How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

Original post by suven

Sep 22, 2004 05:59 PM

Never mind a gift...I don't even want to go there.

I am talking about people who didn't even send a card.

I have a couple family members who declined the wedding, but didn't even send a card. Obviously, I can't stop 'being family'.

but, what about 'friends'? I have this one 'friend' who I had even vented to because none of my coworkers gave me a card when I got married. (I mentioned it to her because we used to work together and she knows all of these people)...well, she never sent a card, either.

When I mentioned to her that I was still sad that my colleagues didn't even send a card, she said, 'Oh, I'm sorry that I didn't send one yet. But, in the Jewish faith, we don't believe in gift giving ahead of time...like baby showers- we don't give gifts until after the baby is born.'

Well, I am familiar with the faith because of my 2 BEST FRIENDS, and I have never heard anything about not acknowledging a marriage-neither have either of them...

again, never mind the gift- I am p!ssed at the people who couldn't even send a card...

any other thoughts...

mrswask Posted: Sep 23, 2004 05:34 PM

Re: How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

I have a work friend who couldn't come - so although it would be nice to send a card - you don't have to. But, she TWICE has asked me for my address so she could send a gift - her words, not mine. She still hasn't - why say anything? It just makes you look stupid.
One of my cousins did this too!

kpny622 Posted: Sep 23, 2004 06:15 PM

Re: How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

Posted by eroxgirl

Posted by kpny622

I don't mind the people that didn't come to the wedding and didn't send cards. What I do mind is the people that CAME to the wedding and didn't give us one! I still can't believe that actually happened!

ditto! My INLAWS didn't give us a card! (or a gift but we won't go there...)

MINE EITHER! WE ARE 'SNUBBED BY THE INLAWS' TWINS!

mv1003 Posted: Sep 24, 2004 11:17 AM

Re: How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

Oh man....

I had a few co-workers that wouldn't come, but I've always thought it was a privledge to be invited to someone's wedding. Some of them didn't even send a card...not even well wishes in the response card!!! One of them was my supervisor!!! (Who I introduced her to her boyfriend that she now lives with!)

After being really offended, I realized that these people are not worth my time to even think about. They are classless and tacky! I have let it go thinking, what goes around comes around!

Now that I no longer work there, I'm glad I do not have a fake card from their snotty Arse's...

As far as 2 other of DH's 'friends' who ASKED to come... they came w/ no card- we've just pulled the ax on them. They're no friends of ours- classless and tacky.

I'm sorry this happened to you too.

Janice Posted: Sep 24, 2004 11:31 AM

Re: How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

I got really stiffed by tons of DH's family, I let it go because I knew DH was completely embarrassed by this behavior. BIL eloped, and I sent him a card with 200. BIL did not give a thing, neither did DH's aunts or cousins. It was hard not to talk about them, but it would only bring DH down, and I always say I am glad we had such a good turn out on both sides of the church. YOu have to let it all go