How do you handle your DH getting emails or letters or phone calls from old flames?

Original post by N.Y.bride

Jan 12, 2006 06:22 AM

Do you really not care?
Does it bother you a little bit?
Does it bother you a lot?

Do you talk to any of your ex's?

How would you feel if that ex was his ex-fiance and she left her husband for a VERY short time and slept with your DH (before you met)(She had children and her husband still doesnt know she was ever with anyone else)

Can you tell Im going through it. I havent said a word to him. Just wanted to get some opinions. I trust Anthony, but feel SOME women are just trouble. At the end of her email she said 'I love you.' I'm just having some mixed feelings on this one. O.k. I wont lie.. I dont like it. I know how some women can be. I know he can handle himself, but I feel this woman emailing my husband and telling him I love you is kind of disrespectful to me. Anyone agree? BTW He hasnt contacted her back that I know of

girlygrl33 Posted: Jan 15, 2006 12:04 PM

Re: How do you handle your DH getting emails or letters or phone calls from old flames?

Say what!!!!!

Oh boy, I would be flipping, but I couldnt be mad at DH cause he has no control over her, but I would def have emailed her back, as HIS WIFE and told her how unfortunate it is that she has forgotton what the sacrament of marriage means and how if she thought anything could ever happen b/t her and my DH she is sadly mistaken. I would keep it clean in case she happens to get a hold of your DH and shows him- but I would def tell my husband that I emailed her as well and show him so he allready knows. It shouldnt be a touchy subject if the feelings are no longer there! Good Luck!

JLP Posted: Jan 16, 2006 10:01 PM

Re: How do you handle your DH getting emails or letters or phone calls from old flames?

Hard to add anything to this --- these terrific ladies have said it all. BUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your DH should say something to his mother about her haning Christmas pics of her kids on the fridge. Completely disrespectful to you, him and the sanctity of your union. She needs to be told to cut it out. Period. Thank you, drive thru.

aidamarie Posted: Jan 17, 2006 10:05 PM

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Dh doesnt have any exs that contact him, we have been together 10 years, he was 20 when i met him so he didnt really haev any serious GFs, But if he got an email like that saying I love you, I would have replied myself.
Definately mentioning he is now married and we are expecting a baby so please use your time for something other then emailing my husband!!!

mable Posted: Jan 18, 2006 12:26 AM

Re: How do you handle your DH getting emails or letters or phone calls from old flames?

See that would bother me a bit..
My husband got a Christmas Card from his ex.. she got married back in June and there had been no contact.. there was no return address just love nancy.. it would not bother me if she addressed me on it too but do not be sneaky about it because i am sure her husband would not be happy about it.. I also found out she has been calling his ex roomate to ask about him..
you had your chance you broke up w/ him you got rearried butt out or include me on your mail..