Invite Help

Ok I got my invites last night!!!
What is the PROPER order of stuffing?

I mean from top to bottom. What goes on top, what goes under that etc?
Tissue paper goes where?

I feel like a complete a$$

I already told you how to do this in the email did you not pay attention, after how I painstakingly took my time to respond

Sorry Jenn, but I have forgotten... I can't believe it, but I have.

Seeing that you are all brides, I have a few questions if you all can help me please. Between Oheka, Vanderbilt Mansion, Louis XI, Carlyle and Russo's on the Bay, which would you all recommend?

Thank you

The places you have mention are varied in style, but...
Oheka, BY FAR.

Shamma, I was jsut telling John I lost the email at work (deleted it in error ) and I didn't want to bother you to type it all again, plus I didn't know what to do with this tissue paper

I will send it to you again. Ok You are forgiven.

I just sent you a FM check it.

Shamma, can you FM me too for the order of the invites stuffing?

I know that invite is on the bottom, then tissue paper then little envelope with reception card on top (all placed so that you can read the text upright). But where do hotel and reception site direction cards go? That is something I have no clue about!

Thank you

Jennbaby, want to laugh? Last night we get, not one, but two invitations to his cousin's wedding! I felt bad that she wasted an invitation -- but the funny part was that she didn't put the same things inside each one. One had directions to the church and reception, the other just had hotel listings and reception directions.

If I remember correctly, the tissue goes on top of the invitation. Look in your box that the invitations came in, there should be a listing of how it goes. I know how to do it in front of me, I'm just spazzing out in the order right now! Sorry!

The order is:

The invite face up, the tissue is optional, the tissue's use was for when the invite used to be written in ink, so to blot any ink that was still there the tissue was laid on the invite.

You then have your response envelope, under the flap of the response envelope you have your response card

On top of that you have your reception card, on top of that you can put whatever other info you have, ie direction cards, hotel cards etc.

Place all these items in the inner envelope, seal with a nice seal. we used silver roses to seal our inner envelopes.

Place all items in your outer envelope, take to post office to get weighed, buy postage. Remember if you have Int'l invites to get those checked separately.

From the Cranes website:

Order of Enclosures

For the most part, wedding invitations are assembled in size order. The invitation itself is first. The enclosure cards are stacked on top of the invitations, not inside. The reception card is placed on top of the invitation. Then the reply envelope is placed face down on the reception card. The reply card is slipped face up beneath the flap of the reply envelope. These are the most frequently used enclosures. Any other enclosures are added face up in size order (usually at-home card, direction card, accommodation card, pew card, etc.).

The single-fold invitation and its enclosures are placed into the inside envelope with the fold of the invitation at the bottom of the envelope and the engraving facing the back of the envelope. You can tell whether or not you stuffed the envelope correctly by removing the invitation with your right hand. If you can read the invitation without turning it, it was stuffed correctly.

The procedure for assembling traditional invitations (those with a second fold) is similar. The enclosures are placed on top of the lower half of the invitation's face in the same order described above. The invitation is folded from top to bottom over the enclosures. The invitation is then placed into the inside envelope with the fold toward the bottom of the envelope. As with other invitations, traditional invitations are correctly stuffed when they can be read without being turned, after being removed from the envelope with your right hand.

Once stuffed, the inside envelopes are inserted into the outside envelopes. The front of the inside envelope faces the back of the outside envelope.


Tissues

My invitations came with tissues. Should I send them or remove them?

All wedding invitations were once shipped with small pieces of tissue separating each invitation. This prevented the slow-drying ink from smudging. Before mailing her invitations, the bride removed the tissues as they were merely packing material and served no point of etiquette. Through the years, many brides, unaware of the impropriety of sending tissued invitations, left the tissues in. As this practice grew, tissued invitations became as proper as nontissued invitations.

Today, wedding invitations are properly sent both ways. Tissues are starting to serve an important function again as the postal service's sorting equipment can cause smudging on invitations sent without tissues. If you are sending invitations without tissues, you may be able to ask your local post office to hand cancel them. Hand canceling also prevents the postal service from printing their advertising, disguised as part of the cancellation mark, on your wedding invitations.

Where are the tissues placed?

Since the tissues are meant to prevent smudging, they should be placed over the copy on each invitation and enclosure.

See this gets me crazy , seems confusing!

Sorry if I am posting here but I have been struggling with invites too....

I just picked up my invites last night - the guy said they are stacked: invite on bottom and then other cards stacked on top in the order shamma et. al. indicated.
So mine will be (from bottom to top):
Invite
Direction/Hotel Card(that's what my guy said)
Reception Card
Response envelope and card (card facing up, tucked under flap)

That ll goes in the inner envelope and then the outer...

I didn't get tissues with my invites and now I see from Cranes that I suppose it's OK without. Now I have to figure out what this hand cancelling is all about!

this thread was very confusing since i read several different ways on how to stuff.

is it right that my directional card is the first thing people see when they open the envelope?

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