is it normal to be sad after the wedding

after the wedding i was a little depressed to know it was over, as stressful as it was i missed planning the wedding. Did anyone else go through this

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It's very normal to go through this. Many brides feel this way, so you are not alone. After a couple weeks though, you'll be happy that your life is back to normal.

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i am actually going through it right now. i look at my pictures and think to myself...it's over as much as i was stressed out at the end, i really feel like there is a big hole in my life. i am slowly getting over it, but i do feel sad. i can't even go on BHB, it makes me feel too

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I'm still sad too! I can't go over to BHB either, it makes me miss the excitement of the planning. And i look at my pics and video and just get so sad that its all over.... and i keep thinking 'i should have done this or that'.
make it stop!

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Posted by tracyg

i keep thinking 'i should have done this or that'.
make it stop!

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agh! i keep doing that too. i had a perfect day, but there were little things that if i had been more organized (and less harried) i would have done.
its funny, because i got sad yesterday day when someone on NWR was saying how they couldn't concetrate at work because their wedding was this weekend, and i was like 'that was me three weeks ago'

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exactly... it was little things that didn't RUIN the day, but it was little things that just annoyed me after the fact.

DH and everyone else said it was perfect, but me being the nitpicker wishes that some things were handled differently. (like that i should have let a friend of ours hand out our rice throws like we had planned instead of the WM staff, since they didn't bother to tell anyone what they were so only about 30 people took them!!! and i had over 100 left over!! just little stupid stuff)

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one thing that really bugged me was that we had sugar cookies made with our initials on them and no one took them home. they took the stupid $1 cookie cutters, but not the $6 cookies. i was so upset by that. apparently they were so pretty people thought they were not edible. i just felt so upset that we spent so much $$ on something that people did not even eat.

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The only thing that probably annoyed me
was that the favors i made some didnt take so they probably thought we didnt give anything out, but i wasnt about to run after people. I spent a lot of time assembling them.
What gets me down is when i look at my dress that is sitting on the floor in our bedroom and looking at the tiara.

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Posted by Adrianna


What gets me down is when i look at my dress that is sitting on the floor in our bedroom and looking at the tiara.

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me too! i feel so sad that i won't be able to wear it again... and i don't know what to do wtih my jewelry and veil! i was reading some people get their dresses made into a quilt or baby blanket... but i don't know if i want to save it for a daughter that may not even want to wear it or do something with it. i so badly want to wear it again!!!

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i gave my dress to my mom right away so she could take it to the cleaners while we were on our honeymoon, but i have my tiara on top of my jewelery box. someone suggested that i wear it on our anniversary. i thought that was a kind of sweet idea.

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It's sad for me too. I was in such a daze on the wedding day (during the ceremony anyway) that I don't even really remember much. I can't even remember what our kiss felt like! I wish I could do it again so I could remember what it was like......
And of course there were things that I wish I'd done differently, like I wish I'd been more careful when picking out a photographer. I got some really great pictures, but not exactly what I wanted. I look at some brides' pictures, and some of them have EXACTLY the types of pictures that I wanted but didn't get. That's really upsetting to me. The pictures were the most important thing, but at the time I booked the photographer I was worried about spending too much $$

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i know iwant the dress preserved that way if we have a girl i can make the dress into her christeing gown, but i dont want to what to take it to the cleaners just yet.

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i remember the feeling of carrying my dress out of the hotel the day after the wedding and just thinking how sad it was. when we arrived at the hotel we were still all decked out and people were saying congratulations it was still so excting, but the next day it was like the sparkle had kind of worn off.
our bridal party had 'decorated' our car, and people were honking as we drove to the hotel, but we got it cleaned off and we were like, oh well, back to normal again

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Posted by Anniegrl

It's sad for me too. I was in such a daze on the wedding day (during the ceremony anyway) that I don't even really remember much. I can't even remember what our kiss felt like! I wish I could do it again so I could remember what it was like......
And of course there were things that I wish I'd done differently, like I wish I'd been more careful when picking out a photographer. I got some really great pictures, but not exactly what I wanted. I look at some brides' pictures, and some of them have EXACTLY the types of pictures that I wanted but didn't get. That's really upsetting to me. The pictures were the most important thing, but at the time I booked the photographer I was worried about spending too much $$

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i had EXACTLY the same thoughts!!! (i forgot about so many things, until i saw the video! i was convinced i didn't dance with anyone but DH and i was wrong lol)

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Posted by embee

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Posted by tracyg

i keep thinking 'i should have done this or that'.
make it stop!

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agh! i keep doing that too. i had a perfect day, but there were little things that if i had been more organized (and less harried) i would have done.

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This was how I was after the wedding. But with time these memories fade and become less important.

Once you start back doing normal things, the sadness will fade.

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I didn't get sad.... I just want another excuse to party like that again! We just had so much fun & everyone was so great!

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I was a little sad in the beginning, but have definitely gotten over that...pretty quickly too and I never thought I would; I thought I'd be depressed forever!

I have the opposite experience...I never go to BHB not because I'm sad, but because I feel bad that some girls worry/stress over the little things that really don't matter at all in the end.

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for some reason i felt better when i printed out some scanned photos and framed them and put them around the house.

the sadness is fading, but i really want another party! or for someone else to get married!

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I felt a sad but happy after the wedding. I am sad that all the fun is over. Not so much the planning, but the actual fun of the entire day...the entire day was magical...from the getting ready to the pics to the dancing all night long with my closest friends and family. I get sad every time I watch the video b/c I have to watch our wedding end AGAIN.

However I am happy that everything went off without a hitch! I wish I got some pics I dont have but all in all it was all a huge success and we wouldnt have changed a thing.

Whenever I get sad that the wedding is over, I just look at my DH and think about how lucky we are to have eachother and to have had the most perfect day of our lives on 5/1.

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I went through the Post-Wedding Depression phrase. It was a hard time to go through the wedding withdrawal process and adjust to married life from being single for 28 years. However, as fun as it was and the excitement and attention received there were a lot of stress, frustration, and disappointment from my family and extended families as well as some vendors who dropped the ball when we needed them. I do miss the excitement and fun of planning our wedding; however I'm also glad that the stress, frustration, anger is all over and I can now concentrate on married life with my new husband.

The real excitement is the day after the wedding which your new life with your new husband begins the day after the weddig. There's more to look forward to such as children, new housing (if applicable), more life's celebrations.