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Did anyone have problems with their MIL 'letting go/ not understanding when they are crossing the line'

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Yup- that's me! I married her 'baby' and only son! She still has difficulty letting go- almost 2 and a half years later!
Just an example: Today DH calls her and tells her that we have to replace the caulk in our shower because it's peeling away. She was TOO concerned about this- she wanted to know if she should come over to help! He said no- but I bet him that we get a surprise visit to check out his handiwork... Um, hello? It's CAULK!!!
I told DH that because he was doing this in our master bath that I was going to leave our some sexy lingerie thrown over the headboard! And maybe some leftover toys from my bridal shower!!!!!! She'll get an eyeful if she 'pops' in!!!!

As far as crossing the line...she snoops when she's here. I can't stand it! She looks at everything. If I'm opening up a cabinet, she's right behind me looking in. She looks in our closets. She needs to know EVERYTHING. We hide things when we know the family is coming over, because his sisters are also a little nosey. I've even planted 'traps' to catch her in the act!
I could go on and on. The thing is, I've learned that its better to laugh about instead of getting upset. And if something is really bothering me, I have DH talk to her.
Good luck. You're not alone!!!

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Thanks.

It is good to know I am not alone. I am attempting to ignore some things and if it gets overbearing, I talk to my DH, and he talks to her.

Sigh...I can't wait until she gets over this phase.

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I don't know if my MIL crosses the line yet...too soon to tell....but I did marry her baby and only son and she still treats him as such at times. She'll buy him things for no reason, she gets pissy if we want to spend time alone together or we choose to eat dinner on our own ( we live with them for now) and then gives us the cold shoulder

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I can relate too, I married the only son and her ' baby' and she is wonderful too me, but can be alittle overbearing. We also come from two different cultures, so we have had that to work through, I am very lucky to have a mother in law who loves me though, she just thinks shes smarter on EVERYTHING, and I dont see how she could be when I am smarter on everything! haahee

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Posted by aliciahelene

I can relate too, I married the only son and her ' baby' and she is wonderful too me, but can be alittle overbearing. We also come from two different cultures, so we have had that to work through, I am very lucky to have a mother in law who loves me though, she just thinks shes smarter on EVERYTHING, and I dont see how she could be when I am smarter on everything! haahee

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I have to say that I know my MIL loves me, but she just can be so OVERBEARING!!!!! She is use to being in control of things and the more she loses control, the more she seems to push. I know this has been an adjustment process for everybody, but she seems to be going through more that me and my DH...and we are the ones that got married!

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Did the sun rise this morning??????

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NOT AT ALL!!!!! I get along great with my MIL!

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I get along great with mine too. She's a little corny sometimes but she's harmless.

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My MIL is DH's step mom (his real mom died when he was young). MIL never had her own children so she raised him since he was like 7. She can be annoying (see my Inlaw vent that I posted the other day). Before we were married, DH moved into to a new apartment, she took it upon herself to go out and spend lots of money on pictures and tables (with out asking him and it was not his or my taste). He came home from work one day and there was all this stuff. I think alot of the problems MIL and I have is that I do not ask her for help decorating our new house. I think she feels left out but she is not my mom, I am not going to run to her and ask her for help. DH is leaving the decorating up to me so he is not even asking her for help.

I can relate to MIL problems.

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OMG yes!
My MIL is the queen of making my life miserable! It started with the engagement party, got 100x worse with the wedding and hasnt ended. I am worried once we start having children, that she is going to be sticking her nose where it does not belong!