lonely

I've been getting very, very lonely lately. I work from home so I am in here ALL DAY. DH gets home late on Tuesday and Wednesday nights...and he has a bunch of appointments and stuff too recently.

I am starting to get extremely lonely in the house all the time. I'm feeling depressed too. Most of my friends either work at night or have work early in the morning so getting together on weekday nights is really hard.

Any suggestions?

Thanks ladies for your suggestions. I appreciate it.

Becki...right now I'm sort of taking your suggestion...date night w/ myself...except it's date night with a bottle of premade margaritas.

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sorry you're feeling this

maybe you could volunteer someplace?

better yet - meet up with more LIWers

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Maybe take some work and go to Starbucks or a library? I know its still not a lot of social interaction but when I'm feeling this way it still feels nice to just be around other people.

Sorry you're feeling this way

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Sooooo very sorry hun...I've been here so I know it can be extremely tough.
My best advice would be to ind something YOU enjoy doing...maybe scrapbooking, blogging, reading and try to focus on doing that a little each night. You probably need something to think about other than your home alone!!
Hang in there!!

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been there, man.

you gotta find a way to occupy yourself.

you should sit down and make a list of things you'd like to do.

start a bucket list :D

i like going to the movies by myself -- maybe that's weird but... eh. i like to cuz DH's big elbows aren't bumping me all the time.

i also like to just sit at the coffee shop and people watch.

you could pick a few tv shows you've been meaning to start watching and start netflixing!

make a standing date night with yourself. i'm talking bubble bath, wine, book, music... or like pedicure every other week, etc.

make standing date night with some of your girlfriends. people are busy so ... maybe every other week or every 3 weeks you can go out for sundaes at friendlys or what have you.

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I only work 4 hours a day and don't start until 1:30 so I'm by myself most of the day.

I occupy myself by going to the gym or going to the gym if the weather isnt so nice. If you find a hobby you love the time will fly!

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I just moved to Philly at the end of June. Prior to that, I was doing something every single minute of the day with work, friends, DH, and tons of activities. Even though we are now 20 minutes away from DH's family, we see them once a week/once every two weeks. Other than that, I don't work (we found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks before moving, and no one was interested in hiring me because of that), I don't know anyone around here, and I'm now limited in what activities I can do. I joined prenatal yoga hoping to make friends, but no one is interested in hanging out outside of yoga. It's kind of sad .

I think the thing that helps me the most is making a to-do list every single morning. It keeps me busy, I have goals throughout the day, and I feel really good when I accomplish them. I even learned a lot more about cooking and baking since moving, which has been surprisingly fun! I'm hoping to make friends soon, but I totally understand where you are coming from. FM me if you ever need to vent! .

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What about getting a dog?

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I also get very lonely when I am home alone all day by myself. But I think about it less when I am busy. So I try to focus on making sure I am always busy. I do the usual chores and errands and I also make 'me' time where I do things that interest me.

Right now, I just started trying to watch the netflix top 100 movies and the afi top 100 movies. I added all 200 movies to my netflix list, and I am starting to watch them one by one.

I also have taken up baking and cooking. Since I added the 200 movies to my netflix list, I decided to choose 200 recipes I'd like to try and I've started making those as well. I know it sounds crazy but I've accomplished a lot so far and it really distracts me from my loneliness.

Other suggestions: drinking wine, talking on aim or skype with friends (does anyone still use aim? ), writing good old fashioned snail mail to old friends hoping for a response back, taking naps, going for walks around your community, spending time in the library or at the mall (although that usually makes me feel lonelier )

I'm sorry you are feeling lonely. I know how sad and isolating it is but you just got to keep busy!! And keep pushing your friends and family to hang out or call... and eventually, every once in awhile, you will get to hear and see from them.

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GET A PUPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by miamimerger



I just moved to Philly at the end of June. Prior to that, I was doing something every single minute of the day with work, friends, DH, and tons of activities. Even though we are now 20 minutes away from DH's family, we see them once a week/once every two weeks. Other than that, I don't work (we found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks before moving, and no one was interested in hiring me because of that), I don't know anyone around here, and I'm now limited in what activities I can do. I joined prenatal yoga hoping to make friends, but no one is interested in hanging out outside of yoga. It's kind of sad .

I think the thing that helps me the most is making a to-do list every single morning. It keeps me busy, I have goals throughout the day, and I feel really good when I accomplish them. I even learned a lot more about cooking and baking since moving, which has been surprisingly fun! I'm hoping to make friends soon, but I totally understand where you are coming from. FM me if you ever need to vent! .

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AWWW where in Philly are you? I have so much family there (I'm going this weekend) and my little sister (she's 24) lives there.

PS - if you are EVER looking for a nanny, it's what my cousin does!

As for the OP, maybe getting a pet would be helpful. When DH was working nights I would get SO lonely and SO bored! I work early in the morning and living in Queens the last thing I want to do is go to the island during the week. PLUS, we were saving for a wedding so I wouldn't want to spend any money. We ended up getting a kitten and I LOVE HER!

If you can't get a pet, Becki seems to have given some GREAT advice!!!!

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I am in pharma sales and I work for a small division at a small company and the one overlap position in my territory is vacant...so in other words, I am basically along ALL day every day as well. I have been at my company for 6 years but I just switched territories...so now not even my doctors/nurses know who I am. Its lonely being the new girl!

I very much can relate to what you're feeling. FM me whenever you'd like....or, let's post fun threads! Beyond LIW, I have felt best when...as other girls suggest...I keep busy. I try to get all of my errands done during the work day in between appointments to avoid evening traffic. I try to workout. I still feel lonely though...its weird not going to an office everyday. DEF has its perks...big time...but weird nonetheless.

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When we first moved out of NY, I joined a gym here and started going to classes every morning. Pretty soon, I started to feel like I had a 'world' again and it made such a huge difference in my life! Now, my gym friends are some of my closest friends in NC and I feel really proud because I made them 'on my own' (as opposed to DH introducing me to everyone he knows and just having those people as my only friends).

I volunteered at the library for a while and now I volunteer at the Museum of Art (although I really have to stop since I'm making myself sick these days at 35 weeks pregnant). But I do feel like I have people I can reach out to and there are friendly faces around if I need it.

Hope you feel better and find a way to make things work for you so you're happy!

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DH works 6 days a week and doesn't get home until 9. At first I would kill the time cleaning the apartment, cooking and baking or going to bed early. How much can 1 person scrub???? So than I joined the gym down the block from us about 2 months ago. So everynight after work, I go straight to the gym, than come home, cook something and straighten up. By the time I sit on the couch, he is about to walk through the door. Other nights I am meeting up with my girlsfriends or Mom, and I try to stay occupied