kudos to the alpaca girls....... thank god someone restored sanity....
Sorry for bringing up this thread again , but I'd like to address the 800lb gorilla in the room... Who are we kidding???????
LI'er's are well to do from a national perspective, but on a whole, we're far from being independently wealthy. A good portion of the stat's being shot around definitely do not represent the general LI populous. DeBeers once coerced guys to spending 1 mo salary on a ring... and then upped it to 2 mo's. The average age of couples on this site is approx 26-28.... most only recently graduating school with a BA or possibly even more recently a Masters, and beginning a career, possibly with student loans to pay off. Some are still in school. now review the stats being thrown around.
It's just like starting a 'how much did you pay for your car?' thread, and starting at $20k or less... The majority of cars cost well under $25k, (national average is $27k for new, and $14k for used), so it intentionally develops a pecking order for those 'above the average', marginalizing the majority with their 'unimpressive' stats.
It's an interesting social phenomenon that as a group, we tend to raise the bar to a point that most cannot sustain, and then proceed to make pretend that it isn't THAT high.... I've noticed this not only with $$ stuff... it's also in other areas.... education, appearance, relationships...
this is all while we all know we don't need to attain XXXX for happiness and will be no happier if we are better off than our neighbors..... We also know that most of the prominent noble figures in major religions owned little, yet were rich in philosophy and morals.
sorry for the soliloquy...... guess I felt it necessary becuase I grew-up in a neighborhood that took 'keeping up with the jonses' a bit too seriously, and it has rubbed me the wrong way since I was a little kid.
Aug07OFCbride
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i wasnt surprised by how it got out of hand, i think we all saw it coming. what surprised me was that there were so MANY of those showy, rude comments. like i said, maybe im naive but i didnt realize so many ppl out there really placed so much importance on the size/price of their ring to the point that they compare like that and put others rings down. i guess bc i didnt look at it like that. whatever, to each his own. it just seemed gross to me.
Lisa982006
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I truly think if thats all these girls care about, then they shouldnt be getting married.
Money is the number one thing couples fight about and if they are being this materialistic BEFORE they are married, its only going to cause tension AFTER they are married.
Mich0621
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Maybe I am naive, but I thought the importance of the e-ring was due to its meaning and sentimentality, not the 4C's-sure, everyone is entitled to love their ring-but a pissing contest of who's ring is better? Why not who's fiance is better, which to me makes more sense! You marry the man, not the ring! And those women who do it the other way around-I usually see them in Supreme Court in the midst of an ugly divorce proceeding! But, hey, that's just me! I am glad I love my ring, but no ring in the world can be as amazing as the handsome man I will marry in 69 days (or my alpaca avatar)
