I am about to cancel my wedding...please help!

Hi ladies,
I really need your help.
Last night was my e-party at Chateau Briand.
Overall, it was awful for fh and I . I have a list of things that happened making me truly rethink my wedding planned for april of ’08 at the deserversky mansion. The venue we chose is a fairytale venue and I must say this has NOTHING to do with them.
The party was supposed to be about 65-70 people and while I had that number 12 people who rsvp’d didn’t show but a few people brought others w/o asking me so it ended up working out in the end. The fact that people can just not show, not call baffles me!
E-party / Chateau Briand complaints:
1. I walked into cocktail hour and the singer was only playing the piano. I inquired as to why and was told by the bridal attendant and maître’d that there was no stand for the mic so she could just play the piano. Argh… I asked if they had a stand and 20 minutes later they came out w/ one for her. Why couldn’t they just get it before?
2. During cocktail hour we were supposed to have 12 passed hor’ derves –we had 3 on one tray and they were cold, mind you fh and I ate off the tray first! They only passed them once not throughout cocktail hour.
3. The maitre’d kept bothering me the ENTIRE night asking all sorts of questions, pulling me away from guests (everyone noticied how much this was upsetting me)
4. We walked in the room for dinner before the guests to take a look and noticed that the hall decided to display my giftbags (that I had specifically asked they to keep in the back til I requested them privately!) for my bridal party and attendants INSTEAD of giving me a salad bar and antipasta station!!!!!!!!!! Are you kidding?? I said something to the maitre’d and he was just acting like I was asking for something absurd, not something stated in my contract. After 15 minutes they fixed it.
5. We had a buffet on two sides of the floor and they only put out 2 servers to man the buffet stations! There was a ridiculous line at dinner time and I had to stop mingling and go and ask for them to put more staff out after people complained!
6. Dessert: We had something called the serendipity ( a choc. Chip cookie filled w/ ice cream and dipped in chocolate) guess what? It was cut in half, we were told upfront that everyone receives a full cookie.

There’s more but I’m so tired. ?
Fh and I didn’t have fun at all last night. The night was ruined by the hall and it really bothers me that halls can take your money, your dreams and not be held accountable because they make you pay in full upfront! So what recourse do I have?
Last night made us rethink the whole wedding we have planned. Now all we want is to have our church ceremony and have a dinner at a place like the seventh street café for all of our guests. We are also just thinking about going away at Christmas time and eloping on an island. The reception is all about your guests and you plan, break your arse, and in the end the night goes by so quickly and there is no guarantee that you will even enjoy yourself.
Please be honest. If you had it to do all over again, what would you change? Would you do it smaller scale, invite less people, elope, save, and spend on something else like a house? Was it really worth it for a 5 hour reception? I can’t stop crying, this is awful. I told my mom and she thinks we should just have the big wedding… FH and I think otherwise.

Please fm me privately if you need to..

Advice please…
Xoxoxo,
k