need advice/feedback about how to handle 'no shows'

little j Posted: May 20, 2010 10:27 AM

need advice/feedback about how to handle 'no shows'

what did you do about 'no shows'? i have a few that still have not contacted me. some i considered friends. they told me that they wouldnt miss it

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should i reach out to them? make them feel bad? lol...or just cut my losses?

Just Cindy Posted: May 20, 2010 10:29 AM

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cut your losses!!! If they have not contacted you to apologize then you dont want those types of friends anyway.

miamimerger Posted: May 20, 2010 10:30 AM

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Cut your losses. When they're ready to talk, they'll contact you!

coldasice217 Posted: May 20, 2010 10:35 AM

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Cut your losses!

I had a 'friend' who canceled on me 15 minutes before my shower. Then we started taking bets on if she would cancel on the wedding too. Sure enough, I get a facebook message the morning of my wedding canceling for her and her husband. Both were really bogus excuses too. So, at last count, she owes me $304.00 for plates for the shower and wedding, not to mention the fact that I had gone to her shower the year before and given her gifts, and her wedding earlier in the year and given her a gift.

I just didn't respond to the message, and don't plan on speaking to her ever again. She was a shizzy, selfish, flaky friend who only ever cared about herself, and I don't need that. She even had the nerve to wish me a fake happy birthday on FB a few months later too, which I ignored.

If you have friends who did the same to you, then they're not your real friends.

GracieJMay2010 Posted: May 20, 2010 10:43 AM

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Posted by coldasice217

Cut your losses!

I had a 'friend' who canceled on me 15 minutes before my shower. Then we started taking bets on if she would cancel on the wedding too. Sure enough, I get a facebook message the morning of my wedding canceling for her and her husband. Both were really bogus excuses too. So, at last count, she owes me $304.00 for plates for the shower and wedding, not to mention the fact that I had gone to her shower the year before and given her gifts, and her wedding earlier in the year and given her a gift.

I just didn't respond to the message, and don't plan on speaking to her ever again. She was a shizzy, selfish, flaky friend who only ever cared about herself, and I don't need that. She even had the nerve to wish me a fake happy birthday on FB a few months later too, which I ignored.

If you have friends who did the same to you, then they're not your real friends.

WELL said!

PoppedInASnap Posted: May 20, 2010 12:25 PM

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We had four no shows, one being my own boss. I found out shortly after that she claimed she 'never got the invitation' however, there was a letter sent to those who didn't RSVP back from my mother stating to let us know if they didnt get an invite, and i also stuck one in her mailbox at work... hmm

I let it go. I dont talk to them anymore!

AugustBridein09 Posted: May 20, 2010 12:35 PM

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Cut your losses.

I don't talk to any of my no-shows except one who apologized sooo much b/c even though he took off, everyone from DH's job took off so he HAD to go in to work.

MLAngelo Posted: May 20, 2010 12:45 PM

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It depended on the reason, I had a lot of no shows but they mostly had really good reasons.

my cousin's baby got sick... ok

my dad's friend had a kidney stone... understandable

my former boss (who I love like a father) was at the church but didn't show up to the reception . I don't know what happenned and haven't talked to him since which upsets me. I think he is embarrassed. But rumor has it he has had very serious kidney problems and have been in and out of the hospital. So I assume he was sick so if I ever saw him I wouldn't think twice about being A-OK with him.

I was a no show for a wedding once and had 101 fever. DH went without me. What are you going to do, go get everyone sick and be miserable.

gina409 Posted: May 20, 2010 12:49 PM

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i have to agree bout cut ur losses..its one thing to no show and call and give a real or fake excuse but to no show andnever say anything..id just wat for them to contact me and then find out what happened