Gifting

For those people who did not give you a gift at for your wedding, do you think it will change your outlook when it comes to sending them gifts in the future?

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i guess it would depend the reason they didnt give us a gift.

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No.

The only person we did not get a gift from (except for doggie luggage tags & a mixed tape of 80's songs) was my best friend from HS who travelled from Albuquerque. We were out of touch for several years and frankly, I was just happy to have her & her hubby there and she seemed absolutely thrilled to attend the RD and my wedding. Gift enough for me.


But again, apparently, compared to a lot of the newlyweds on the board, we were fortunate in the generousity & thoughfulness of our guests. If perhaps, we had not gotten cards or gifts from people, I would feel differently.

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Posted by janwinterbridejoy

i guess it would depend the reason they didnt give us a gift.

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edited to explain my point of view


i had a friend come to my wedding and show off her new designer dress and talk about her medical practice and not give a gift. dont get me wrong im happy that she came but she spent the night bragging about herself to my other friends about all her worldly possessions and then she didnt even give a gift hmmm. that just isnt right to me. she even told me she had a great time so what was her excuse for not even giving at least a card? yes i am going to think twice again when her birthday comes and she throws hints that she is collecting armani statues, it might sound shallow but thats how i feel. i just am thinking of myself and how i would react at someones wedding. i couldnt afford to give a gift i either wouldnt go or at least show up with a card and some well though out written words. she didnt have the money concerns so what was her excuse?

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There was only one person that didn't give us a gift. It happened to be one of my BM. I felt awkward at first, but now I don't. She is very clueless about etiquette and such, so I think she didn't realize. She probably though buying the dress and coming up to NY for my bachelorette party (she lives down South) was enough. And, honestly, it was - I love her and was so glad to have her there. So, when the time comes and she gets married, if I'm in the wedding and pay for all she paid for - I will still give her a gift.

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In two off the four who did not give gifts I would say no, because I understand the reasons, but the other two I'm perplexed and might be affected.

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for the people who have a good reason, i wouldn't hold it against them.

but there are those that HAVE no excuse and are going around making large purchases for themselves, so they will not be getting any gifts in the future!!!

and im annoyed at my cousin and his wife... i couldn't attend their wedding cuz they planned it in two months and live out of state.... so i sent a card with a check. I havenot received ANYTHING from them... not even a card!!!!

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I think it depends on the reason for them not giving me a gift. One of my non-gifters had to pay for air and hotel so I consider that her gift to me (her being here)
But to answer your question I'd like to think that I will at least acknowledge the wedding with a card and a small gift.

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to some yes, espcially when they kept bringing it up and lying about it - it felt like they were rubbbing our faces in it b saying 'oh, we forgot your gift again!...(and yes, they can afford it too!)

but we were happy to have them to shar ein our day....it takes a little bit though!