DH and I started dating when we were 15. The first summer we were together, we fought A LOT! He always wanted to hang out with his friends and I always wanted to be with HIM! One day, he promised me that we would spend the whole day together and we went to the 'feast' at our church. When we got there ALL of his friends were there and it became clear that he TOLD them to meet us there. When i confronted him about it, he asked me to take a walk.
He said he didn't want to go out with me anymore. He told me YEARS later that he didn't mean it he just thought if he broke up with me, he could go hang out with his friends for the night and it would be better in the morning.
Well, his plan didn't work. I was heart broken. I cried so hard I made myself throw up and he had to CARRY ME two blocks to my house. Then I walked in my house and WAILED and ran to my mom and told her EVERYTHING with him right there so he felt obligated to stay with me. My MOM tucked me in and made me tea and he sat there awkwardly holding my hand while my mom tried really hard not to break his neck.
Then for the next few weeks, my mom fed me soup and pastina and I didn't get out of bed. My friends came over and got me italian ices and tried to make me feel better. It was HORRIBLE!
grr typing this out made me so mad at him again LOL I was so dramatic!
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I throw the SOB out once a month but he never seems to leave. I once started packing his stuff for him. Sure, by packing I mean throwing his clothes out on the patio WITH MIL WATCHING, but its all relative.
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I throw the SOB out once a month but he never seems to leave. I once started packing his stuff for him. Sure, by packing I mean throwing his clothes out on the patio WITH MIL WATCHING, but its all relative.
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I throw the SOB out once a month but he never seems to leave. I once started packing his stuff for him. Sure, by packing I mean throwing his clothes out on the patio WITH MIL WATCHING, but its all relative.
DEAD serious. Threw ALL this shirts out on the porch. Hangers & all. It was f*cking hilarious. My poor MIL didn't say a WORD either. I think she was scared.
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I throw the SOB out once a month but he never seems to leave. I once started packing his stuff for him. Sure, by packing I mean throwing his clothes out on the patio WITH MIL WATCHING, but its all relative.
DEAD serious. Threw ALL this shirts out on the porch. Hangers & all. It was f*cking hilarious. My poor MIL didn't say a WORD either. I think she was scared.
omg these stories are all so funny and relative glad we can all laugh about them now- i attempted to try the pretend pack thing unfortunately we both were living alone with no family or friends around for me to even pretend to go - we never broke up but we have hit some bumpy roads that cleared up for the better
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We never actually broke up, but we came very close twice.
The first time was in our freshman year of college -- him and I had fallen into the 'friend' rutt. We spent so much time together at school, work, and student government that we forgot that we were boyfriend and girlfriend. We had lost the flirtation, the love, everything... We almost broke up one night but we realized what was happening. We took some time to nurture our relationship, went on a romantic vacation, and we've never had that problem since.
The second time was 3 years ago when our friend OD'd on cocaine. DH was about to leave for training in the Army for 2 months. We went to the wake and our friend's gf was leaning over the casket trying to hug him...it was the saddest thing ever! We came home from the wake and DH told me he wanted to break up. All I could think about was 'omg, why would you do this to me on the night of Doug's wake?!' The next morning he called me and said that he didnt really want to break up...he was just getting scared that something would happen to him in the Army and he would leave me alone -- and he imagined me doing what Doug's gf did at the wake
ChrisnAmy
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No, We never broke up!
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We broke up twice. I guess the third time is a charm!!!!
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i never broke up with DH, we did have our fights in the later stages of our relationship, it was all for the best!
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Did we break up?! That what got him to finally get his mind right and realize he better marry me b/c I was moving on.
DH and I lived in VA up until i moved back in January of 2006. I had gone to college out there and ended up staying after we got together. After one particular fight and feeling like our relationship was going no where, I called my parents and they were there the following week to pack me up and move back to NY! I was tired of 'giving away the milk for free' and not being appreciated.....I think he thought I was trying to call his bluff but I was really over it. Left him with the only couches and the cat.
We still kept in contact b/c even w/ our issues and all he was my best friend. He dated other girls and I dated other guys. I actually got pretty serious with one but he just wasn't DH. He kinda got serious with a girl he was dating, but they never connected like we did. We used to call and complain about dating etc. and once I broke up with the guy, a month later, in December of 2006, DH was proposing with the words 'I'm tired of getting the milk for free,i'm ready to buy the cow' Sometimes breaking up can be the best thing if a relationship is stagnant.
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nope, never
We had have our fair share of fights, but over 6 years together and still going strong!
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Oh yes, many times. We dated for the first time when I was 15 & he was 16. We dated for a month & I broke up with him because 'I could never see myself dating him long term'
We got back together about a year later when I was 16 & we were together for another year when I got pregnant with our daugher. He didn't handle that so well & he broke up with me on & off for the first 4 or 5 months of my pregnancy . However, of all the time we spent broken up, there was only one time he actually stayed away from me, and that lasted about 2 weeks. The rest of the time we still spent just about everyday together even if we were technically 'broken up'. We got back together for good a few months before our daughter was born.
We were young when we met & started dating & the surprise of getting pregnant with our daughter was rough, especially for DH, and he later told me that he broke up with me so much because in his young mind, if he wasn't dating me, the pressure of reality was off. I figure, if our love & relationship made it through all of that when we were just teenagers, we've got something good going
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i think we broke up twice for an hour (both times i 'broke' up with him)- we had stupid fights and we were both very young (i started dating him when i was 17)
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i love hearing how different relationships work. some of the stuff DH and I say/do to each other. . .well let's just say that some people would NEVER put up with it but I can dish it out just as bad!
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well we didnt really have time (lol) FH proposed after 4 months and our wedding was 8 months later.... So when we got married we were together for 1 yr - no time for breaks
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We never actually broke up, but we came very close twice.
The first time was in our freshman year of college -- him and I had fallen into the 'friend' rutt. We spent so much time together at school, work, and student government that we forgot that we were boyfriend and girlfriend. We had lost the flirtation, the love, everything... We almost broke up one night but we realized what was happening. We took some time to nurture our relationship, went on a romantic vacation, and we've never had that problem since.
The second time was 3 years ago when our friend OD'd on cocaine. DH was about to leave for training in the Army for 2 months. We went to the wake and our friend's gf was leaning over the casket trying to hug him...it was the saddest thing ever! We came home from the wake and DH told me he wanted to break up. All I could think about was 'omg, why would you do this to me on the night of Doug's wake?!' The next morning he called me and said that he didnt really want to break up...he was just getting scared that something would happen to him in the Army and he would leave me alone -- and he imagined me doing what Doug's gf did at the wake
OMG that story almost made me tear up! Your poor DH didnt wanna put you through that so he almost sacrificed your relationship. You have one sweet man there!
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Did we break up?! That what got him to finally get his mind right and realize he better marry me b/c I was moving on.
DH and I lived in VA up until i moved back in January of 2006. I had gone to college out there and ended up staying after we got together. After one particular fight and feeling like our relationship was going no where, I called my parents and they were there the following week to pack me up and move back to NY! I was tired of 'giving away the milk for free' and not being appreciated.....I think he thought I was trying to call his bluff but I was really over it. Left him with the only couches and the cat.
We still kept in contact b/c even w/ our issues and all he was my best friend. He dated other girls and I dated other guys. I actually got pretty serious with one but he just wasn't DH. He kinda got serious with a girl he was dating, but they never connected like we did. We used to call and complain about dating etc. and once I broke up with the guy, a month later, in December of 2006, DH was proposing with the words 'I'm tired of getting the milk for free,i'm ready to buy the cow' Sometimes breaking up can be the best thing if a relationship is stagnant.
OMG Thats like straight out of a movie!!!! What he said was sooo romantic!!
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Did we break up?! That what got him to finally get his mind right and realize he better marry me b/c I was moving on.
i LOVE THIS!
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Once. About 6 months after we started dating. He was going through a rough time and I didn't nderstand what was behind it or know how to handle it....he basically needed a break, for himself and some personal/family issues that were pretty deep, and I didn't 'get it'. So I pushed more, and that just made it worse. When he got himself together and was better able to explain what he was going through, I understood and was able to help him through it. We didn't communicate for about a month but as corny as it sounds that month apart gave our relationship the strength it has today.
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We never actually broke up, but we came very close twice.
The first time was in our freshman year of college -- him and I had fallen into the 'friend' rutt. We spent so much time together at school, work, and student government that we forgot that we were boyfriend and girlfriend. We had lost the flirtation, the love, everything... We almost broke up one night but we realized what was happening. We took some time to nurture our relationship, went on a romantic vacation, and we've never had that problem since.
The second time was 3 years ago when our friend OD'd on cocaine. DH was about to leave for training in the Army for 2 months. We went to the wake and our friend's gf was leaning over the casket trying to hug him...it was the saddest thing ever! We came home from the wake and DH told me he wanted to break up. All I could think about was 'omg, why would you do this to me on the night of Doug's wake?!' The next morning he called me and said that he didnt really want to break up...he was just getting scared that something would happen to him in the Army and he would leave me alone -- and he imagined me doing what Doug's gf did at the wake
OMG that story almost made me tear up! Your poor DH didnt wanna put you through that so he almost sacrificed your relationship. You have one sweet man there!
ITA!
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DH and I have been together 7 and a half years and never broken up. Tilde, you were so young I dont even think that counts as breaking up!! I think its so sweet you guys have been together so long!!! What a love story! DH and I have had our HUGE blowouts where I grab a bag and pretend to pack and he stops me and tell me not to leave (which I wasnt going to anyway) We've also threatened to end it, knowing we would never. We've definitely had rough patches where we would fight constantly but we always come around and things get better.
I am I sick I think these kind of fights are sexy
I swear its like something out of a movie. SO dramatic. Except things dont usually end with him ripping off my clothes and ravaging me. Im usually so effin pissed I dont want him anywhere near me!
