OK Newlyweds- WWYD??

So we all have fights with DH...

I am in the middle of one with DH now and I am fuming!! and I don't even know what to do with myself.

My question is, what do you do when you and DH fight?

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cry...mope around...or try to keep myself business and wait until he wants to talk about it because when he fights he likes to not talk until he's ready.


It sucks, but just wait and keep yourself busy until you both cool down and talk about it in a calm manner.

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It depends what it's about. We don't really argue too much, but when we do, we usually take time to cool off and then come back and talk about it. DH usually plays on his computer and I usually go for a drive. It helps clear our thoughts and be much more deliberate when we talk.

If it's something that's dire and needs to be solved that minute, we both address the issues at hand, remind each other not to say anything dumb, and just work it out.

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Take a few deep breaths. My husband is an attorney and is an absolutely AMAZING fighter....

I get so worked up and frustrated that I end up cursing and shouting and losing any sense of credibility that I had going into the fight.

BREATH. Collect your thoughts and think before speaking. And again, deep breaths....

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Definitely take a bit of time apart so that you don't say anything you regret in the heat of anger.

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things get bad and the next day we are usually okay...

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We rarely fight but when we do, we usually yell for a lil bit, ignore each other for a lil bit, and then a few minutes later one of us will do something to make the other person laugh and it's like nothing ever happened.

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I'm pretty good at keeping my cool. I don't really yell, I think I have maybe TWICE in the time we have been together - and one of those times was to exhibit that I hadn't been yelling when he told me to 'stop yelling at him'. I state what I have to say, I let him do the same whether he does it calmly or not and then if I'm still angry/upset I usually just walk away to cool down.... and normally start cleaning. (Not sure why I do that)

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scream , and than eventually cry
a few hours later we usually talk it out...

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Depends on the fight topic.... If it's truly important, then I'll fight for it, but I let alot of crepitus go cause sometimes it's just not worth it! Jmo

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i cry... he gets even more mad at me for crying...
i yell... he yells too
i accidentally lock him out of the house (yes it WAS an accident)... he FLIPS

um... then one of us (usually me) is guilted into apologizing..

OR

we just dont talk then one of us will do something stupid and the other will laugh and thats the end of the fight.

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It all depends on how bad the argument is - If its that bad - I go to a hotel

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We're pretty bad - screaming, yelling, cursing. Sometimes we go to bed still angry too. We're not that great in that department, eventually we make up, but there are often unsettled issues which arise later on.

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Colleen

I think you should go to the gym - Working out usually helps me and I now how into it you are. Go work it off and let it out that way for now. IMO.