Girls, please help me out????

I am going to 2 weddings next weekend one is upstate and the other is at the garden city hotel.
My question is how much is normal to give to my friend who is getting married at the garden city hotel? should i give her the same amount she gave me 4 months ago? Or do i give her more? Is the garden city hotel expensive to get married at? i think so but i am not sure. i really want to do the right thing, we work together.TIA

Thanks ladies! I really want to do the right thing for this girl. I just don't know how expensive the GCH is. I will probably just give her what she gave me.

My husband is in the wedding we have Fri. and we have to stay overnight because its upstate. Then sat. is my friends wedding. (talk about expensive weekend.)

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Posted by nferrandi

It's not your problem if she choose an expensive hall. I would just give back what you got.

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I agree with this. This is mine and my DH rule of thumb as well now that we got married. If they pick the more expensive hall that is there reasoning.

As for the upstate one it would not be weird if you gave a little less then you got if you are staying at a hotel for the wedding. Otherwise i would give what you got.

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Posted by kbeana24

I think its good to give what you got

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I agree.

I normally give back what I got. For a close friend (who is broke) we gave him a LOT more. But, we could never equate all of the things he does to help us.

for one of DH's cousins who cost us money on our wedding day because of his stupidity, we 'took it out' of his gift.

Give what you got.

I may get flamed for this, but it is not your responsibility to make up for the fact that she had to have an expensive wedding at the GCH.

I would give what you can afford for both weddings. IMO I think that if you can afford to go to a wedding and travel and pay for a hotel that is your choice and it shouldn't affect the amt you give.

For the GCH it should work the same way. It doesn't matter where she has her wedding.

Give what you can afford and if you need a barometer use what she gave to you. You may also want to consider that if they gave what they could afford it could be higher or lower than what you can afford.

I hope I didn't confuse things

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Posted by Blu-ize

I would give what you can afford for both weddings. IMO I think that if you can afford to go to a wedding and travel and pay for a hotel that is your choice and it shouldn't affect the amt you give.

For the GCH it should work the same way. It doesn't matter where she has her wedding.

Give what you can afford and if you need a barometer use what she gave to you. You may also want to consider that if they gave what they could afford it could be higher or lower than what you can afford.

I hope I didn't confuse things

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i agree. give what u could afford. at our wedding 2 weeks ago, people gave us the same amount we gave th em.

Wow, thanks for all the responses everyone!
The girl who is getting married at the GCH is very well off. They own a nice house already and want to upgrade to a even bigger house. My DH and I probably will just give her what she gave to us.

I just hate when she always talks about how much their hall is costing them. It always makes me think 'Wow, How much is it costing her?'