feel better, I got married two months before you and still haven't ordered mine. I'm waiting for a 50% off coupon from shutterfly/snapfish/etc etc etc before I do. We have like 300 to order it adds up!

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When that coupon comes along - share the love!!!

I don't know if you just saw, but I'm currently writing out my BRIDAL SHOWER thank yous (shower was in July - whoopsie!)...

I've noticed people except wedding things ASAP - Where's your thank yous? When is your album ready? When is your video ready? RELAX PEOPLE!

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I was married the day after you and it took over 9 weeks for me to get my proofs. Then to go through them all decide on one and order them. I know how you are feeling. No one has asked yet but I am starting to feel bad myself. I plan on sending mine right after the holiday's too.

I really wouldn't give their comments much thought. It doesn't matter and/or change anything. They will get it when they get it. Don't sweat it.

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I think its fair to consider it rude but I'm all about giving people benefit of the doubt. I mean, bottom line - I would NEVER ask where my TY card is...but some people are obsessive/don't have better things to worry about. Don't take it personally.

This is coming from a girl who was called RUDE by her MIL for not having all of my TYs out yet. 75% in the mail already and I got marred OCTOBER 30th. It took A LOT out of me to shake her comment off.

Do what you can and get them in the mail when you can. Thats it and thats all. Some people are nuts.

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i've defintely wondered where a TY card was after 5 or 6 months because i've always heard the rule of thumb was you have 3 months after the wedding to get them out.

but regardless, i'd never actually say anything or ask about it. i think that's kinda tacky!

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Tell her to tell them you just got them and planned on sending them out after the holidays so they didn't get lost in the holiday shuffle. I was going to try and get mine out before Christmas but I'd rather wait until after the New Year.

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I think its rude, if someone told me that I would feel like they must think I have no manners or something...I got married in August and I am trying to send them out by the end of this week .

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I would say I did about 80% or even more just have a handful of miscellaneous ones left and need more stamps anyways...

One relative asked why we didnt cash their check... (their card was empty). still havent gotten the check...

and one friend of the family called my mom when i forgot to thank them in my first thank you card for their check (even though i cashed it.. meaning they knew when the money was taken out of the account and i got it..... they gave us a small gift as well, but my error in not marking the check on my thank you list oops) so i will be sending a SECOND thank you card to clarify....

anyways why are people asking for thank yous? the only time in the past i wondered was when i had an actual gift shipped to them and they didnt mention it and i was worried they didnt receive it and then they would think i didnt send a gift (let the paranoia spiral out of control)....

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My step MIL asked DH where her thank you note was a week after my birthday for the gift she gave me....MILs are silly like that.

With that said, you're getting them out soon and you can tell her that. I might also wonder where my TY was if your wedding was 4 months ago but thats just because I did mine quickly and so did a lot of my friends, I would NEVER ask about it. They'll all shut up when they get them after the holidays.

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Thanks for all the feedback ladies ! It pissed me off because It took 3 months for me to get my proofs back and another week or so to get the high res DVD. Then I had to look through and choose the pictures and order them. Also, one of the 3 people who asked about the TY cards came to my engagement party and shower without a gift so you think she wouldn't comment about anything related to etiquette!

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I would tell her to tell them that you have up to a year to send them out without guests thinking that you're ungrateful or rude! Then have ur mom explain the whole dealing w the photog/proof/picking/approving process. Then tell her to tell them to shove it. Esp the e-party non gifter.

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I do think that's rude because you don't need to explain to everyone that it took you 3 months to get your proofs. It's none of their business and they should just chill out and keep busy with all of those holiday cards they are getting in the mail for now.