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Newlyweds: How do you &/or DH handle the 'single' friends?

btrflygrl Posted: Jun 11, 2004 10:08 AM+

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Posted: Jun 11, 2004 10:08 AM

Newlyweds: How do you &/or DH handle the 'single' friends?

we hang out with another newlywed couple, and the husband put it in words so great: 'I just want to spend time at home with my wife, she makes me happy. I'm just not into the partying thing anymore'

our best man, at 25, is single again and STILL parties on a regular basis and can't seem to 'grow up' (as my DH put it) and realize that my husband isn't into that anymore.

Can anyone relate?

ChristineC68 Posted: Jun 11, 2004 10:14 AM+

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Posted: Jun 11, 2004 10:14 AM

Re: Newlyweds: How do you &/or DH handle the 'single' friends?

At 25 I was one of those people that went out ALL the time! I certainly did not expect everyone I knew to be on the same page with me but I would be a little sad if now one of my best friends hardly ever came out anymore. Of course, at the time almost all of my friends were out with me - both married and single people. We just enjoyed hanging out together.

Donna Posted: Jun 11, 2004 10:21 AM+

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Posted: Jun 11, 2004 10:21 AM

Re: Newlyweds: How do you &/or DH handle the 'single' friends?

We have a mix of single and married friends. The only problem I find with my single friends is that to see them it has to be what they want to do - I'm in my 30s and have no desire to go to a nightclub/bar and drink all night but they still do. So we've made a compromise we do dinner some drinks early in the night and they then can go out at 11pm/12 and party while I get to go home to DH. Or I have started having girl's night at my house, we just get together drink, eat and that's been fun.

shelzyp Posted: Jun 11, 2004 11:45 AM+

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Posted: Jun 11, 2004 11:45 AM

Re: Newlyweds: How do you &/or DH handle the 'single' friends?

I still go out with my friends even though I am married. I have fun with my friends, and being married doesn't change that. When I wasn't married I would be pissed if my friend that got married 2 years ago stopped coming out all together.

Niecey Posted: Jun 11, 2004 12:20 PM+

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Posted: Jun 11, 2004 12:20 PM

Re: Newlyweds: How do you &/or DH handle the 'single' friends?

Posted by shelzyp

I still go out with my friends even though I am married. I have fun with my friends, and being married doesn't change that. When I wasn't married I would be pissed if my friend that got married 2 years ago stopped coming out all together.

I agree - I don't have a ton of single friends anymore but I still make time to see them and do stuff that is in their interest not just my own. Of course we have some priorities that are different but they are still my friends and I enjoy their company.

I think a 25 year old single guy should be going out and having fun enjoy being single and not rush growing up (as long as he is still a responsible adult). If DH isn't into what he likes they should try to find things they can do in common that they can still do together. Like go watch a game at the bar or play cards or similar.

Anniegrl Posted: Jun 11, 2004 03:41 PM+

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Posted: Jun 11, 2004 03:41 PM

Re: Newlyweds: How do you &/or DH handle the 'single' friends?

I'm 34 and just don't like staying up late anymore - if I didn't have to work and get up early all the time it'd be a different story!
My contacts get dried out when I'm tired so I really can't stay out late anyway unless I wear my glasses (and I'm so not going to go to a bar or club with glasses on!)
One of my friends is a year younger than me and she's dating a guy who bounces at a club in D.C. and is always asking me to go to the club. She gets home at like 5 am though! I'm like, no thanks! Sleep is much more important! I still go out with my single friends, but just not late night partying stuff.

kathleenmarie Posted: Jun 12, 2004 12:26 AM+

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Posted: Jun 12, 2004 12:26 AM

Re: Newlyweds: How do you &/or DH handle the 'single' friends?

I still see and hang out with my single friends. Its just not always as spontaneous anymore. For me, the relationship changes a bit, but doesn't end. Its different for everyone depending on where you are coming from. I wouldnt vacation with them away from my hubby, or go out drinking, but we hang out or catch dinner and a movie.

usuk2004 Posted: Jun 15, 2004 09:06 AM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2004 09:06 AM

Re: Newlyweds: How do you &/or DH handle the 'single' friends?

I think making time for your friends whether they're married or single, is really important. Having just moved abroad, I don't have many friends right now. I just flew to Berlin over the weekend to meet up with a good friend from home and it was so wonderful to see her. I miss my friends! What you do when you do see them may change a little. But, then again, DH and I go out for crazy nights together--we always have.