MY FIRST NQOTD!!!!

Good Morning Girls!!!
I figured I would write my Newlywed QOTD now before I cook up some waffles!!

Ok..
My Question:

What is your biggest fear in married life??

some people would say can say financial issues, or divorce, or maybe even cheating...

Mine is that I won't be able to have kids!!
having kids is such an important thing in my life, i almost feel that being a mother is what i was meant to be!
and i have no reason to believe that i wont be able to or anything like that, it just always seems sometimes the people who want kids soo badly always have the hardest time getting prego...

well hopefully there will be no issues (we will find out in prob a year or so) but thats just what i fear the most...

Good first question. Actually i have two huge fears....

The first is the same as yours. My mom had two ectopic pregnancies (one before me and one after me) and could not get pregnant through in vitro. I am a DES grand-baby so I know there is a chance I could have the same problems. That scares me a lot. It also scares me knowing both my grandmother and mother hemorrhaged during child birth so while I want two, chances of me doing it twice if I hemorrhage is slim. The whole pregnancy issue scares me so much. I wish we could start now, younger the better, but we are not there financially.

The second is the fear of ever having to go on without DH, if god forbid something happens to him. He works on dangerous oil rigs sometimes (two days after our honeymoon they wanted to send him to the most dangerous rig in the country) and he is always working with mechanical things... as careful as he is it makes me nervous. Also his heart beats to fast, which could cause a problem in the future. I can't imagine life without him. Sorry I know that is morbid. I am have been married less then two months and fear of being a widow already haunts me.

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

Good Morning Girls!!!
I figured I would write my Newlywed QOTD now before I cook up some waffles!!

Ok..
My Question:

What is your biggest fear in married life??

some people would say can say financial issues, or divorce, or maybe even cheating...

Mine is that I won't be able to have kids!!
having kids is such an important thing in my life, i almost feel that being a mother is what i was meant to be!
and i have no reason to believe that i wont be able to or anything like that, it just always seems sometimes the people who want kids soo badly always have the hardest time getting prego...
well hopefully there will be no issues (we will find out in prob a year or so) but thats just what i fear the most...

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Your answer is basically my answer in a nut shell! I have the same exact fear, I'm trying not to think about it because then I will just make myself crazy!

p.s- so happy you pic'd the pic I posted as the NWOTW / NOTW avatar!

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

Good Morning Girls!!!
I figured I would write my Newlywed QOTD now before I cook up some waffles!!

Ok..
My Question:

What is your biggest fear in married life??

some people would say can say financial issues, or divorce, or maybe even cheating...

Mine is that I won't be able to have kids!!
having kids is such an important thing in my life, i almost feel that being a mother is what i was meant to be!
and i have no reason to believe that i wont be able to or anything like that, it just always seems sometimes the people who want kids soo badly always have the hardest time getting prego...

well hopefully there will be no issues (we will find out in prob a year or so) but thats just what i fear the most...

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I have 3:
(1)That DH will get killed in line of duty & I will have to try & live on w/out him (he works for NYSP on the NYS Thruway)

(2) That we will not be able to conceive a child (although DH & I have discussed this already that if it's meant to be it will be & if not - at least we have each other) but it would still kill me & a huge part of my life would be empty w/out having a child/children of our own

(3) That if we do have a child or children, that the threat of nuclear war on the US may be imminent & I hate to think of putting an innocent child in danger or on death's door - but I know you cant live life always being afraid...so I try not to keep that in the forefront of my mind...

Hey ladies!!!!


My biggest fear is something happening to DH. I get just thinking about it. I want to be with him till we're 100.

Becoming one of those couples that we say we'll never end up like... fighting over money, kids, etc and ending up in a nasty divorce... I mean, it happens to over 50% of couples and we ALL say it'll never happen to us... But in reality, half of us on this site will no longer be married in 5, 10, 20 yrs... Sad to think about....

Another thing I fear is losing DH... I get sooo worried if hes not home on time and didnt tell me he was stopping somewhere before coming home... I start freaking out immediately thinking he's been in some kinda car accident... And he plans on getting a motorcycle next year and that freaks me out even more...

I dont fear not being able to have children as much as some other ladies... Of course I would be very depressed if it came down to that, but part of me really wants to adopt as well... There's sooo many children out there that really need to have great home with a loving family... And to know I was able to make an impact on a really deserving child... its priceless!

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

Good Morning Girls!!!
I figured I would write my Newlywed QOTD now before I cook up some waffles!!

Ok..
My Question:

What is your biggest fear in married life??

some people would say can say financial issues, or divorce, or maybe even cheating...

Mine is that I won't be able to have kids!!
having kids is such an important thing in my life, i almost feel that being a mother is what i was meant to be!
and i have no reason to believe that i wont be able to or anything like that, it just always seems sometimes the people who want kids soo badly always have the hardest time getting prego...

well hopefully there will be no issues (we will find out in prob a year or so) but thats just what i fear the most...

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I don't even think I have to bother answering this questions because you answered it for me! lol This has ALWAYS been my biggest fear, even before I got married! We are waiting another year so we will see eventually but I always pray that we will be blessed with children when the time comes!

All of the fears you girls listed are on my list, but my #1 one is def being a widow young. I lost my dad two years ago on the 14th and watching my mom live without her other half is HEARTbreaking...I can't stand it and I hope hope hope it doesn't happen to me...but fact of the matter is, there are only two ways you separate, death or divorce. I'm gonna go puke now.

Mine isnt financial...

Mine is that we we loose ourselves. That we'll forget to be a couple. Ive seen it in some of my married friends and I hate it.

They turn into the man bashing women who complain abou tall the things dh doesnt do etc...

but i know how lucky i am- and never have anything to say about him. He really doesn't have BAD habits (OTHER than washing the dishes TWICE each ) and loves to do laundry

My biggest fear is losing DH bc he is on the NYPD. I can't believe the guy puts on a bullet proof vest everyday.. if I think about it too much, I can make myself sick with worry.