Handling a No show guest

I had 2 no shows at my reception. One is a coworker. I have to go back to work tomorrow, and I am not sure how to handle/act with this person. Has anyone had this situation, and how did you handle it? I am thinking about just saying we missed him and leave it at that. Thoughts?

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I think your idea is good. It is hard to not mention it and go on from there. I would somehow mention that you tried to take the dinner off that day and couldnt so they know you lost the money. Diana, we had some no shows and people also calling the week of (after having my head count in two weeks prior). They would call and say whatever the reason is and 'just take me off the list.' What is wrong with these people? Some people think nothing of not showing up. I think your way is the best way to go. What else could you say??

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I think saying waht you want to say is fine. I had some no shows, or guests just not come. It is sad, because they dont understand that you paid good money for their meals.
I would just say, We missed you on Saturday, or whenenver your your dat was. Let us know what they say??? We want to know.

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For the people that did not show and acted like nothing happened I act right a long with them...there is no excuse that you could give me that could be suffice, unles you are calling me from the grave. This was not a backyard BBQ that you can just change your mind about The nerve..some people are so inconsiderate...they will not be getting another invite from me to anything. If they take my invite to my wedding so lightly what will make me think they will take anything else seriously. One girl emailed me saying she has to call me to say why she did not attend...I am still waiting on the call. One of my mother's co-worker said she was in the emergency room...she told my mother she is sorry...she got us a gift...so she said...we are still waiting on its delivery

You can choose to say something or you can wait and see if they approach you with some bull crap excuse

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We had one couple not show and I'm still pissed about it. They never called to explain. It wasn't until WE contacted them that they gave us a lame excuse about their daughter having a stomach flu(as if that's a reason not to call?)

How are people so rude? They don't call, they don't show up, they don't send a card/gift - all they did was cost me $300 and lots of aggrevation!

(sorry for venting)

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had one no show from work
I didnt say anything
just hi and bye
a week later he apologized and said it was a long story and gave us a gift

I would say nothing.... and if this person never apologizes or sends you a gift, well
then u know the type of person they are!!!

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I had one coworker that called another guest to say that she had food poisoning...when I got back to work, she came up to me right away saying how sorry she was, could she see pictures...and that she had a gift...still no gift...


the worst was that we went back to DH's aunt's house for some drinks after the wedding...and someone had the nerve to go there...after he didn't show up at the wedding!!! said he FORGOT!!! WHat?? I don't ever want to look at him again...but DH has seen him since...

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Our 'worst' no-show was a cousin of hubby's father. Didn't really care about his presence or gift, but he left his 80 year old aunt waiting at her house for him to pick her up for the wedding. She had to call a cab and was almost late for the church. Claimed he was sick (a standard excuse of his when he doesn't show for family events) and only called her right before he was supposed to pick her up. Later told hubby's brother he was sending a gift, but of course we've never heard anything from him.

Re: Handling a No show guest -Update

Well, I went back to work today and apparently this coworker has received a lot of heat from other coworkers for not showing up. Many of the other people weren't even invited but they know how this guy can be, and from what I hear, were not too kind about his no show status.

At lunch he came up to me and gave me a kiss on the cheek and some excuse about a sinus headache and he had a gift for me in his office. Why he didn't bring it to me I have no clue, but am I suppose to go to HIM and ASK for the gift??? I think not!

So I told my husband the story, and he said he didn't want to give him his favor from the wedding. I said absolutely not, since the favor in my opinion was a gift to thank people who made the effort to attend.

So that is where it is at. I have to let it go, although I will not make any effort towards him in the future.

Re: Handling a No show guest -Update

People who do not show-up do not get a favor. I would only send a favor to someone who sent a gift and RSVPd No from the beginning.
This guy is a jerk- just write him out of your life.

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It's so unfortunate that these things happen! I had the same couple rsvp yes to both my engagement party AND the wedding and not show up!
She didn't show up for the engagement party because she and her boyfriend got into a car accident the night before and were in the emergency room all night - (ok - I believed it). She left me a message that morning but I didnt' get it until after the party...fine.
As for the wedding.... she left me a message that day (during the reception) that she had just gotten home from the hospital - she had surgery.... hmm ya don't know you're not gonna be able to come?
Just rude and disrespectful....
You've got to just let it be - nothing you can do - just keep it in the back of your mind....

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I had a serious case of a stomach virus for my bosses daughters bat mitzvah - it was the first time I was honestly sick and didn't just use that as an excuse to miss something! It was a big affair and I felt horrible, I dropped off a card with the same amt. of money I would have given had a gone, with a coworker to bring to the party for me. Hopefully he believed me...but this was about 6 months ago and no thank you yet.