May- June brides: do you keep looking back?

Just wanted to post a note for all the May and June brides...

I got married on Memorial Day and had my reception at the Crescent Beach Club. It was one of those infamous rainy weekends which of course was never once in the game plan from the day I booked the reception. I even looked up the date on the Farmer's almanac and it was always pleasant.

The rain stopped before my ceremony - we even got our pictures on the beach of the Crescent - but the cocktail hour wasn't outside like it was supposed to be since it was 50 degrees!

I know the next 4 weekends after poured - so I couldn't feel bad about just picking the wrong day - but it's still hard for me not to feel sort of bad about it. My wedding day was magical in every sense - I've never rec'd more raves in my life from my gown to the food and atmosphere - and i know this is enough - but it's taking me a little while to feel normal again - and i do miss the wedding planning - and even all the chaos.

it's hard to explain - it's not that i'm not happy - i am. happier than i've been - probably even ever - but why the melancholiness? It comes and goes - but does anyone else feel like this or had?

for those that experienced the rain in varying degrees - how are you all - i've read a few posts and i'm happy to hear those who had rain didn't care - but am i crazy that it bothered me - i guess since part of the wedding was supposed to be outside - maybe this is it.

sorry for the babble - i just needed to share with others who have been in my shoes!

Congrats to all the Mays & Junes!!

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It bother me a bit after the wedding was over, not the day of. I was worried about my pictures more than anything. Especially since we picked the Westbury Manor because the outside decor. My pictures came out great but I still wished we had a few outdoor shots when it was still light out. It rained from right before the ceremony until nightfall. However, I would take 50 degrees and rain over a day like today, 95 and humid!

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I really don't feel any let down after all that crazy wedding planning. I'm so glad it is over. It actually did not rain on my wedding day but it poured the night before so I had to have the ceremony indoors. It honestly didn't bother me at all. I was happy that I was able to take nice pics that day at Planting Fields Arboretum.

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I think I know what you are talking about and I feel your melancholy. It was bittersweet for me - the Wednesday, Thursday before my wedding it was rainy, then it was a beautiful sunny day on Friday but then on Saturday I woke up to drizzle and then more rain and continuous rain all day and into the evening - didn't stop until 11:30pm. I picked my place because it had beautiful grounds. My ceremony was supposed to be outdoors on the great lawn next to the water. Although, my place had a beautiful conservatory where we did they ceremony - I still get a bit bummed out that I don't have those pictures outdoors on the grounds with my bridal party. Since I didn't really focus on the indoor ceremony plans - there were some glitches that if I had thought about it more wouldn't have happened - mind you these glitches are not things guest know/care about. I do keep thinking back to how certain things could have been better or this or that didn't happen and should have - but I think this is all due to being the bride and having pictured things a certain way and being anal. I have yet to see my proofs, and I keep thinking that we didn't get enough shots of just the two of us in romantic poses, of particular locations, etc.

Another reason I think we look back, has to do with being a woman and analyzing things to death.

Each time I see pictures of a bride in a beautiful setting outdoors - I get a twinge of sadness. But I think this will wear off as time passes - I hope .

All that being said, on the day of I didn't let the rain get to me and during the celebration I had a fabulous time and wish I could have another wedding celebration (of course one that's been already planned out for me). I don't missed the planning process though.

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I totally understand how you're feeling. My plan was to have the ceremony and cocktail hour outside. We did the pictures before hand and had planned on doing them at the beach, but I woke up to rain as well. It did let up later in the evening so we got to have some pretty pictures outside, but I had so wanted the ocean shots.
I also knew I would be and was pretty sad after it was over. I mean, I was so stressed before, but still, it was like, 'now what do I do with myself?' When we got back form the honeymoon I was so depressed - I think it really hit me then that everything was done with. All last week I felt like crying, though, I'm definately feeling better now. I really am so happy with just being married, but, I do miss a lot of the planning.

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I was one of the 'lucky', if you call it that, May brides who had a perfect, sunny, 70 degree day. (May 17)

I couldn't have been happier, however, we had cocktail hr. inside, we thought it was a bit chilly that night for it to be outside.

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I had a 'lucky' June day June 6th. It was a 80 degree not a cloud in the sky day and everything went well, but I keep thinking oh, my god it's over! All my planning and all that money all gone in 1 day. I couldn't wait to wear my dress because I loved it so much and now I keep thinking I'm never going to wear it again. It's kind of sad but I'm happy

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Thanks to all of you you shared - I appreciate it!

I especially identify with SSDARE - I'm pretty anal too and a bit of a control freak to boot - so the one thing that went wrong I couldn't control was the weather! And of course, in all the planning I did, I never factored in rain - because it was pratically June for goodness sake! Who could have predicted the almost uncanny biblical reference to the rain!

I think it will pass too - it didn't all hit me until Father's Day - the first weekend back after our honeymoon. Work and getting our apt set up has kept me busy - but my cousin's wedding is approaching - 8/1 at the Westbury Manor - so it's all kind of touching a chord - AND - I have my brother-in-law's wedding this October so there's still wedding bells in the air - and it's still hard to believe it all happenned!!

We got a few pics outside - we got lucky the rain stopped before the ceremony - however, I think it had to do with my grandmother in heaven taking charge - at least that's the way I like to think about it.

Thanks again - and cograts to all!!

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I can totally relate.

It rained on my day too. We were supposed to take our pictures before the ceremony at Planting Fields, and ended up in a studio with a beige backdrop. NOT what I had dreamed of. I was so afraid to get the pictures back, and while they came out good, they are nothing compared to the other girls' pictures who had shots outside. I got into a real funk about it.

Not to mention as everyone probably knows by now, DH and I are not living together yet. We've been married 6 weeks and still living a hour and a half away from each other.

I got back from the HM, and everything hit me--the fact that it rained and the pictures were in a studio, the fact that cocktail hour was inside, the fact that we have hardly ANY romantic couple shots (maybe 2 different poses), and the fact that I can't do it over again.

Then a few days after the HM when my DH left to go 'home' and I saw him pulling away, it really hit me again! This is it. My Big Day is over, and I have nothing to show for it!! I'm still living in the same place, without DH, doing the same crap I was doing before we got married.

UGH! Talk about the blues!!!

But this week for some reason the clouds seem to be clearing a little, and I'm feeling better. No, I'll never get that day back, and I'll never have the pictures I dreamed of, but the wedding itself was amazing and nothing else went wrong. I'm trying to focus on that instead. And my situation with DH is temporary. Hopefully in a few more weeks we'll be together. So just as everyone is settling in to more of a routine, DH and I will be experiencing the excitement of living together for the first time. It's not entirely a bad thing....

Try to stay focused on the things that went RIGHT on your wedding day. And focus on all the things that are waiting for you in the future. Our wedding days are extremely special and important, but it isn't the LAST time we will ever be so happy, or have so much fun. Life has so much more to offer us!! Keep moving forward!

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Thanks for all you said - just hearing about others experiences have absolutely helped me move forward. I was just thinking the other day - walking in my new neighborhood - don't let these new and quite memorable moments be overshadowed by the fact that your cocktail hour wasn't outside! Everyone has been telling me everything else was perfect - and it was - I'm getting over that hump.

Thank you again!!! Very much appreciated!

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Did you get your pictures back? I felt a little bad about the rain too, not on the day itself because I was so happy but afterward. I had been obsessed with finding a place with nice grounds and having an outdoor cocktail hour. I wasn't upset but just concerned about the pictures. I felt much better after I saw them. I wouldn't do them over, it captures the happiest day of my life so perfectly. I had a ball and so did the guests so the other things don't really matter.

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While we're on the subject of rain and pictures, don't you think it should be the photographer's responsibility to at least MENTION to the bride that they should have a backup place in case of rain?

I just thought of this today after reading this thread. After all, you are paying mucho money for these pictures, and I think the photographer would want to capture the day in the best way possible. So shouldn't it be up to the photographer to not only suggest outdoor places, but suggest INDOOR places just in case??

Do you agree??

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I totally agree with you Karen. For the money we all pay they should have alternate plans to suggest to the brides.

I was one of the lucky ones though. It was suppose to pour on my wedding day but by 3 pm the sun was out and it was beautiful. We were able to have our ceremony and take all our pictures outside.

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Tammy 5/03 ~

Got back the pictures - I'm going to try to attach a few however I'm not having much luck!! The pictures are great - even got the beach shots - one of the bridesmaids said the sky looked very inviting and pictures would come out very 'Ralph Lauren.'

And the photographers should set up a back-up for shots in case of rain - there's so much you learn going through it - if i ever become an event planner - I'll remember this specifically!!!

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