I don't want to be rude, or sound like a Bridezilla, so I need your help.
I had invited some people to my wedding, from a job that I no longer work at, but I was close to some of them. During the Bridal Shower process after I sent out invitations, I had spoken to a friend from that job, and she told me that another girl I used to work with wants to know where her invitation is. I told her that I didn't really keep in touch with her so I wasn't going to invite her. The girl wound up emailing me and asking me where her invitation was. Since I did work with her and I knew her I figured why not send her one. I invited her, and she didn't even show up to the shower until the last 5 minutes.
Fast forward to the wedding, and I got a response from her that she was going to come with a guest. At the wedding I asked where she was and my friend told me that she was 'getting her hair done' and that she would be there soon.
Well, she never showed. Now she sends me an email asking me how married life is, and how I am doing, and that she was just thinking of me.
I sort of want to give her a piece of my mind. It just bugged me that she made a big deal about me not inviting her in the first place, and then she never shows up!
She never sent an email or called me to tell me that she was sorry she couldn't make it or w/e. I got nothing, so I sort of just let it go. But now that she emailed me like nothing happened, I sort of want to say something to her about it!
What would you do?
skinny237
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Posted by Future_Farrell
This is what she sent me:
Well don't hold back how you feel Sara. You are right?I should have called and apologize for not coming but things came up and I could not make it. As you were aware my baby shower was the same weekend which I only found out the Friday because it was a surprise and I really had no idea when it was to begin with but if I knew it was the same weekend them I would have said from the beginning I would not be able to come to the wedding. Well I could see that you are pretty upset by this and I am sorry but I can't change the fact. Anyway it was never intentional and I still wish you all the best.
what does her baby shower have to do with the wedding???? I still told her that she could've called me that friday to tell me, so that maybe I could've called the hall and had them charge me for 2 less plates. She could've said something, an email, a phone call, but I got nothing. I just told her that as well, I told her that I thought it was very rude of her.
So she did lie to me, telling her friends to tell me that she was getting her hair done, and just didn't want to come to my wedding b/c she was getting ready for her baby shower. Which I understand, but you could've called me!!! lol
She easily could have called. Plus, wouldn't her family know that she was supposed to go to a wedding? Wouldn't they have checked with her husband to see if it was a good weekend? A freaking phone call wouldn't have killed her. Or, she could have sent a card to explain things and u could have gotten it when u got back from the HM! Jeez! We had no-shows too and I am irate about it and (I know I am mean and horrible) but hope that karma comes back at them!
SFAR89
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Posted by skinny237
She easily could have called. Plus, wouldn't her family know that she was supposed to go to a wedding? Wouldn't they have checked with her husband to see if it was a good weekend? A freaking phone call wouldn't have killed her. Or, she could have sent a card to explain things and u could have gotten it when u got back from the HM! Jeez! We had no-shows too and I am irate about it and (I know I am mean and horrible) but hope that karma comes back at them!
lol I totally feel the same way haha I don't care. People really just don't know how to be nice and thoughtful and have some damn manners.
Kimbalina
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I would say things are good... hope all is ok with you, was worried when you never attended the wedding..
GinaZ
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Posted by Jenn04
Oh man I would be MAD! You paid for her and a guest???
I would respond...married life is great....why werent you there?
Keep it short and sweet. See what she say to that!
Agreed!
Love it! def write that!
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Posted by Future_Farrell
This is what she sent me:
Well don't hold back how you feel Sara. You are right?I should have called and apologize for not coming but things came up and I could not make it. As you were aware my baby shower was the same weekend which I only found out the Friday because it was a surprise and I really had no idea when it was to begin with but if I knew it was the same weekend them I would have said from the beginning I would not be able to come to the wedding. Well I could see that you are pretty upset by this and I am sorry but I can't change the fact. Anyway it was never intentional and I still wish you all the best.
what does her baby shower have to do with the wedding???? I still told her that she could've called me that friday to tell me, so that maybe I could've called the hall and had them charge me for 2 less plates. She could've said something, an email, a phone call, but I got nothing. I just told her that as well, I told her that I thought it was very rude of her.
So she did lie to me, telling her friends to tell me that she was getting her hair done, and just didn't want to come to my wedding b/c she was getting ready for her baby shower. Which I understand, but you could've called me!!! lol
You just took a stand for wedding hosts everywhere by b*tching her out and being totally blunt. Love it!
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Posted by Future_Farrell
This is what she sent me:
Well don't hold back how you feel Sara. You are right?I should have called and apologize for not coming but things came up and I could not make it. As you were aware my baby shower was the same weekend which I only found out the Friday because it was a surprise and I really had no idea when it was to begin with but if I knew it was the same weekend them I would have said from the beginning I would not be able to come to the wedding. Well I could see that you are pretty upset by this and I am sorry but I can't change the fact. Anyway it was never intentional and I still wish you all the best.
what does her baby shower have to do with the wedding???? I still told her that she could've called me that friday to tell me, so that maybe I could've called the hall and had them charge me for 2 less plates. She could've said something, an email, a phone call, but I got nothing. I just told her that as well, I told her that I thought it was very rude of her.
So she did lie to me, telling her friends to tell me that she was getting her hair done, and just didn't want to come to my wedding b/c she was getting ready for her baby shower. Which I understand, but you could've called me!!! lol
Ok this chick responded all ready! WOW! Isnt she married, hasnt she gone through this??? She is totally out of line. Didnt her friends and family who threw her the baby shower know about the wedding she was planning on going to? Sounds so bogus. Did you call her out on the lie part too?
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What a freakin loser! I knwo people say its not about the money... But the hell with what people say... IT IS ABOUT THE MONEY.
I would just say to her, 'Yeah, well the only thing I regret is wasting XXX money on you. Congrats on your kid, I hope you enjoyed your free GIFTS. '
I am sooooooo mad right now...GRRRRR
catsgirl
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I would rip her a new Azz, you payed for her and a guest.
MikeandJess
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that's ridiculous! It's not like she missed an afternoon tea, she missed a friggin wedding. And she didn't say my shower was the same day, she said the same weekend which means she could have made it, she was just lazy and fishing for excuses. I also don't think she paid to get her hair done and then, in between her hair being done and your wedding, found out her baby shower was some time that weekend and then decided not to go to your wedding. Judge Judy always says if it doesn't add up it isn't true
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that's ridiculous! It's not like she missed an afternoon tea, she missed a friggin wedding. And she didn't say my shower was the same day, she said the same weekend which means she could have made it, she was just lazy and fishing for excuses. I also don't think she paid to get her hair done and then, in between her hair being done and your wedding, found out her baby shower was some time that weekend and then decided not to go to your wedding. Judge Judy always says if it doesn't add up it isn't true
and she also says, 'dont piss on my leg and tell me its raining'
brilliant woman, judge judy!
MikeandJess
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Posted by MikeandJess
that's ridiculous! It's not like she missed an afternoon tea, she missed a friggin wedding. And she didn't say my shower was the same day, she said the same weekend which means she could have made it, she was just lazy and fishing for excuses. I also don't think she paid to get her hair done and then, in between her hair being done and your wedding, found out her baby shower was some time that weekend and then decided not to go to your wedding. Judge Judy always says if it doesn't add up it isn't true
and she also says, 'dont piss on my leg and tell me its raining'
brilliant woman, judge judy!
Well i figured I have to make up for the brain cells I lose when I watch rock of love
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UPDATE:
She wound up saying sorry and asking me if I was going to be mad at her forever. Then asked me if I was going to come to the christening for her baby!!!!!
This girl really has some huge balls. lol I just don't know what to say lol
I feel like telling her yes, then not showing up or sending a gift. :) I like to be spiteful! haha
