NEED ADVICE! Sensitive Issue!

As some of you know, my MIL passed away in July.

This Saturday I got a call from our photographer that out album is ready for viewing.

I don't want to cause my DH any additional pain and have him look at wedding pictures which obviously include his late Mother. BUT, I can't possibly be making this decision myself. I situations where decisions have to be made we work much better as a team. I hate making such decisions by myself! I need to have DH there because our photos didn't come out too well as far as I am concerned. We had to use pictures that my FIL took for the first dance and they were digital. I am worried they didn't come out too good in the album! Anyway, judging from the last appointment, I just get very emotional and DH has to be the voice of reason. My Mom was there too, but still it's our album and she has ideas different from our own! What should I do? Should I just go with my Mom? I don't want to postpone this indefinitely...
Anyone been in a similar situation? Or has a friendly advice?

Re: NEED ADVICE! Sensitive Issue!

I would postpone this until hubby is ready to go with you together... I don't think relying on parents with something that you guys will share is a good idea, because their taste may be different when it comes to photos, etc...

Perhaps wait a few more months?

Re: NEED ADVICE! Sensitive Issue!

Did your husband tell you he didnt want to go?

If it were me, I would want to see those photos of my late parent and make sure the ones i liked best were in the album to remember her by.

But if he has already told he really doesnt want to go, I would say be strong and go yourself and bring whoever you think will help you (not necessarily your mom). In light of the issue, not having the perfect album for your DH is probably not something he cares about.

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If you don't think your Hubby is ready, there is nothing wrong with waiting. I picked up my albums and video almost on my year anniversary!!

Re: NEED ADVICE! Sensitive Issue!

If you don't think your Hubby is ready, there is nothing wrong with waiting. I picked up my albums and video almost on my year anniversary!!

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I didn't ask him to go yet, but he knows that the photographer called because he heard me on the phone with him and it was pretty crear what i was talking about. He probably forgot thought!

he doesn't usually ike to participate in such things, but ince he does get involed he gets very perticular. So, he does care which is why I woudl like to have him there, BUT...

I think I will go with JUST Mom. It really would be very hard for him to be there, I think!

Re: NEED ADVICE! Sensitive Issue!

I know you said you were thinking of just going with your mom, but I would definately ask him first if he wants to go. For myself, although seeing pictures of my mom after she passed away was hard sometimes, it really helped me more than made me sad. I know if it were me, I would want to go. (Of course boys are sometimes very different when it comes to stuff like that, but I still think you should talk to him first.)

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It seems as though you are making assumptions on what he would or would not want to do.

I think you should def talk to him and see what his thoughts are.

Re: NEED ADVICE! Sensitive Issue!

Just spoke to DH! he was so happy he doesn't have to go! He really hates allt he post wedding appontment! I don't think he even realized why I so easily let him off the hook. He just dones't need to deal with it right now!

Thank you all for your input!