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Instead of hand-writing thank you text....
LauraPete Posted: Oct 27, 2004 11:25 PM+
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Instead of hand-writing thank you text....

is it okay to have it pre-written when the cards are made? Or is that not personal enough?.....
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princess99 Posted: Oct 28, 2004 07:04 AM+
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Re: Instead of hand-writing thank you text....

This is just my opinion and do not flame me for this- but I was a receiver of one of these from a wedding I went to last year and was kind of annoyed. It was very impersonal. My thought was if I had the time to give such a thoughtful gift and they had the time to open it, then the classy thing to do was to write out a thank you note. It did not need to be a lengthy book- just thanking us for being there and sharing in there special day etc.
This is just my opinion and what I would do.
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didianita Posted: Oct 28, 2004 08:09 AM+
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Re: Instead of hand-writing thank you text....

People appreciate the time you took to handwrite a personal message, it takes longer but is better.
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suven Posted: Oct 28, 2004 08:16 AM+
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Re: Instead of hand-writing thank you text....

My opinion is that you should definitely write something...

When DH's cousin got married 2 years ago, it was a *rushed* wedding. A month or so later, they sent out the thank you's that the photographer gave them- the pre-printed card with a wallet photo. The only thing they wrote was 'Love, Mr. and Mrs. Smith'

We thought that was so tacky. 2 weeks after that, I got an invite to her baby shower. Needless to say, I was too busy to attend...
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VickiC Posted: Oct 28, 2004 08:18 AM+
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Posted: Oct 28, 2004 08:18 AM bride-minus.png

Re: Instead of hand-writing thank you text....

Write them out yourself. I was also the receiver of a labeled standard thank you. I was a little annoyed too even though the bride wrote 'thanks' in her handwriting and signed their own name.
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Donna Posted: Oct 28, 2004 10:03 AM+
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Re: Instead of hand-writing thank you text....

My vote is for handwritten notes too. IMO most of your guests gave you generous gifts and most probably wrote something special in your card. It may take a little longer but a personal thank you is always the way to go.

As some other ladies said I also have received pre-printed thank yous and it annoys me. Makes me feel like they took my check then just put a label/stamp on an envelope and mailed it.

And I can't stand when you leave a party and the preprinted thank you is attached to the favor
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Sonicstef Posted: Oct 28, 2004 10:13 AM+
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Re: Instead of hand-writing thank you text....

I think everyone on this board knows just how much work writing meaningful thank you notes are and it can seem daunting... but you have to consider that the time and effort and money that your guests gave to you to celebrate with you is worth a few moments writing a personalized thank you.

When i get one without a note I am highly offended.

Its telling me 'I have time to cash your check but not enough time to thank you for giving your hard earned money to me'
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oneday Posted: Oct 28, 2004 10:22 AM+
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Re: Instead of hand-writing thank you text....


Posted by Sonicstef

Its telling me 'I have time to cash your check but not enough time to thank you for giving your hard earned money to me'



Totally agree with this statement! I think it really is kind of rude to not even spend the time to write something out. I don't know that I'd be 'offended' exactly but it would bother me.
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May2004 Posted: Oct 28, 2004 10:25 AM+
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Re: Instead of hand-writing thank you text....

I wrote a little message inside all of them and I wrote something extra special in our parents cards, grandma and bridal party cards.

JMO, I do not think all the guests keep the thank you, just maybe the ones that are very close to you and your families.

ETA:
I received a thank you without a written message and it didn't bother me.
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LauraPete Posted: Oct 28, 2004 11:54 PM+
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Posted: Oct 28, 2004 11:54 PM bride-minus.png

Re: Instead of hand-writing thank you text....

Thank you girls for your honest opinions. I tend to agree. When I went to the copy shop to have the cards made they asked me what text I wanted written inside. I was like 'people write text inside?' I have never received one pre-written like that but I can name a handful of my in-laws that would be offended and would not hide it. Just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy. Thanks!
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