heavy thinking for a monday morning....

Original post by TommysWife08

Dec 08, 2008 09:52 AM

i think i have posted this topic on the NW board once before, but im going to do it again b/c i'm dealing with the issue ONCE AGAIN!!

so DH randomly decided to go to california this weekend... he lived out there for 3 years so he has friends out there... he is leaving friday morning and coming home on the red eye sunday - so will be landing in NY around 5am on monday

so yet again, i am a huge baby and REALLY REALLY REALLY hate being home alone overnight... ESP for the whole weekend. when DH asked me if i minded him going, i really dont, but my un-realistic fear took over me and began freaking out. i know its totally something that i need to get the F over, but i cant. and i feel like SUCH a baby.

the whole weekend i was making comments here and there about DH going away and leaving me alone when i'm really scared. i dont want DH not to go, b/c then obviously, he will be really mad... and i dont care that he's going, the fear of being alone like over takes me and i have a serious freak out over it.

im spending the night @ my friend's house sat nite and i think i'm going to recruit some of my not married girlfriends to sleep over friday night... that only leaves sunday night that i need to suck it up and deal... i'm getting sick to my stomach just THINKING about being alone overnight sunday

someone tell me i'm not crazy!!!

TommysWife08 Posted: Dec 08, 2008 10:55 AM

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Posted by FinallyEngaged

You are sooo not crazy. DH is a hunter and this year we were on our honeymoon for most of hunting season, so he wanted to go this past weekend for the end of season, but i freaked out at the thought of being in the house alone and he winded up not going. i felt guilty about it, but i am just not ready to be in our home alone...

the last time DH wanted to go away for the weekend, i freaked out as well and he winded up not going.. but he was SOOO pissed and would not let me live it down.

this time around, he asked again before making flight plans - i dont want to not let him go places for something that im going to have to get over eventually but its really f-ing hard!!!!

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Dec 08, 2008 11:02 AM

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I feel the same way!!!!! I;m always scared of being left alone! Can't you go with him?

TommysWife08 Posted: Dec 08, 2008 11:03 AM

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Posted by Mrs. V 2008

I feel the same way!!!!! I;m always scared of being left alone! Can't you go with him?

unfortunatly no, we dont have the $$ for 2 plane tix and its a 'boys weekend'

Autumn08 Posted: Dec 08, 2008 11:06 AM

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I'm not afraid but I hate not being with DH. Like tonight I leave for work at 7pm and I'm so happy his office party is after that so he will be home and I can see him before work. But Wednesday I will not get a chance to see him before I go to work and I don't like that.

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Dec 08, 2008 11:08 AM

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Posted by TM2008

Posted by Mrs. V 2008

I feel the same way!!!!! I;m always scared of being left alone! Can't you go with him?

unfortunatly no, we dont have the $$ for 2 plane tix and its a 'boys weekend'

aw that stinks But I know exactly how you feel! you are not alone! When DH went on his bachelor party I stayed at my mom's house for the weekend!!!

Espo22 Posted: Dec 08, 2008 12:33 PM

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hmmm interesting, I guess I can understand why alot of people dont like being home alone. I was used to it so dont mind bc of that. Even as a teenager my parents would go to AC for the weekend or something like that and I'd be home alone, I used to love it lol. Then years ago my mom would work in the hamptons for months and stay there, and I would be home alone for months and again I liked it lol. Now I rarely sleep alone, I think Dh maybe stayed at a friends house when he was drinking about 2x. I do miss him though when hes not sleeping next to me bc i am very used to it now but I have no problems sleeping alone in the house. HOWEVER, if i lived somewhere that was more isolated I would be afraid.