My Cousin's marriage gone bust...

I found out recently that one of my cousin's who just got married in August of this year is already breaking up with his wife. She just told him that she loves him but she is not 'in love' with him. Hello why did you get married them. You dated him for 6 years and you just realized now that you are not in love with him. I just don't understand what is wrong some poeple these days!

I had a feeling about this girl. Seriously there was something about her that I just didn't like. It's not so much that I didn't plain like her there was just this hunch that I had about her and I would always tell my mom that I had bad vibes about her and that I think she is taking advantage of my cousin. The thing is that I am not even that close to this cousin that split up. I only see him at big family gatherings and yet when I saw this girl I always got bad vibes from her and now when I heard this news my mom and husband were like 'wow you called it'. I'm not always right about my hunches but sometimes I am. I must get it from my grandmother (mom's mom) when she didnt like someone she could feel it in her bones and was always right.

I never went to this cousin's wedding but my mom told me that must of the time she was off dancing on her own with her friends on the dance floor while the groom was handing out party favors! Hello these are things that the bride and groom should be doing together.

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There are always two sides to every story. I wouldnt automatically assume that you are hearing the whole story and blame it all on her b/c of your bad vibe.

I think when marriages end so soon, teh parties involve feel like that they must blame the other person b/c its such a scandal when its usually at least partially both of their faults.

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It is extremely scary to me how many newly married people I know are getting divorced.
I'm sorry about your cousin

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I'm sorry.

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Sorry about the breakup.
I guess the only upside (if you can call it that) is that it happenned after a few months instead of 10 yrs of marraige.

Good luck to him

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Breaking up is so easy to do, if either party is not willing to put the effort forward to making it work, then they both can throw up their hands and say why bother. It takes 2.

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well said Shamma!
Often times, when I hear of something like this I wonder how the communication really is between the two - or, how much they're both willing to fight to save the marriage. Who knows - so many things come into play that often only the couple is aware of.

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my sisters ex boyfriend's sister did this...(she told my sister all of this - so in this case...it was her)


4 months before the marriage she knew that she didn't want to marry her FH...but said it was too embarrassing to call off the wedding they stayed together until the holidays were over and then got a divorce!!!!

you think losing all the deposits are bad...what about losing the cost of the entire wedding?

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I wonder why she said this..maybe she found someone else?

Anyway I'm sorry.

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I totally second Sonicstefs post. You dont know the whole story and are only hearing it from one side. There are probably other things going on that you dont know about. That is too bad that two months ago they had their wedding and now ending it.

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It really is a shame ... probably after a big wedding too ... better now then later!

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A lot of couples KNOW that they shouldn't get married or stay together but after many years together they feel that it is their 'turn' or they feel pressure from family/friends to get married. Many are simply afraid to admit that their relationship is not working and feel that marriage will help give it new life.

I wouldn't judge her or say 'you knew there was something about her'. There is NO way that you know what it is like in her shoes or in her marriage. I say if they are unhappy it is better to have the courage to admit it sooner than later, and before they had children.

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I know there are two sides to every story but she is the one who said that she doesnt love him so am I supposed to care what her side is. She probably has someone else the same thing happened to my BIL with his 1st wife. After 6 months she told him she wasnt in love with him and then weeks later they found out that she has another guy.

I'm just glad she did it now than later on.

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Bedda: Oh i dont blame you for taking your cousins side - that is what friends and family are for.

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And there are two sides to every story. When Another one of my cousins who marriage went bust about 2 years ago broke up with the wife we all were mad at him because she left him. Of course we all rallied against him but then I started noticing somethings about my cousin which made me wonder that maybe the girl had legit reasons for leaving. She was a nice girl, I have nothing against her and I even keep in touch with from time to time by e-mail. She got re-married and is starting a family and I am very happy for her.

But this situation is a little different and maybe i just dont like the girl becuase she never made a good impression on me. I guess maybe because at every family function she is always drunk as a skunk and acts really embarrassing.

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Unfortunately, some couples use getting married as a temporary band aid. They go and get married only to find out that things are worse!

Like Shamma said, there are always 2 sides to every story. Then again, you could be right about her! Who knows! The bottom line is they obviously did not take their vows seriously.

I'm sorry to hear about your cousin.

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It's just such a scary thing to hear. I mean they just got married two months ago! They probably must have broken up after the Honeymoon!

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I think no 2 people who are in love with each other and committed to a relationship whether married or not, just get up and 2 mos later after a long committement and just leave. There has to have been signs that they both ignored. This didn't happen overnight. She probably did not love him anymore and she wanted to be married so she accepted, he might have thought that marriage would make things better, who knows, they do. I wish them both all the best!!!!!!!