how do you girls do it??

Original post by Jumbles

Jun 10, 2008 04:29 PM

I am only married 2 weeks and so far i have taken on so many new jobs ... clean the apartment, cook dinner for when DH gets home , laundrey ...plus work my full time job ...does all of this new stuff take long to get used to? cause i am exausted

SylvieB Posted: Jun 11, 2008 12:13 PM

Re: how do you girls do it??

We don't have specific chores, but now that we're in the house DH helps a lot more around the house. I cut him some slack b/c his work day is so much longer than mine. I do all of the cooking, b/c I like to cook and, well, he can't boil water & I also do the bills. I also have 2 older children (9 & 15) who have their chores to do. But, even with that, I still feel overwhelmed at times.

I would definetly have a talk w/ him now b/c after you have children it will only get worse.

carolinebr Posted: Jun 11, 2008 12:17 PM

Re: how do you girls do it??

How do I do it?

Um, I tell him I am too tired for sex from all the cleaning & cooking. That usually makes him start helping out.

carolinebr Posted: Jun 11, 2008 12:18 PM

Re: how do you girls do it??

Posted by SylvieB

I would definetly have a talk w/ him now b/c after you have children it will only get worse.

Agreed. Nip this in the bud NOW. Or you will wind up being a live in babysitter, housekeeper & chef. Then you'll really start getting resentful.

MattandTricia07 Posted: Jun 11, 2008 12:54 PM

Re: how do you girls do it??

It takes a little getting used to!

I didn't do any 'chores' or anything at my parents' house- I was spoiled. But I guess you get used to it and you think to yourself that if you or your DH don't do it- there is no mom or dad or cleaning lady to clean it all up.

There are days when I'm exhausted and I don't want to do a thing either- DH will help out-he likes to cook and he will vaccuum our one carpeted. He's also great with taking out the garbage and making the bed everyday. He picks up after me and I do all the major cleaning and laundry.

You will find a middle ground where you both help out- try not to do it all yourself and ask for help- cause if you don't you;ll just end up mad at him.

Good luck!