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Do you feel like you have become a part of DH's family or vice versa? DH fits in with my family pretty well, he is definitely like one of us. DH's family has always been nice to me. I do have to admit that even though we have been together six years, there are times I feel as though I am the chick he just started dating and they are taking notes on me. Probably my insecurity talking.

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I don't think you are alone here. Sometimes I feel that way too.

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I always feel that way!

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yes...we both are pretty much apart of each others family...marriage didn't do that though!

What isn't there yet is the merging of the two families..I hope, when we buy our home and we have holidays..that will change

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Not really. They are very nice, but I still refer to them as 'DH's family'. Our families are very different and live very far apart, so I don't think we'll be merging families any time soon.

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Not really. They are very nice, but I still refer to them as 'DH's family'. Our families are very different and live very far apart, so I don't think we'll be merging families any time soon.

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Our families are the exact same way too.

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DH has been a part of my family for a long time, but I'm not sure if he would feel the same. I think he would say the same about me too, that's I've been part of his family for a while. I don't feel like an outsider or anything, but sometimes I just get a weird vibe from my FIL. My MIL is great, but she has a habit of speaking before thinking, which lends for some akward moments. We're working on merging our families and our parents seem to really like each other, they even went out for dinner when DH and I were on our HM. But then there are other moments when I'm not sure. Like my mom invited them over for my dads b-day, but MIL said they couldn't make it because they were having a small party for Halloween for family and friends. And then she didn't bother to invite my parents.

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I definitely feel like a part of DH's family and he is a part of mine. Our families adore each other and even though they live 1000 miles apart they have come to visit each other a few times.
I moved from NY to live in a different city and DH's family completely made me feel at home. I hang out with them without DH all the time!! From his grandparents inviting me over for Easter (when DH was working) or hanging out with his sister and brother in law at a Cards game...it doesn't feel weird at all.

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My family is crazy about DH. Sometimes I think they like him more than they like me.

DH's family is really nice and I like them a lot, but since we got married I always feel a little tongue-tied-ish when we talk on the phone. Or maybe it's just that I really hate talking on the phone.

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Honestly DH's family made me feel like part of the family from day one and it has only gotten better.
My family isn't so close so I doubt DH feels that way.

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DH has said to me - and in fact said in his speech at our wedding - that my family has always made him feel like one of them. It's taken me a bit to feel like he is one of our family, but him spending Thanksgivings and Christmases with them really helped.

I'm really just getting to know his family and while I don't really feel like one of the family, it's getting better.

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I only have a sister so when DH and I got married my parents said they're not losing a daughter, they were gaining a son. DH only has sisters so I am the only daughter in law and his mother always calls me her 4th daughter. Our families thankfully get along well together. We're very thankful.

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dh is very much a part of my family....everybody loves him. however, i dont feel that way about my in laws. its so weird but its like daughters families seem to take in the son-in-law but with the sons family its like pulling teeth....i dont understand it. but from talking to people and getting advice from my family it seems to be like that from way back. i certainly will not be that way if we have a son...i want to be a good mother-in-law to my daughter-in-law.