How does your family handle..?

You being married?

It seems, now more than ever, that my mother is actually JELLOUS of my husband!!!! It doesn't even make sence to me!!!! Yesterday I came over because my fathers birthday was during the week and I just wanted to visit him, but my DH was not able to come because he was working. My mom constantly talked about how HAPPY she was that I was there ALONE!
Than she proceeded to ask me how come when I come over for bbqs with DH I sit next to HIM and not HER!!!!! She actually wants me to have him sit all alone at MY family's BBQ so that I can be sitting with her!!! Than she makes references how SHE and my DAD are my family and he is not taking me away.

Is that normal? does anyone else have something like that?

Well, in general i find my mother is jealous of me and my sisters in little ways. The mother/daughter relationship can be really complicated. But she is ultimately happy i am married (and actually, i think we have gotten closer since i have been married. She seems almost relieved that she doesn't have to worry about me being ok - that i have someone to take care of me now. It's nice.)

It sounds like you mom is nervous about your DH 'Taking' you away from her. To a degree I think this feeling is normal, although how she is going about expressing it is not appropriate if it makes you uncomfortable.

As much as i love my family, my DH and I are making it very clear that our marriage means that WE have a family now to take care of - and as a family, we come first. I'm not so into his mother and sister being super-clingy, and i am slowly weaning him from their obsessive phonecalls and clinginess.

Good Luck - and stand firm - your DH does come first!