i'm really NOT a brat but

Bklyngrl Posted: Sep 20, 2006 05:14 PM

i'm really NOT a brat but

can't help it (i'm sure i'll get over this) but must I send a thank you to guests that did not even give us a congratulatory card??

stephanielyse Posted: Sep 20, 2006 05:36 PM

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The good news is you're allowed to grumble as much as you'd like while you do it!

elisabeth71506 Posted: Sep 20, 2006 08:32 PM

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im not - if they didnt bring a card - no thank you - esp after i gave them a generous gift when they got married
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BRod-Cheng Posted: Sep 20, 2006 10:19 PM

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I don't think this is being bratty at all.

CLMon7906 Posted: Sep 21, 2006 08:59 AM

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if they say something to you, just reply with 'oh, well we wrote out all the thank yous based on the cards we received. i guess you didn't send one.'

ok...but in reality, i'd send them one anyway...i'm too nice.

cindyandkevin Posted: Sep 21, 2006 10:38 AM

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IMO yes, send them a TY for coming and sharing in your joy. You invited them to your wedding, there was no fine print about having to bring a gift. I know it's kinda implied so I'm not excusing it, but I would be the bigger person and send them a short TY.

Bklyngrl Posted: Sep 21, 2006 10:45 AM

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yes i know i'll prob cave and do it too but right now i'm not. thanks for letting me vent. i'm supposed to have lunch with one of them tomorrow and she's a friend/coworker of mine - i can barely look at her - i'm that boggled about this.

this is the type of person who insists on making a big to-do about her bday every year, picks ridiculous expensive places to have it etc... (our treat since its her bday) and then doesn't acknowledge a good friend's wedding AND she asked and did bring a guest too. i just don't get it. i am so tempted to say something but won't - what could i say?

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Sep 21, 2006 11:01 AM

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I did. I am still happy they were there with us to celebrate.
Although I won't lie that i did grumble about not recieving anything from these people (including the best man )

ETS: I also hoped by sending the TY that it would 'remind' these people about their gifts - especially the one who has told me a million times he forgot it, but has it, and the one whose check bounced - but so far I guess my 'reminder' hasn't worked.

Kerrycec Posted: Sep 21, 2006 11:16 AM

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suck it up and send it out. Was it wrong what they did, YES, but think of it this was for 39 cents, you will keep the peace

Ladybug63 Posted: Sep 22, 2006 11:24 AM

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bethnsul2000 Posted: Sep 23, 2006 02:31 PM

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I am lucky...we got a gift or card from everyone (who showed up)...only one person we invited didn't give anything, but they had ordered something which is supposed to be coming through Fedex...so really we did get something from them too...I wouldn't send a thank you, but that is just me...