How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

Re: How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

We had a lot of people who couldn't attend the wedding due to a busy summer weekend! Some we got cards, and even gifts from, others, nothing. Quite a few of those people I am really shocked and hurt. Esp since I went to one of their son's Bar Mitzvah a couple of months before our wedding and gave a nice check - they could have sent a card!

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Re: How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

You get upset at first but then you just have to let it go. With everything that frustrated me about the planning and the etiquette--lack of rsvps, no shows who don't contact you, not sending a card or email, etc., I've taken to stride that I will never do that to anyone else. You realize that a token of acknowledgement goes very far.

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Re: How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

we had a few friends not give cards and it didn't really bother us...they were BP members. It's upsetting to not even get a card to acknowledge your nuptials....shame on them!

One of my cousins who said 'I can't wait, I wouldn't miss your wedding for anything' was like 2 hours LATE!!!! And another one was dressed so frumpy and didn't even bother doing her hair or make up!......upsetting

I just blow it off, I don't really talk to them anyways

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I don't mind the people that didn't come to the wedding and didn't send cards. What I do mind is the people that CAME to the wedding and didn't give us one! I still can't believe that actually happened!

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Posted by swags1016


We were just invited to a wedding at a caterering hall that I have ALWAYS wanted to go to but the person getting married didn't attend our wedding for the lamest excuse I have EVER heard, but sent us $75 so that is exactly what we did.

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You're better than me, see my evil side would have made me go to the wedding and give a gift of $75



ETA - to answer the question we were very hurt by some of the people that didn't even give a card - it's like everyone says you really get to know people/friends/family when you have a wedding.

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I would be sad and disappointed in my friends and co-workers that didn't give a card but I would feel that they obviously don't have good manners and would blow it off. But I would not go out of my way ever again for them for anything. Be courteous and polite but that's about it.

Please don't let things like this bother you. It's the people that do care that matter in our lives

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Re: How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

Re: How do you feel toward the people who did not even send a card?

I was kind of aggravated. We had a GM who had no money (or so he said), so we paid for his hotel and trip. When it came to writing the thank you's, we noticed there wasn't even a card from him....we were hurt that he felt we weren't even worth the card. It kind of irked us, too when we found out he went to the carnival that was near the hotel after the wedding and blew a whole bunch of money on the games that they had.

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The Jewish excuse does not fly- Some people don't give a baby gift until after the baby is born (it might be bad luck and invite the evil eye. But that is not the case with weddings (especally after the fact).

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I still have 8 cousins who have not even replied, never mind sent a card or congratulations.

I still don't know what to do about it & I will see at least 3 of them in November.

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I had a few people actually show up and not bringa gift or a card!!! I was shocked!! We even had a few people just not show up, or ever acknowledge it!!! I was mad at first..I guess I secretly think of less of these people..thankfully they are not my friends or family..they are distant friends to Dh..but Im still secretly mad at them when I see them!

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I need to let things go. I'm still annoyed at my two cousins who came and brought dates, and no gift or card. One of my cousin's dates was sucking down Heinekens at our rehearsal dinner, when only domestic beer was included in our pp price, so we had to pay for them. Their parents (my aunt and uncle) gave us $100 and signed their names to their card. And my cousin with the Heineken-loving boyfriend drives a Mercedes.

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