If you had no shows the day of your wedding have you heard from them since?

AllJoy Posted: Oct 21, 2007 01:48 PM

If you had no shows the day of your wedding have you heard from them since?

We had 3 no shows the day of our wedding. One of them was my brother's friend & his wife. They responded yes and never showed. They never mentioned anything to my brother since the wedding and my brother felt it wasn't important enough to him to bring it up. (I don't get it, they are 45 yrs old, not 16) The other no show was my uncle who is elderly and suffers from Social Anxiety Disorder. He did send us a card w/$50.

Brian and Marie Posted: Oct 21, 2007 01:49 PM

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We had quite a few no shows who haven't called or contacted us!!!!!

PattyK Posted: Oct 21, 2007 01:52 PM

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DH's Aunt & Uncle, called because his uncle was sick and they sent a check. The other was FIL's business partner. He called FIL, but never called us or even sent a card.

AllJoy Posted: Oct 21, 2007 01:55 PM

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Posted by Brian and Marie

We had quite a few no shows who haven't called or contacted us!!!!!

Wow, are any of them people you are close with or talk to on a regular basis?

rfilipofornow Posted: Oct 21, 2007 01:56 PM

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we had one no-show, one of my 'good' friends from HS and i haven't heard from him

AllJoy Posted: Oct 21, 2007 01:56 PM

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Posted by PattyK

DH's Aunt & Uncle, called because his uncle was sick and they sent a check. The other was FIL's business partner. He called FIL, but never called us or even sent a card.

Patty, you can certainly understand about your uncle being ill, but what about FIL's business partner, did he at least give FIL an excuse?

Brian and Marie Posted: Oct 21, 2007 01:58 PM

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Posted by AllJoy

Posted by Brian and Marie

We had quite a few no shows who haven't called or contacted us!!!!!

Wow, are any of them people you are close with or talk to on a regular basis?

Not really! Out of the no shows who never conhtacted us were 1) our neighbor- You can tell he was avoiding us, but when we finally ran into him I confronted him and he said he was sick- BULLSH*T!!! 2) DH's cousins who never personally contacted us but had other family members inform us (they've still never contacted us themselves) 3) 2 of DH's friends (still haven't heard from them, and I;ll be damned if we're going to contact them 1st)

PattyK Posted: Oct 21, 2007 01:59 PM

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Posted by AllJoy

Posted by PattyK

DH's Aunt & Uncle, called because his uncle was sick and they sent a check. The other was FIL's business partner. He called FIL, but never called us or even sent a card.

Patty, you can certainly understand about your uncle being ill, but what about FIL's business partner, did he at least give FIL an excuse?

I totally understand about his aunt & uncle and we are going to visit them when we get our proofs so they can see what they missed. As for FIL's business partner, he said that his car broke down.

LitBallerinaGirl Posted: Oct 21, 2007 02:02 PM

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we did have some no shows but they were from Paul's side of the family and I don't know if his family has heard from them. We never asked. I don't even know who they are.

Drv0716 Posted: Oct 21, 2007 02:19 PM

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Yes

One was a friend of DH's from work. After we got home from our honemoon he asked her what the hell happened & she had some stupid story

One was the wife of one of DHs friends, but she's totally excused because she had a baby like a week before our wedding.

The other couple nobody has heard from. They were friends of my FIL that he insisted we invite. How freakin' rude!

PegaLega Posted: Oct 21, 2007 02:29 PM

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We had a few no shoes and have talked to them since-they really did have good excuses. Now my uncle and his wife who didnt come I still havent talked to

Lools Posted: Oct 21, 2007 03:41 PM

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we had 5 no shows... The guests are long time family friends I've known my whole life. We were pissed, but my mom was the most pissed. She even had a hard time enjoying the reception because she knew they weren't there and was soooooooo ticked off, especially knowing how much $ DH and I were paying for their no show a$$es. We've heard from one couple who apologized but didn't give an excuse or a gift. The other 3 - a mother and her 2 daughters - haven't contacted us.
RUDE and INCONSIDERATE!

portjeffbride Posted: Oct 21, 2007 03:52 PM

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my cousin..... he emailed saying why he wasn't coming (the night before), but I have heard nothing since.

I'm fairly irritated since his family didn't return the RSVP card (I emailed 6 weeks after the deadline, since the final headcount was due soon), he only RSVP'ed for himself in response to that email (his family just moved to WI.... I understand its difficult to bring the kids, but I was pretty offended that the excuse was 'my wife doesn't want to take them out of school for a couple days')

they also never commented on the shower invitation sent to them....

I never received a gift or card for either the shower or the wedding....

this is supposed to be pretty close family

ligirlz Posted: Oct 21, 2007 03:56 PM

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I don't know if you would call this no shows but getting a call a day before the wedding saying 10 of my mom's cousins (3 sisters and families who all were sent separate invites) aren't coming when they originally were the first ones to send back the RSVP with a big yes. They gave some lame excuse. That pissed me off and to top it off they sent in cheap check of $200 total for all. I had to redo the seating chart ASAP to give to the hall.

Brian and Marie Posted: Oct 21, 2007 03:57 PM

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Posted by ligirlz

I don't know if you would call this no shows but getting a call a day before the wedding saying 10 of my mom's cousins (3 sisters and families who all were sent separate invites) aren't coming when they originally were the first ones to send back the RSVP with a big yes. They gave some lame excuse. That pissed me off and to top it off they sent in cheap check of $200 total for all. I had to redo the seating chart ASAP to give to the hall.

OMG- Thats INSANE!!! So sorry you had to deal with that!

LB and DC Posted: Oct 21, 2007 04:18 PM

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the only no-shows we had were two 'and guests' because DH's sister and my friend couldn't find anyone to bring. DH's sister i kind of understand b/c she is immature and irresponsible but my friend, who was invited 'and guest' was told he didn't HAVE to bring anyone, but insisted that he would... and showed up alone. lovely. i still haven't heard from him. (and yes, his gift was for one, not two).

MushesGirl Posted: Oct 21, 2007 08:57 PM

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Posted by Brian and Marie

Posted by ligirlz

I don't know if you would call this no shows but getting a call a day before the wedding saying 10 of my mom's cousins (3 sisters and families who all were sent separate invites) aren't coming when they originally were the first ones to send back the RSVP with a big yes. They gave some lame excuse. That pissed me off and to top it off they sent in cheap check of $200 total for all. I had to redo the seating chart ASAP to give to the hall.

OMG- Thats INSANE!!! So sorry you had to deal with that!

yes that is totally insane i agree. i wouldve been loosing my damn hair and so would my mom.

MushesGirl Posted: Oct 21, 2007 09:00 PM

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one of my no shows was a former co-worker who i didnt get an rsvp from, i call her she says 'i never got the invite' but said she would come, so i sent another invite, she rsvps yes then doesnt show but the rest of the co workers did. i'm like where is she?? never heard from her, no gift.

one couple who are dh's friends called the hall the day of to leave a msg they couldnt attend, never heard from them, no gift.

another couple dh's good friend from childhood had to cancel that week because of work, which is fine we understood, but also no gift.