Now that you're married- will you still acknowledge your 'dating' anniversary?

HelenZ Posted: Oct 11, 2007 09:48 PM

Now that you're married- will you still acknowledge your 'dating' anniversary?

Sooooooo according to DH he doesn't even want to acknowledge our dating anniversary now that we're married.......which btw, I didn't bring it up b/c I intend to celebrate it or exchange gifts or anything, but I guess to just spend time together on that day is what I'm looking for. My bonehead husband wants to go upstate this weekend by himself to go bow hunting (which I hate!).....I can't go w/ him, b/c I have a shower to go to.....my argument with him is that I wanted to just hang out together on Sunday at least just spending time together, especially since the next day is our 1 month mark (yes I know I'm a dork! lol). Am I crazy here??? I don't know why I'm feeling so very emotional today!! I'm depressed and feeling lonely I usually don't get like this, but I think maybe it's b/c I'm also feeling a little overwhelmed at work......I'm just exhausted on all levels lately.

Sorry about my long vent, but down to my question- do you plan on acknowledging your dating anniversary? do you think you'd celebrate it? or just make mention of it or something?

thanks for hearing me out

ETA- btw, we had NEVER really celebrated (as in going out, giving gifts etc.) our dating anniversary even when we were dating....but for me, it's just always kind of been expected that we'd at least be in each others presence on that date (even while dating).

ETA- (again lol)- I found out DH will be working nights next week- 10/15 through 10/19- 6PM to 2AM.......so if he goes upstate tomorrow, I won't actually see him until my friend Mimi's wedding next Saturday

HamptonsBride Posted: Oct 11, 2007 09:53 PM

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I am very attached to dates...but DH (and it seems many men, are NOT)....DH always tells me...it's just another day....then he'll add something like 'everyday is like an anniversary with you..' (with a silly grin)...i have learned to just accept that we see these things differently and tell him that we at least need a nice date nite around the time...it doesn't have to be that specific day...i know how you feel though...

B22 Posted: Oct 11, 2007 09:55 PM

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yes. because it's my birthday =)))

LitBallerinaGirl Posted: Oct 11, 2007 09:58 PM

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Nope. We didn't even acknowledge it when we were dating.
It was on Christmas Eve so we never remembered.

Future Mrs. Posted: Oct 11, 2007 10:02 PM

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there are so many anniversaries to celebrate! First meeting, first date, engagement, etc.

We acknowlege our first meeting......and wedding date. Thats it.

HelenZ Posted: Oct 11, 2007 10:06 PM

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Posted by Future Mrs.

there are so many anniversaries to celebrate! First meeting, first date, engagement, etc.

We acknowlege our first meeting......and wedding date. Thats it.

yea that's actually the one that would be this weekend- we met on 10/13/00 (on a Friday the 13th no less!)....but actually we were both pretty drunk and can't remember if it was after midnight or not (making it the 14th! I actually have always had more regard for the date we first met than when we first started 'dating' (which was about 9 mths later). I guess that's why I'm feeling so down about it.

Brian and Marie Posted: Oct 11, 2007 10:09 PM

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I'm sure we'll acknowledge it, but we won't make the stink over it like we used to!

AeroJenn Posted: Oct 11, 2007 10:55 PM

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we will acknowledge it....but not celebrate it anymore. Probably just a 'hey...happy dating anniversary babe' and thats that.

SeptBride70 Posted: Oct 11, 2007 11:01 PM

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yes b/c we got married by a JOP on our dating anniversary-- we planned it that way so we wouldn't have a million dates going on. so, we celebrate that and 9/9.

ruzi777 Posted: Oct 11, 2007 11:03 PM

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We do....it is October 29th.

Our Wedding Anniversary is April 29th

So it'll be 4 years Dating
and 6 Months of Marriage

jax1023 Posted: Oct 11, 2007 11:21 PM

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DH and I were rarely together on our dating anniversary due to circumstances, so I don;t feel particularly attached to it.

One year, I was still in college, he was in grad school. The next year he was at a conference, etc.

If he's going to be mad about it, dont force the issue. You have a whole new anniversary now, one thats much more important.

PegaLega Posted: Oct 11, 2007 11:38 PM

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I am also very attached to dates. We wont 'celebrate' like we used to but probably just dinner-make it a day for us to spend time together.

rfilipofornow Posted: Oct 12, 2007 12:50 AM

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i don't know if we'll continue to celebrate on a yearly basis (in fact, i'll be in NY for what will be out 6th dating anniversary next year), but i imagine we'll at least do something when we hit a 'big' number, like 10 yrs together, or something.

TreAnt425 Posted: Oct 12, 2007 08:01 AM

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Sort of - its 2 days before our wedding anniversary, so we will really be celebrating both at the same time

TnOiOnL Posted: Oct 12, 2007 08:04 AM

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I'm sure we'll pop a bottle of wine or go out to a nice dinner, but that's really it.. no gifts or anything like that!

GettinHutched Posted: Oct 12, 2007 08:19 AM

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Helen, I'm in the same boat!! DH always jokes - 'So how many anniversaries are we gonna have here?' Dating, engagement, wedding? I'd like to acknowledge it though, at least with a dinner or something. It's a very special day!

I'm sorry you're feeling emotional Helen! I'm sure it's a combination of a lot of things...and it's perfectly normal. This is important to you!

jboota22 Posted: Oct 12, 2007 08:49 AM

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Helen..that's funny. Our 'first meeting' anniversary is the 16th and when I brought it up Rob said..how many anniversaries can we have!
What is it with guys!?!?!?! They just don't get it!
Lesbians must have the most romantic relationships! ahhhh

kitty1224 Posted: Oct 12, 2007 09:18 AM

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My DH said we only celebrate our new anniversary!

Helen my DH is doing the same thing this weekend. I have been extremely overwelmed with work, it has been crazy here. Heres a for you. Hang in there and spoil yourself and relax this weekend. Just a couple more hours.