I can't believe DH said this...

that he wished we got married in a church instead of the reception site

There was never any discussion about getting married in a church, religion plays no part in our life. If I mentioned a church wedding (which was not important to me at all) he would say No way, lightening would stike if I went in a church.

Now here he is after 18 months of planning and 10 months of being married he sort of wished we had a church wedding.

Part of me feels bad since he must have wanted this but how am I supposed to know if he doesn't say anything. Part me is angry if something was important to him, why not say something?

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Don't feel bad! How would you have known?

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You can always do a renewal ceremony in a church. Did he say why the change of heart all of a sudden??

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Tell him your crystal ball was at the shop, so you had no idea he felt that way.

Shamma is right. If you both want to, you can always have a vow renewal in church.

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I think a renewal on your anniversary would be nice...

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I know we can do that. I guess I think it's weird that after all this time he says he wished we had a church wedding.

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it is odd...but he probably wanted to let you have the wedding of your dreams...

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I also think a renewal will be in order in your future.

I know how you feel because my DH pulled a similar stunt but during the wedding planning in reverse....drove me nuts.

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I can see how frustrated you must be. If that were me, I'd feel bad too, but more angry than anything! I agree - he should have spoken up if that's what he wanted.

Niecey has a good idea though!

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Talking about a renewal is how it came up so that's already in the works. Believe it or not DH misses wedding planning.

Teri, I am more angry.

I almost feel like he gave up something for the wedding that in all honesty was not too important to me. As long as we got married that day, I didnt care if it was in a church, the reception hall, the beach, etc. Oh, well we cant re-do it. If he wants a church wedding we'll plan it for the renewal.

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I Think you got a good guy who values his religious beliefs. and I think its kinda sweet that he wanted you to have the wedding of your dreams like Erica said...

I hope he'll be content with the renewal being in church.

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that's what's so funny - I didnt care where it was

But Anna you are 100% right that I got a good guy!!

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are you thinking of a renewal this year?

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A renewal in the Church sounds nice. You can have a little dinner celebration with your immediate family after that your DH can plan!

Rob didn't care .. it was more his family who cared. I was mixed at first and then decided I wanted a garden wedding. Latley, I've been questioning my Catholic faith, but let's not get into that.

to you!

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The vow renewal sounds lovely...

Perhaps he didn't tell you at first because he knew a lot of the wedding is about the bride and wanted you to be happy...either way the vow renewal will be so special for both of you!!!

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well this is sort of along the same veins but my DH tells me he would have prefered if we had a backyard wedding. Like a BBQ. After all the palnning and all the spending I wish he could be a bit more appreciative of how lucky we were to have such a great party.

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We are planning on doing the renewel for our 5 year anniversary. Would it be too much to wear my gown again?

Catch - I would have KILLED for a bbq reception but DH was nervous about the weather. Too bad too, it was absolutely beautiful on our wedding day.