Just want to share - 5 months of marriage Hubby and I need to do more

Just want to share - 5 months of marriage Hubby and I need to do more

I want to start this post off by saying that Communciation is definetely key in a marriage, and I am so glad that I have it in mine

Ok got married in Sept, moved into a new apartment which had to be decorated, painted etc etc, had an insanely busy season at work, on top of which I had to learn to successfully run a household, well needless to say I was one tired woman.

Honestly, I lost my desire to go out. I was always too tired. We used to go to the movies once a week-that dwindled, unless we were getting invited somewhere I would not initiate going out, and now that it is cold, I am happy to just cozy up with a book.

Well my husband said to me this weekend that we really need to make an effort to go out more, because he does not want to get bored. I told him how tired I am and how cold it is. I even told him he should go out without me, he said no- I want you to go too. This really touched me. It made me sit up and realize that maybe I need to make more of an effort.

I guess my advice here is to not let yourself get too comfortable where you start neglecting your relationship.

As I said just wanted to share my experience with you wonderful ladies.

Re: Just want to share - 5 months of marriage Hubby and I need to do more

Thanks for sharing and I wanted to say I can somewhat relate. I am a true home-body deep down and love sitting around in my pjs in front of the fire with some hot chocolate! By no means are either of us party animals...we got all that out of our system in college and in our mid-20's. We try to do date night a couple times a month. Granted that doesn't have to be some full blown crazy evening...it is what you make it. What about alternating planning dates, where you plan something you know he will enjoy and vise versa. It keeps you social, and focusing on what the other would enjoy.

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Ky, it is very, very easy to do Stay aware

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I agree, we make ourselves go out every saturday, even if we are cold, etc, once we get out we are so glad we got out and made ourselves go, its a nice way for us to reconnect at the end of the week, we just got married, but have lived together for over two years, so its still very important for us to make time for us..because its easy to get comfortable and not have a social life!

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Thanks

I tend to get very lazy when it is cold, and I have not been motivated to do anything.

We went out to dinner last night and to a concert, and we will probably go to the movies this weekend, so WE ARE BACK!!!

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Re: Just want to share - 5 months of marriage Hubby and I need to do more

I can totally relate with you, we've been married almost five months and i can count the number of times we went out. We're such homebodies that instead of going out every other weekend we host dinner parties and have our friends come over instead of going out to meet them. ( that's beginning to wind down, it was getting a bit too much work). I can't wait for spring, with this weather all you want to do is cuddle infront of the tv.....

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i can relate as well!!! we havent be married all that long just coming up on 1 month but i would say the 6 months before the wedding we were staying in first to save money and then because it just became routine. we made a pact to try anfd push ourselves to go out more even if its just a movie. maybe you can plan something super romantic and surprise him?