Just wondering why

So I was bored this morning and just started reading old posts.....
Why is it that any thread that involves money always turns into drama?
Some that I found:
Post pics of your E-rings--- I mean I dont see the big deal with posting what you have. It doesnt make it more special then someone elses.
Wedding costs- who cares!!!!! I for one sometimes am just curious to see the average that people spent, but what someone spent doesnt affect me.


Ok maybe adding to this will make our afternoon go faster.

Feel free to comment or ask your 'humm... why...' of the boards.

it does always turn into drama. But thats bc people have to always make comments and not realize when they say their comments they word it in a way that insults others. Its just childish and maybe some people just need to think before speaking. Like some girls make comments saying 'of if its a big diamond its probably horrible quality and cloudy, i would rather not have it' lol uhmmm and the girl that just posted her big diamond will feel like W** is someone assuming and making a nasty comment.

Then you get the other girls who say 'I HAVE to have at least 2 carats, anything under that is no good for me' so of course those girls who have under 2 carats will say W** are you saying my ring is not good enough and hate the snotty remarks. I dont understand why people even have to make those type of comments when it comes to a post just about posting your ring. If someone has something you dont like, or dont want dont say anything, the same way you wouldnt want someone to say something about yours. And dont post assumptions, i hate that, dont assume bc you just might be wrong.

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Posted by Espo22

it does always turn into drama. But thats bc people have to always make comments and not realize when they say their comments they word it in a way that insults others. Its just childish and maybe some people just need to think before speaking. Like some girls make comments saying 'of if its a big diamond its probably horrible quality and cloudy, i would rather not have it' lol uhmmm and the girl that just posted her big diamond will feel like W** is someone assuming and making a nasty comment.

Then you get the other girls who say 'I HAVE to have at least 2 carats, anything under that is no good for me' so of course those girls who have under 2 carats will say W** are you saying my ring is not good enough and hate the snotty remarks. I dont understand why people even have to make those type of comments when it comes to a post just about posting your ring. If someone has something you dont like, or dont want dont say anything, the same way you wouldnt want someone to say something about yours. And dont post assumptions, i hate that, dont assume bc you just might be wrong.

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EXACTLYYYY!!!

Remember all the BS that came out of the 08 'post your ring'.
You also have the people that think others are showing off. No!! We asked for a pic and they posted it.

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Posted by RadiantBride

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Posted by Espo22

it does always turn into drama. But thats bc people have to always make comments and not realize when they say their comments they word it in a way that insults others. Its just childish and maybe some people just need to think before speaking. Like some girls make comments saying 'of if its a big diamond its probably horrible quality and cloudy, i would rather not have it' lol uhmmm and the girl that just posted her big diamond will feel like W** is someone assuming and making a nasty comment.

Then you get the other girls who say 'I HAVE to have at least 2 carats, anything under that is no good for me' so of course those girls who have under 2 carats will say W** are you saying my ring is not good enough and hate the snotty remarks. I dont understand why people even have to make those type of comments when it comes to a post just about posting your ring. If someone has something you dont like, or dont want dont say anything, the same way you wouldnt want someone to say something about yours. And dont post assumptions, i hate that, dont assume bc you just might be wrong.

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EXACTLYYYY!!!

Remember all the BS that came out of the 08 'post your ring'.
You also have the people that think others are showing off. No!! We asked for a pic and they posted it.

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people just miserable with their own stuff or something in life. The need to put someone down is your own need to put yourself up and that all stems from something in your own life.

i dont remember drama on a post your ring thread??

Vaild point Gina.

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Posted by GinaZ

I think some girls feel threatened by what others have? Maybe that's why it can turn to drama?

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ITA- there is always someone who is going to have a bigger ring ,nicer car , bigger house , prettier ect and it does not mean that they are any more happier then you are .
When you stop comparing yourself to others, and you just be yourself, you have an opportunity to really evaluate who you are on the inside and not what you HAVE or don't have .

Be yourself, everyone else is taken

I will bet you $10 this thread gets pulled.

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Posted by jessnstu08


When you stop comparing yourself to others, and you just be yourself, you have an opportunity to really evaluate who you are on the inside and not what you HAVE or don't have .

Be yourself, everyone else is taken

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SOOOOOO TRUE!!!!

just because someone has a center stone that is .5 doesn't mean there DH doesn't love them as much as someone who's ring is 3.5 carats....

IMHO i feel like when someone is constantly comparing themselves to other people and try to out-do other people, perhaps they aren't really happy in their own lives.

Would I have loved a carat stone, sure! Would I have married DH if he proposed without a ring? ABSOLUTELY!

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Posted by jessnstu08

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Posted by GinaZ

I think some girls feel threatened by what others have? Maybe that's why it can turn to drama?

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ITA- there is always someone who is going to have a bigger ring ,nicer car , bigger house , prettier ect and it does not mean that they are any more happier then you are .
When you stop comparing yourself to others, and you just be yourself, you have an opportunity to really evaluate who you are on the inside and not what you HAVE or don't have .

Be yourself, everyone else is taken

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Love it! Perfectly said

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Posted by yelley77

I will bet you $10 this thread gets pulled.

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Really???? I think we are all being really really nice about giving our feedback.

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Posted by RadiantBride

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Posted by yelley77

I will bet you $10 this thread gets pulled.

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Really???? I think we are all being really really nice about giving our feedback.

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Its only a matter of time . someone will get offended about something I am sure

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Posted by RadiantBride

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Posted by yelley77

I will bet you $10 this thread gets pulled.

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Really???? I think we are all being really really nice about giving our feedback.

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I was yokin since you mentioned the word money

thats why i ended up staying away from those threads. I had like all the ladies done it in the beginning. Then after all those other post your ring threads i would say oh no here it goes again you knew the moment you saw it being posted that drama will eventually start. I will admit that alot of peoples comments would annoy me.


And then people start getting so technical oh mine is so and so clarity and this grade and blah blah blah. I cant even give examples of clarity of grade bc i honestly know NOTHING when it comes to any of that. I dont know and i really dont care. People ask me, well dont you know what your own is? uhmmm no it didnt make a difference to me so i never even paid attention. I know DH said it to me once and i just said 'i have no idea what that even means whether its good or bad lol' its the ring my dh proposed with thats what it means lol. Ive had people sit there and say well mine is this grade and this clarity and whatever else there is, and they even say and yeah its what i wanted bc i wouldnt accept anything that wasnt so and so grade it had to be so and so, get over it

And then i hate when people say well mine is smaller but its so much better quality its just as bad as those who say theirs is better bc its bigger, either way its bad. Youre still saying 'MINE IS BETTER' so still a rude remark.

Ive seen people get insane rings who are filthy rich, paid an insane amount for their wedding and divorced a few months later. This is why i dont tell people my ring size, or cost of wedding.

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Posted by jessnstu08

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Posted by RadiantBride

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Posted by yelley77

I will bet you $10 this thread gets pulled.

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Really???? I think we are all being really really nice about giving our feedback.

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Its only a matter of time . someone will get offended about something I am sure

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Sigh.... you are so right.

Danielle- ohhh ok. I am having one of those SLOWWWWWWW days. It seems like the freaking clock is going backwards.

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Posted by RadiantBride

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Posted by jessnstu08

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Posted by RadiantBride

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Posted by yelley77

I will bet you $10 this thread gets pulled.

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Really???? I think we are all being really really nice about giving our feedback.

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Its only a matter of time . someone will get offended about something I am sure

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Sigh.... you are so right.

Danielle- ohhh ok. I am having one of those SLOWWWWWWW days. It seems like the freaking clock is going backwards.

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I understand. I had about 30 brain farts today.

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Posted by Espo22

thats why i ended up staying away from those threads. I had like all the ladies done it in the beginning. Then after all those other post your ring threads i would say oh no here it goes again you knew the moment you saw it being posted that drama will eventually start. I will admit that alot of peoples comments would annoy me.


And then people start getting so technical oh mine is so and so clarity and this grade and blah blah blah. I cant even give examples of clarity of grade bc i honestly know NOTHING when it comes to any of that. I dont know and i really dont care. People ask me, well dont you know what your own is? uhmmm no it didnt make a difference to me so i never even paid attention. I know DH said it to me once and i just said 'i have no idea what that even means whether its good or bad lol' its the ring my dh proposed with thats what it means lol. Ive had people sit there and say well mine is this grade and this clarity and whatever else there is, and they even say and yeah its what i wanted bc i wouldnt accept anything that wasnt so and so grade it had to be so and so, get over it

And then i hate when people say well mine is smaller but its so much better quality its just as bad as those who say theirs is better bc its bigger, either way its bad. Youre still saying 'MINE IS BETTER' so still a rude remark.

Ive seen people get insane rings who are filthy rich, paid an insane amount for their wedding and divorced a few months later. This is why i dont tell people my ring size, or cost of wedding.

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What do these girls do, carry their appraisal papers around and show people to prove their ring is a better cut ect ?? I could say I have all this, but unless you are a gemologist who really knows or cares for that matter what the clarity of your ring is???

They are just haters because you have a rock Denise , don't get that twisted for a second if they say things like that to your face. I have lots of friends/ family members that have crazy rings never once would I think to say well mine is the friggin hope diamond and yours is cloudy , I am usually say you are blinding me with that ring

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Posted by RadiantBride

Oh man.... I smell a thread that's about to get pulled. I give it until tonight.

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Is it this one ????? or another???


nevermind , i found it