My turn for a rant - and another thing....updated
Ok I don't mean to sound like a b!tch, bc I really REALLY like my SIL BUT....she is pg & we are planning her shower. She is being SO selfish & greedy & unappreciative. Seriously. Its getting on my nerves. I KNOW all about pregnancy hormones but she's pissing me off.
Examples:
#1 - I showed her a few cute invitations on a website & asked her which she liked. They were moderately priced. She seemed uncomfortable so I said 'I will buy the invitations so don't worry about it.' She emails me the next day and says she found 'the ones' she HAD to have. Fine. But honestly, no exaggeration, they cost more (each) than my wedding invitations. They are 'designer'. And they were double what the ones we had discussed were.
So we ordered them blank bc she could NOT make up her mind on when she wanted the shower, etc... So I told her 3x to get me the details. She calls 1/2 hour ago with the details & says 'can you print them today?' I said 'I was going to use my work printer bc its better quality & the invites are at home.:' She gets all snotty & says 'I wanted them out by Tuesday. I guess THAT won't be happening.' No, it won't. Now shut it before I shove the $4.40 invitations up your a$$, ribbon & all.
#2 - She originally told me the shower was last weekend in Feb. So I plan Ella's 1st birthday party for March 9 (her b-day is the 5th.) Then she decided she wants her shower THAT day. Um no. That's Ella's birthday party. Tough sh!t. I already ordered the custom invites & booked freaking Elmo. Now her shower is the day AFTER Ella's & she said 'I hope everyone won't be tired.' Be tired? its a 2 hour party for a 1 yr old. Cut it out.
#3 - I went to Babies R Us with her to help with her registry. She picked out some cute stuff & I told her as she was registering that I would buy her crib bedding, which was one of the more expensive items (about $200). She THEN tells me that her cousin's gf (whom she is close with) wants to buy her that, but I can get her the car seat & stroller instead. Um, that's $400. I was aiming a little lower.
#4 - her aunt has decided to host the shower at her house. No one has really stepped up & talked about money but I have been offering things here & there. So she says 'aunt Roberta can't cook, so maybe you and Rob (DH) can get some catering from Gian Carlo's.' Oh, you mean that super expensive Italian restaurant that we went to for New Year's Eve? Ok, how about I bake a lasagna for you instead. Or a quiche maybe. Why are WE getting catering for 40 people from an expensive restaurant when MY MOTHER IN LAW OWNS A CATERING BUSINESS!!!
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Keep in mind, she does have a sister and a mother. And friends. Its not like I am the only girl in her life. I don't mean to be rude, but I think she thinks since DH & I do kind of well, that there is no budget or something. She's 27 years old, never got me a shower gift and never gave us a wedding gift (even though she was a BM.). I let it go because all she ever does is complain how broke she is and she does babysit for us for free occasionally.
But I have given her ALL of my maternity clothes (thousands of dollars worth) 2 HUGE Rubbermaid bins filled with baby clothes, all of Ella's newborn toys, her swing, her bouncy seat. etc... The girl has CLEANED ME OUT and never says thank you. Oh, I also gave her a TV and a couch this past spring. Not even a thank you card.
Again, I love the girl, but her manners SUK.
Thank you
I feel better. Still pissed though. Need a drink. Or 5. Grrrrrrrrr....
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ETA - AND Ella is very sick & she KNOWS this & is still on my a$$. Poor Ella hit 104 fever yesterday at daycare. We rushed her to the Dr who had to bag her for a urine sample. They think she has a UTI. Poor little thing.... She still has a 102.5 fever right now & she's lost 1/2 pound in 3 days. THE POOR MONKEY!
Examples:
#1 - I showed her a few cute invitations on a website & asked her which she liked. They were moderately priced. She seemed uncomfortable so I said 'I will buy the invitations so don't worry about it.' She emails me the next day and says she found 'the ones' she HAD to have. Fine. But honestly, no exaggeration, they cost more (each) than my wedding invitations. They are 'designer'. And they were double what the ones we had discussed were.
So we ordered them blank bc she could NOT make up her mind on when she wanted the shower, etc... So I told her 3x to get me the details. She calls 1/2 hour ago with the details & says 'can you print them today?' I said 'I was going to use my work printer bc its better quality & the invites are at home.:' She gets all snotty & says 'I wanted them out by Tuesday. I guess THAT won't be happening.' No, it won't. Now shut it before I shove the $4.40 invitations up your a$$, ribbon & all.
#2 - She originally told me the shower was last weekend in Feb. So I plan Ella's 1st birthday party for March 9 (her b-day is the 5th.) Then she decided she wants her shower THAT day. Um no. That's Ella's birthday party. Tough sh!t. I already ordered the custom invites & booked freaking Elmo. Now her shower is the day AFTER Ella's & she said 'I hope everyone won't be tired.' Be tired? its a 2 hour party for a 1 yr old. Cut it out.
#3 - I went to Babies R Us with her to help with her registry. She picked out some cute stuff & I told her as she was registering that I would buy her crib bedding, which was one of the more expensive items (about $200). She THEN tells me that her cousin's gf (whom she is close with) wants to buy her that, but I can get her the car seat & stroller instead. Um, that's $400. I was aiming a little lower.
#4 - her aunt has decided to host the shower at her house. No one has really stepped up & talked about money but I have been offering things here & there. So she says 'aunt Roberta can't cook, so maybe you and Rob (DH) can get some catering from Gian Carlo's.' Oh, you mean that super expensive Italian restaurant that we went to for New Year's Eve? Ok, how about I bake a lasagna for you instead. Or a quiche maybe. Why are WE getting catering for 40 people from an expensive restaurant when MY MOTHER IN LAW OWNS A CATERING BUSINESS!!!
Keep in mind, she does have a sister and a mother. And friends. Its not like I am the only girl in her life. I don't mean to be rude, but I think she thinks since DH & I do kind of well, that there is no budget or something. She's 27 years old, never got me a shower gift and never gave us a wedding gift (even though she was a BM.). I let it go because all she ever does is complain how broke she is and she does babysit for us for free occasionally.
But I have given her ALL of my maternity clothes (thousands of dollars worth) 2 HUGE Rubbermaid bins filled with baby clothes, all of Ella's newborn toys, her swing, her bouncy seat. etc... The girl has CLEANED ME OUT and never says thank you. Oh, I also gave her a TV and a couch this past spring. Not even a thank you card.
Again, I love the girl, but her manners SUK.
Thank you
I feel better. Still pissed though. Need a drink. Or 5. Grrrrrrrrr....
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ETA - AND Ella is very sick & she KNOWS this & is still on my a$$. Poor Ella hit 104 fever yesterday at daycare. We rushed her to the Dr who had to bag her for a urine sample. They think she has a UTI. Poor little thing.... She still has a 102.5 fever right now & she's lost 1/2 pound in 3 days. THE POOR MONKEY!
