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reallybehind! Posted: Oct 01, 2003 10:55 PM+

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Posted: Oct 01, 2003 10:55 PM

gift (or lack thereof) question

did anyone else have people attend their wedding, but not give them a gift? not even a card? we had several people do this, and i think it's incredibly rude and strange, especially since two of the couples are people who's weddings we went to this summer! i was just wondering if this has happened to others or if our friends are crazy.

Mary Posted: Oct 01, 2003 11:30 PM+

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Posted: Oct 01, 2003 11:30 PM

Re: gift (or lack thereof) question

Unfortunately, there's been a lot of posting about this recently. I bet you'll find a lot if you do a search. Personally, I know that etiquette says people have one year from the wedding to give a gift, but, come on, what are these people thinking?

ssdare Posted: Oct 02, 2003 12:32 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 12:32 AM

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Yes, I have several guest who attended and haven't yet sent anything. I've had a couple of gifts sent to us so far, so I will just continue to wait and see what comes in until our 1st anniversary. It is a little weird that 3 of my Bridesmaids haven't sent anything yet. We've been married 4 months now. Understandably there are those who are under financial constraints and can not give a gift but the ones I'm thinking about don't fall into that category. I guess some people think their presence is their gift!

NovemberSue Posted: Oct 02, 2003 06:45 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 06:45 AM

Re: gift (or lack thereof) question

We had a few people come to the wedding and reception and not even give us a card. We also had people not show up after they said they were coming so we had to pay for them anyway.

Some people are incredibly rude!

natasha Posted: Oct 02, 2003 06:52 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 06:52 AM

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I had a few too.

Scoop Posted: Oct 02, 2003 09:33 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 09:33 AM

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we had two couples who didn't even give a card....I wonder what people are thinking sometimes.

nrvbrd Posted: Oct 02, 2003 10:01 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 10:01 AM

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I had this as well. It is so annoying- these were the same people who lived at the bar all night and ate everything in sight.

Don't get me started on bounced checks.

p&a91203 Posted: Oct 02, 2003 10:59 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 10:59 AM

Re: gift (or lack thereof) question

Quite a few people have not even sent a card yet. A bit rude, in my opinion. Especially because some 2 of the people were in my bridal party!

Misty Posted: Oct 02, 2003 11:03 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 11:03 AM

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Yep....we had it to. One was a couple who's wedding we attended two weeks before our own.

Suzanne Posted: Oct 02, 2003 11:20 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 11:20 AM

Re: gift (or lack thereof) question

MY MOH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NuBride Posted: Oct 02, 2003 11:35 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 11:35 AM

Re: gift (or lack thereof) question

The persons that came to my wedding with NO gift, did not get a thank you card...The way I figure it was..thanks for what???

Come On' people should know better!

beachgirl13 Posted: Oct 02, 2003 01:14 PM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 01:14 PM

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I'm glad I'm not the only one. I have never heard of such rudeness. How do you go to a wedding and not even give a card??

julybride444 Posted: Oct 02, 2003 01:21 PM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2003 01:21 PM

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We had one person do that. She's a friend of mine though and was going through a tough time financially, and she told me she'd take us out to dinner as soon as she found a job...so I don't know if it counts. We were totally ok with it though.

StayandJohn Posted: Oct 03, 2003 09:53 AM+

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Posted: Oct 03, 2003 09:53 AM

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Betty Posted: Oct 03, 2003 09:56 AM+

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Posted: Oct 03, 2003 09:56 AM

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We had two of them. I can't imagine going to a wedding and not even giving a CARD (forget the gift)

octobergirl Posted: Oct 03, 2003 08:17 PM+

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Posted: Oct 03, 2003 08:17 PM

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Suzanne!!! Same here! My MOH had the nerve to show up, no gift, card or anything, and leave halfway through the party!

We also had a few others who came without anything....... and then there were the ones who RSVP'd 'yes' and didnt show, AND didn't leave a gift.

Some nerve!!!