Okay.. I have got a PROBLEM... BRAND NEW SIL Prob UPDATE SCROLL DOWN A FEW.. STILL UPSET

Okay.. I have got a PROBLEM... BRAND NEW SIL Prob UPDATE SCROLL DOWN A FEW.. STILL UPSET

Just got back from new SIL wedding. Kind of upset..... SIL and I have gotten very close over the past year. we talk all the time and see each other a lot. I helped her out more then her own BP , did her wedding errands, dropped off deposits, bought her her garter, took her for her BP gifts, her invitations, her flowers, etc. I even got her some religious items for the ceromony... fast forward to today.. mind u I was not in the BP , I wanted to be a guest. her own BP did nothing but throw her the shower.... Okay... I went to work at 7AM and then was all over the place got my hair and make up done... it was a night wedding. After the ceremony, the BP was taking pics, I was standing with my 2 other SIL and we did not know of we should go to the cocktail hour or wait for a family photo, we asked no one knew what to tell us, I waited a few minutes, and asked my MIL what we should do she asked photographer if we should go to cocktail hour and he said if he needed us he will sent for us, bride turned around and said I was being nasty and I was NOT... I was dealing with one SIL who is a b itch, and I am a very soft spoken person. fast forward to the wedding reception.... I danced a little bit and my back was hurting me and socialized a little and then sat down at the table, I was up almost 21 hours straightby then... on the way out she started to fight with me that I was nasty at the pictures , and that I was unsupportive of her!!!!! Then she says I should not be complaining at my BIL wedding I am tired what is the matter I did not have a life and never went out to clubs growing up?! hello... I went out but not till all hours of the night, it was not my thing nor my freinds thing we hung out at houses, dinners , movies etc. I am SO HURT by this and do not know what to do, my BIL says she had too much to drink , but to me she did not seem drunk at all. What do I do? She has been my SIL for less then 24 hours... I am dumb struck and hurt.

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Just want to give you some

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Thanks for the hugs... I am so upset. I only had 4 hours of sleep becuase of this.

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This is DH's sister? What did Dh say about the whole thing?

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No this is her DH's Brothers new wife. They just got married Friday night.

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oh... still i want to know what Dh thinks about all this

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you poor thing!!! Make sure your DH discusses this issue with his brother (try to stay out of it- unless necessary)

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I'm sure she will post but I know she isn't feeling good & probably resting.

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Sorry!! I would give it some time, wait til they are back from their honeymoon and maybe she have time to come to her senses and realize was a meanie she was and apologize. She should be thanking you for all you did not yelling at you.

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next time you talk to her address her by the name of 'Bridezilla' ... that will surely make thing sbetter!

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Maybe it's true that she just had too much to drink and maybe was overwhelmed by all the wedding stuff. Not that that excuses her entirely but give it a few days and see what comes of it. Defintely have your DH mention it to his brother.

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welll she called............ my Dh told her she was wrong and she said first off the photograher got the pics she wanted! not one of the whole fmaily, and that there were things wrong at our wedding... WE included her in everyhting even pics and she was just a girlfriend, not even engaged , and my pics were taken before ceremony. She was not at the rest of the pics which were during the cocktail hour and reception., I did not see her once. One of my BIL called me to see if I was okay. They leave for HM in November. She told me she wants to 'squash the situation'. I do not and I do not trust her in the least. I am so so so upset. What do I do if she thinks everything is back to normal? How am I going to have to deal with her as my sister in law, she even gave me a speach how she likes me so much etc. How can I forgive and forget after this? How can I ever trust her .. she and I were so close too. PS not only did I not go out a lot, I spent most of my 20's with 2 sick parents which are now deceased.... I was taking my mom to chemo and a few years later my dad was sick too. So that was a slap in the face. I think by my parents being so sick and I am so sensitive about this, and she knows it , it is making it worse.

PS MY DH is angry too.

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welll she called............ my Dh told her she was wrong and she said first off the photograher got the pics she wanted! not one of the whole fmaily, and that there were things wrong at our wedding... WE included her in everyhting even pics and she was just a girlfriend, not even engaged , and my pics were taken before ceremony. She was not at the rest of the pics which were during the cocktail hour and reception., I did not see her once. One of my BIL called me to see if I was okay. They leave for HM in November. She told me she wants to 'squash the situation'. I do not and I do not trust her in the least. I am so so so upset. What do I do if she thinks everything is back to normal? How am I going to have to deal with her as my sister in law, she even gave me a speach how she likes me so much etc. How can I forgive and forget after this? How can I ever trust her .. she and I were so close too. PS not only did I not go out a lot, I spent most of my 20's with 2 sick parents which are now deceased.... I was taking my mom to chemo and a few years later my dad was sick too. So that was a slap in the face. I think by my parents being so sick and I am so sensitive about this, and she knows it , it is making it worse.

PS MY DH is angry too.

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when u 2 talk, tell her how hurt u r by this. does she know that u got hurt in all of this

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End it - YOU do not want to be the reason your DH and his brother end up fighting ..... If she doesn't think she did anything wrong, you're never going to get a sincere apology out of her .....and things are NOT going to go back to the way they were b/c she ruined it by the way she treated you. BUT......she IS your BIL's wife. - the ideal situation would be for you to be the best of friends, but unfortunately it does not always work out that way -
You have OBVIOUSLY been the 'better person' from day one- So contiunue with that ....just let it go .....THIS time. And the next time she speaks to you that way (which she will) stand up for yourself, right then and there. If you know not to trust her......don't let her ruin your 'reputation' w/ DH's family, don't give her an excuse to talk about you ....at this point in time EVERYONE invloved knows you did NOTHING wrong......just keep it that way .
(Not that I'm saying confromting her would be wrong......but it would just give her another excuse to put fuel on the fire re: whatever her problem is w/ you......)

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I agree with Marisa...End it. My sis-n-law hasnt done nothing for me whatsoever and I just kept it in the back of my mind. I didnt confront it bc I dont know that its worth it to fight over nonsense. Who knows maybe she was drunk, maybe she wasnt. Unless she confronts you again, I would leave it alone for the sake of future family gatherings.