I know a lot of you probably think I am crazy but I was wondering if there was anyone else out there that feels like I do. I really want to stop working and be at home. Our house needs so much work and both of our parents are older and could really use some help. I have worked so hard to get ahead in the business world but I really want a break. I want to be able to cook great dinners and really clean the house and garden the lawn. I want to be able to spend time with my inlaws and help them with stuff they can no longer do. I want to be able to spend more time with my dad and take him to the places he can't go to anymore because he doesn't drive. Am I the only one?
patti08
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I know a lot of you probably think I am crazy but I was wondering if there was anyone else out there that feels like I do. I really want to stop working and be at home. Our house needs so much work and both of our parents are older and could really use some help. I have worked so hard to get ahead in the business world but I really want a break. I want to be able to cook great dinners and really clean the house and garden the lawn. I want to be able to spend time with my inlaws and help them with stuff they can no longer do. I want to be able to spend more time with my dad and take him to the places he can't go to anymore because he doesn't drive. Am I the only one?
You are not the only one, I'd do that in a second if we could afford it - maybe after we buy a house. When we have kids I will stay home for sure. The one thing I'd add to what you wrote is that I'd want to do all of that to make things easier for my husband, to be there to lessen his responsibilities at home. I really want support him as no one else would and will gladly take over all of the cooking, cleaning and yardwork when we have kids to give him quality time with the family when he's not working.
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Although it sounds like a great set up, I dont think I would do it either. 070502 has a much different situation however and in her case or one like it I would be much more willing to consider it. With her husbands schedule varing and him getting deployed at times, I too would want to maximize my time with him. My DH works 8-6 generally and is home on the weekends. although at times I know I could find a ton of stuff to fill my time, I think there would be a lot of time with little to do except sit and wait until it was time to cook or time to go here or there. Although my dad and ILs are retired and I could go by them and help out, again there is only so much to do. And they have their own lives and things to do that they dont need me for. It would be wonderful to not be on a timeline and always have all the laundry done and the floors gleaming. BUt the lack of challenging interaction would leave me bored. It was a different time in the days of 'Donna Reed' when a good portion of women stay home, now, pretty much ever adult and most mothers I know are working, so I think after awhile life would be mundane!
If anything, I would work part time. that to me would be a perfect combo between staying home to 'tend the house' and challenging myself to grow professionally. I worked very hard for my education and I dont want to just have it to fall back upon, I want to continue my education, just in a different setting.
And I agree, being a housewife and being a SAHM are COMPLETELY different.
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Maybe you could take a year (or longer) and try being a housewife. Then you would know for sure if it's what you want. If it is, great. If not, plenty of people take sabbaticals, especially to take care of ailing loved ones, so it wouldn't be severely detrimental to your finding a new job.
It sounds to me like you are thinking about this not because you hate to work, but because you've realized that some things should come before work. If this is what you and your DH want, do it!!
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I would love to! Since I'm working such a screwy schedule right now (thank God tonight is my last night), I've gotten a taste of what it's like to be home during the day and I love it! I thought that I hated cleaning, but really I hate coming home after a day of work and THEN having to clean. I don't mind food shopping and I'm having a good time cooking new things. After a day of work we tend to make whatever's quickest and now that I'm home during the day I've been making actual meals, and I really like it. Unfortunately, it's not something we could afford to do, but in a perfect world...
btrflygrl
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YES!! ME!!! I did a thread on this a long time ago on NWR and I can get the link for you if you'd like. I SO want that...and now I work PT and make dinner every night and I LOVE IT
antoinette
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yes I do very much want this. I wish that it was an option for all women this day and age ( damn womens movement- jk ) my mom was able to stay at home with her children and not have to worry about money. I do plan on staying home during the day with the baby but I know we will be struggling and I will still have to work at night part time somewhere- probably busting my butt but its worth it to me. I dont want to put my son in daycare and even if I did I would be literally working to pay the daycare center-- doesnt makemuch sense to me...
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I hope to be a SAHM someday. Right now it isn't economically possible for us, but hopefully within 5 years it will be. I love cooking, cleaning and doing womenly things too. My mom was a SAHM and still is even though, I am almost 30. So hopefully soon I will be able to give up my career and begin a new one as a 'domestic engineer'
shamrock12472
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Ah, I want to thank you all for being so sweet and supportive. Unfortunately, it probably isn't an option right now and I don't even know it I would enjoy it but I have this 'nesting' insticnt that I didn't have before and this real desire to take care of my dh and home. It is all so strange for me because I am highly educated and have worked so hard to get ahead in my career that I thought it was weird to feel this way. You guys made me feel SO much better. And to 070502, congratulations on your baby boy on the way!
