FRIDAY 1/15 NWQOTD!!!!

FRIDAY 1/15 NWQOTD!!!!

Holler ladies - it's FRIDAY!!!!

Today's QOTD comes from my DH and I talking about job changes and residence changes.

If you or DH had a really great career opportunity come up that would require you to be away from the other for an extended amount of time (at least a year), would you take it?

My answer is no way. I would never want to be away from my DH for that long. I get whiny and teary when he's away for one week. However, I guess our situation is a bit different in that my career track is completely effed up and I have nothing tying me to staying here. So if DH was presented with a great job opportunity elsewhere and he had to stay there for at least a year, I'd just go with him. I guess I am lucky in that regard - in not having anything to really be tied to here.

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no way, unless he was coming with me!

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i dont think we would or could

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Definitely not a year, we can be away from each other for a week thats about it-nothing longer

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No way! My relationship with DH is worth way more than a high paying job!

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no way! i would not let that happen .

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It depends. DH & I have been apart before while he was playing minor league baseball after college. I think the longest we went was 5 or 6 months. It is defin not easy, but we made it work. We were able to visit one another once & awhile. Not as often as I would have liked b/c he was so far away. We started our relationship while I was still away at college for an entire school year. I think it wasn't as hard b/c he was traveling all the time w/ the college team then. This past summer we were apart from June-Sept while DH was away for training. I saw him once in July for the fourth he had a three day weekend & flew home, and once in August I met him halfway. It wasn't easy by any means, I kept myself busy b/c I was leaving me job, packing, and figure out our move. I think if the opportunity was really great we could do it if we had to. Now being pregnant though I don't think I could have DH be away, or he would want to be away once DC is born. I think the most we could handle would be a few weeks if he had to train somewhere.

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no way! unless we can go with each other, i can't imagine a job/ salary worth being without my sweetie!

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Def not for a salary but if it was a once in a lifetime opportunity for one of us - I think there would be a way to make it work - like if I knew it would make him so happy and be able to pick his career after AND be home - or if I knew it was something that would have been a forever dream dream - then same thing - I think the sacrifice would be worth it - now this is assuming we could do occassional wknds holidays, and vacations together. .

to be clear I would not at ALL want this situation but I would be willing to sacrifice if he needed it in his heart (but NOT the walllet)

unless it was some ridiculously unreal thing where he made 15 million dollars in 1 year then maybe

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My friend is going through this right now and it is really hard on them :( Her husband is homesick and has been flying home every weekend from Georgia. I try to keep her occupied during the week!

I don't know if I could handle it! We joke about him going on Survivor and how we'd miss each other and that's only 45 days!!

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If it was something either of us really wanted and it would benefit our careers I think we would discuss it. I think we would both make a decision that benefited us as a couple. We each want the other to be happy.

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I would not do an extended period of time away. I don't have a career per say just a job (which will end in June) so I would go whereever DH was going.

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We did it for the year before we got married and it's why we got married... so we can be together. It's much better this way.

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Posted by MrsCastanedain09

I could never, I can't imagine anything work related being that amazing, but I'm not in love with my career.

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well I can definitely not imagine anything in my CURRENT career but let's say someone wanted to make me a movie star or something. . .

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i would be ok with it unless it was a year away with no visits. I went through this with my family growing up and while it was difficult we made it work cause it was for a better life for our family. I feel that sometime you need to sacrifice for the good of the long term.

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DH and I have talked about this recently...His business is based in the Bronx and I may have the opportunity to do a post doc in Italy. It would be for a year...because of his schedule DH could probably spend 4-6 months there but the rest of the time we would be apart or only see each other for short visits. It would also delay us TTC. I think I could do it for a year but longer then that would be too much.

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