heavy thinking for a monday morning....

i think i have posted this topic on the NW board once before, but im going to do it again b/c i'm dealing with the issue ONCE AGAIN!!

so DH randomly decided to go to california this weekend... he lived out there for 3 years so he has friends out there... he is leaving friday morning and coming home on the red eye sunday - so will be landing in NY around 5am on monday

so yet again, i am a huge baby and REALLY REALLY REALLY hate being home alone overnight... ESP for the whole weekend. when DH asked me if i minded him going, i really dont, but my un-realistic fear took over me and began freaking out. i know its totally something that i need to get the F over, but i cant. and i feel like SUCH a baby.

the whole weekend i was making comments here and there about DH going away and leaving me alone when i'm really scared. i dont want DH not to go, b/c then obviously, he will be really mad... and i dont care that he's going, the fear of being alone like over takes me and i have a serious freak out over it.

im spending the night @ my friend's house sat nite and i think i'm going to recruit some of my not married girlfriends to sleep over friday night... that only leaves sunday night that i need to suck it up and deal... i'm getting sick to my stomach just THINKING about being alone overnight sunday

someone tell me i'm not crazy!!!

your not crazy!!! I hate when DH is no home at night it would bother me too! i am getting use to it over time, it gets easier, but i'm still always uneasy

i think you should talk to your DH and tell him how your feeling, its good to communicate how your feeling....

Can you go with hom to Cali??

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Posted by emomma17

I would probably feel the same way you are feeling, but why not go with him?? If it is a weekend trip can't you go??

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b/c its a 'boys weekend' his friend's rented a cabin and they are going skiing at bear mountain for the weekend... so i really dont want to intrude on a boys weekend, plus we dont have the money to spend on 2 plane tickets.... DH got like $700 back from a car accident so thats the only reason he's going b/c we have some extra money at the moment

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Posted by TM2008

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Posted by emomma17

I would probably feel the same way you are feeling, but why not go with him?? If it is a weekend trip can't you go??

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b/c its a 'boys weekend' his friend's rented a cabin and they are going skiing at bear mountain for the weekend... so i really dont want to intrude on a boys weekend, plus we dont have the money to spend on 2 plane tickets.... DH got like $700 back from a car accident so thats the only reason he's going b/c we have some extra money at the moment

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Ahh ok, so than keep busy with your friends!! DH and I have never really spent more than a day apart and I find that hard, lol so if I were in your situation I would be bummed out he was going too and I am like you I know I can't help it sometimes and know it isn't a big deal but some other part of me comes out and I make it a big deal knowing very well I shouldn't. I would probably be throwing digs at him too. Keep yourself busy with friends for the weekend!!

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Posted by RadiantBride

I understand bc I hate sleeping in my house alone as well. Can you go with him? If not I would see if you can sleep over a relative's house on Sunday night. Like that you are not really alone at any point during the weekend. This is horrible but once when DH was away after triple checking that all the doors and windows were locked i took a nyquil and fell asleep while watching a movie. I hate all the 'sounds' I hear in a quiet apartment when I am home alone.

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ME TOO! i always hear all these sounds and i freakkk out!!

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Posted by emomma17


Ahh ok, so than keep busy with your friends!! DH and I have never really spent more than a day apart and I find that hard, lol so if I were in your situation I would be bummed out he was going too and I am like you I know I can't help it sometimes and know it isn't a big deal but some other part of me comes out and I make it a big deal knowing very well I shouldn't. I would probably be throwing digs at him too. Keep yourself busy with friends for the weekend!!

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YES! exactly!!!

i really hate it and it makes me wannt get preggo so i can use that as an excuse why he should never spend another weekend away lol

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Posted by TM2008

YES! exactly!!!

i really hate it and it makes me wannt get preggo so i can use that as an excuse why he should never spend another weekend away lol

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Not only that, but with a baby you wont be home alone.

Awwww! My DH works the overnight shift so 4-nights a week I am alone! I hated it at first but I got used to it b/c I don't have a choice. Our dog sleeps with me and he is a Pitt Bull, so I know no one is getting inside our house and gonna live to tell the tale

The worst part for me is, the 3 nights a week that DH IS home, he is wide awake all night so he stays down in the basement and doesn't come up to bed! He does it b/c he doesn't want to keep me up, which I appreciate, but I think MAYBE I get to share the bed with my husband a couple of times a MONTH! I hate it!

I would say definitely try and get some friends to sleep over. When you go to sleep, maybe leave a few lights on through-out the house, and even the TV. That is what I do! FM if you need to talk!

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Posted by RisiLeigh

Awwww! My DH works the overnight shift so 4-nights a week I am alone! I hated it at first but I got used to it b/c I don't have a choice. Our dog sleeps with me and he is a Pitt Bull, so I know no one is getting inside our house and gonna live to tell the tale

The worst part for me is, the 3 nights a week that DH IS home, he is wide awake all night so he stays down in the basement and doesn't come up to bed! He does it b/c he doesn't want to keep me up, which I appreciate, but I think MAYBE I get to share the bed with my husband a couple of times a MONTH! I hate it!

I would say definitely try and get some friends to sleep over. When you go to sleep, maybe leave a few lights on through-out the house, and even the TV. That is what I do! FM if you need to talk!

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aww thanks!!

yeah i def plan on leaving the TV on... there is something comforting about that lol.

i keep telling myself that its going to be okay, people are going to sleep over etc etc... but im still freaking out undercover

I hate when DH isn't home either, so I feel your pain. He has been gone Sunday through Friday since we got back from our huggymoon and it doesn't get any easier sleeping alone

We'll all be here for you Sunday night to chat with you!!!

Your not crazy, but if he is going to be traveling overnight for work or there are going to be frquent nights you are alone, you need to find a way to get yourself over it. Because It seems like you are sort of stressed out about it when it comes up. And that can't be good!

That being said, I hate when DH isn't home at night. he works late nights sometimes and I can never fall asleep until he is home. And when I know he wont be home, I sleep, but I wake up to the slightest noises! he may be going on tour, so I def have to get over that or I'll never have a good nights sleep!!!

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Posted by yelley77


We'll all be here for you Sunday night to chat with you!!!

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aww thanks yelley!!!

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Posted by TM2008

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Posted by emomma17


Ahh ok, so than keep busy with your friends!! DH and I have never really spent more than a day apart and I find that hard, lol so if I were in your situation I would be bummed out he was going too and I am like you I know I can't help it sometimes and know it isn't a big deal but some other part of me comes out and I make it a big deal knowing very well I shouldn't. I would probably be throwing digs at him too. Keep yourself busy with friends for the weekend!!

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YES! exactly!!!

i really hate it and it makes me wannt get preggo so i can use that as an excuse why he should never spend another weekend away lol

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haha funny you said that! We were just talking about that this weekend and we have a wedding in July in Mexico, if I get pregnant soon I won't be able to fly by that time and I was like you are so not going!!!! lol IF he does go, i was like you have to fly out the night before and come back the day after the wedding! I am so mean!!!

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Posted by emomma17


haha funny you said that! We were just talking about that this weekend and we have a wedding in July in Mexico, if I get pregnant soon I won't be able to fly by that time and I was like you are so not going!!!! lol IF he does go, i was like you have to fly out the night before and come back the day after the wedding! I am so mean!!!

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LOL i totally would have said the same thing!!!