is it tacky?

To throw your own baby shower?

DH and I want to get pregnant asap and we know no one will step up and throw me a shower when the time comes. We want to start saving for things like this.

Is it tacky to throw my own?

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a little bit (sorry).

maybe you could have a friend or family member help out and you could have a non-secret shower?

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I wish my mom would let me throw my own because she's driving me out of my mind .

I think if you're throwing a more casual shower, it's absolutely fine!

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Posted by miamimerger

I think if you're throwing a more casual shower, it's absolutely fine!

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ITA!! ive been to a few where the hubby invited everyone. and it was at their house and the friends helped to decorate

it was wonderful!

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yeah make your hubby do it.

i dont think you should do anything where it is like asking for gifts.

unless you want to say 'hey i'm not having a shower but i'd like to have everyone together one last time before the baby comes. NO GIFTS PLEASE!'

... i think that would fly and any normal person with bring a gift anyways.

women are insane and like buying cute shtt for babies

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I don't think it's tacky at all. I never really got what the difference was if you threw it for yourself or if someone else did. Either way it's asking for gifts right? But that's the point of a shower. It's a different story if someone is already throwing you one and you plan on throwing another one and inviting the same people.

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I think it makes the most sense to just have your husband throw it for you.

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Posted by MoochsWifey

I don't think it's tacky at all. I never really got what the difference was if you threw it for yourself or if someone else did. Either way it's asking for gifts right? But that's the point of a shower. It's a different story if someone is already throwing you one and you plan on throwing another one and inviting the same people.

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ITA... but to avoid the people who like to talk just ask your dh to do it... even though you planned it...

my sister planned her entire shower but my mom send out the invites and the rsvp was to her... no one knew the diff

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Posted by MoochsWifey

I don't think it's tacky at all. I never really got what the difference was if you threw it for yourself or if someone else did. Either way it's asking for gifts right? But that's the point of a shower. It's a different story if someone is already throwing you one and you plan on throwing another one and inviting the same people.

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ITA. I know most people would think it is. But hey we just all planned big friggin weddings for ourselves and expected guests to bring us gifts.... sooooo I see very little difference! But I agree, just say DH is throwing it for you to avoid the and .

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What if you did a jack and jill baby shower? DH and I went to one at a sushi bar in Brooklyn a few years ago and it was great. Not your traditional corny baby shower, more like a party. The couple still got a ton of gifts and no one really cared who was 'hosting' the party.

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have your hubbs do it.

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have your husband do it...IMO, baby showers should be a surprise...

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Just call it a pre-baby celebration. If you're paying for the whole thing together, you might as well throw it for yourselves. I imagine you'd make it co-ed if your DH would be a part of planning and all. You can ALWAYS throw yourself a huge party! That's just fun!

I never thought anyone would want to throw me a shower and THREE people asked me if they could -- I was shocked! I thought I'd have to do it all myself. So you never know!

Mine's next weekend btw and I'm sooooo excited!!!!!

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DH and I are going to try to get pregnant in a couple of years and we'll still be in Cali. If the family wants to throw me a Baby Shower in NY they have to work around my schedule because I'll have to plan a special visit during my Spring Break for it and that means I'm forcing them to give me what I want since no one cared to do that for my Bridal Shower...yeah, still a little bitter about that one...

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Usually, I would say have someone else throw you a shower, but one of my colleagues threw her own b/c she was a single first time mom & no one else was going to do it for her, so I can kinda understand that sometimes its ok to break the rules.

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IDK. This is something i'm tossing around too.

I don't have anyone to throw me a shower.... so either I throw myself one or i just forgo the whole shower business altogether.

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I would not throw myself a baby shower. I'm not into throwing any type of showers for yourself including a bridal. IMO, they should be a surprise as well but I know most of the time it don't end up that way. I know one person who threw herself a baby shower and it was the first time I ever even heard of someone doing that. Like the other suggested, have your husband organize it.