I really feel I need to respond to this. I am a regular but changed my name for this post for a few reasons. We all read that Yabbobay was recognized on this site by some of her students so she can no longer post. On the same note, Many of us have posted pix of ourselves and hubbys. It is really nice to see what everyone looks like, however, being the wife of a law enforcer, I would NEVER post a pix of him in his uniform and post on the internet where he worked. It is extremely dangerous. I can't stress this enough! It would be very easy for anyone who has a vandetta against anyone in the NYPD to do a search and find out a lot of personal information on both of you. It would be very easy to do a search and find out when, where, and what vendors you are using. In adition, his name is clearly legible on his uniform which make him and you an even easier target.
I am guilty of posting pix of my husband as well. I was very stupid and put pix of my whole bridal party on here but after reading Yabbobays I realized that if students at her school coud figure her out what could some sicko's out there be capable of. This board gets very addicting and we often reveal personal information about ourselves. But this is too personal.
I know what is is like to be the wife of an officer and you should really take extra precautions. I strongly urge you to take that picture off. I am sure your husband would agree.
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You are ABSOLUTELY right. I am removing my picture. Thanks for the wake up call. You'd think I'd be bright enought to figure that one out on my own...
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Awhile back I got tracked down by a vendor and I ended up changing my name , wedding date as well as bride and grooms name. We took the name of the dog and cat. It really stinks that people are so low and sleazy to do this. I know how it feels I feel so bad for yabbobay.
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Isn't sad that we live in a world where we can't trust anybody??? Concerned, you are 100% right though. The funny thing is one of the reasons it took me over a year to post my picture (besides the fact I don't own a computer or scanner) was that I didn't know if I wanted everyone to see my face!!! It's sad but true, you never know what sick minds are out there and what they are capable of!!!
I feel bad that poor Yabbo had to stop doing something she enjoyed because of one stupid individual!!! I hope she comes back with another name!!!
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This is exactly the kind of stuff that I was talking about in my post yesterday. I am not concerned about vendors from this community (as LisaT pointed out) - who cares if they don't like what we tell other brides!!!
I am mostly concerned about the sicko's out there in Internet land that can figure out too much about you!
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i totally agree as well...it is sad but true-there are many sickos out there....
that's why i really don't post any personal info...
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OMG!!! How do I delete a pix??? and a post??? HELP!!!
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Am I the only one who worries about pics of children on the net? I'm a very private person, and I don't think I've even revealed my name, but that's just how I am. Anyway, the point of this post is that a lot of women have posted pictures of their beautiful babies on the parenting board (and elsewhere). In other posts, they might have mentioned that they live in a certain neighborhood, frequent a certain playground, or store. I think it's much easier to track a person down using subtle hints than everyone thinks. Not to freak anyone out, but I think our fiancés, and husbands can fight for themselves, but in a time where kidnapping seems to become more and more prevalent, children are helpless. Please please know that these pictures are out there for the world to see, and be very careful of how much info you reveal about your child.
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Someday Bride: Kidnapping is actually DOWN from recent years...its just the media has focused on it more this year than most others.
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Ok, sorry you're right. I guess it is just the media focusing more on it. Still, I think while everyone is jumping to conclusions about having pics of their husbands online, they should be thinking of having pics of their children. I don't know, I guess it's just me.
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Claud is that why you took the halloween pix of your baby off.
Stef you are right, its the same with the Shark attacks, Primetime live guy who has the segment give me a break says there are no more attacks than previous years its just that the media is looking at it more.
I do not see anything wrong with posting our pix here. Celebrities have their pix all over all the internet, tv books, papers, they don't worry, why am I going to. So someone lurks on here and see a pix of me and my hubby what are they going to do?? come and get me???
I will continue posting pix and I will continue answering questions, I will not let what happened to Yabboby scare me away. We do not even know what happened.
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I dont see the harm in posting baby photos...or any photos provided you are not in the law enforcement business (or the witness protection program).
Even if kidnappers did read this board (unlikely), - its not like you are leaving your children unattended anywhere and then posting about it in here. The real threat is out there on the playground not in here.
That is just my opinion - if someone feels uncomfortable they should do whatever makes them feel more safe.
I guess my point is that this whole thing is being blown out of proportion..no harm has come to anyone as far as we know.
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This is alot to think about... Gee, you have to think about EVERYTHING you do these days. It is really sad.
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I agree, it has been blown a bit out of proportion, and I agree with your reasons as to why someone might not post photos. I have my reasons, and they are job related, that's all I'll say about it. This board is geared toward one specific geographic area, only making it easier to track someone down. I agree, kidnappers are probably not sitting around scooping out this board, but I wouldn't be willing to take that chance when it comes to the safety of a child. I know nobody means to leave their child unattended, but sometimes we get too comfortable with our surroundings, and let our guard down. The children on my street play outside unattended all the time, and they walk home from school alone. If someone knows your child's name, the child is a lot more likely to go with that person, thinking that it's safe. This is the same reason that I never buy a child personalized clothing or accessories. I'm a little neurotic when it comes to safety of children, maybe to a fault. I really don't want to scare anyone, I just want to put the thought out there. Also, this really has nothing to do with the abrupt departure of Yabbobay, it has been something that I've been meaning to say for a while, and this seemed like a good opportunity.
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i think if we want to share a photo of a husband or baby we should forum mail it or send it to our private email address rather than post on the internet message bds,
cecil
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I am sorry if I offended anyone about the vendors tracking me down, but I was trying to bring out a point here and that is that nothing is private on the internet. I was just trying to tell everyone on the boards that it can happen here also. I hope that this clarifies my post from this morning. It is a sick world we live in today.
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I have removed posts about personal info, photos of myself and my family, and of the baby. It just makes me feel better b/c I am a little 'weirded out' over this topic this week.
I do not think that this should be considered 'blowing this out of proportion.' I stated my opinion, and others jumped on the bandwagon. Like SomedayBride, I have been thinking about this topic long before Yaboo left. I guess the way she left just brought it to the forefront for me.
I really think that you have to walk in someone else's shoes before you can make judgements. It is very difficult for someone who is not a Mom to understand the powerful and protective instincts that you have for your child. I believe that I am justified for having concerns about my child's photo on the Internet and I am kicking myself right now for ever having shared it.
I agree that it's easier for some horrible person to track someone down using this site, especially b/c it is so specific to Long Island. Do I think that it will happen? No, I pray it won't. That is why I chose not to answer questions about where I live, what I do for a living, etc. But I have decided not to take anymore chances. I probably won't be posting anymore. And if I do, it will be under a new screen name.
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I think that anyone who is concerned about posting personal info or pics, should do what makes them comfortable. I must say, though, I agree with Soncistef, because I post what I am comfortable posting and have never posted something that would cause me a problem if it ever came back at me.
I think that Erica is in a unique position becuase she is a HS teacher. It is tough enough dealing with teenagers (FH is also a HS teacher), and they get a little nutty when they have info about a teacher's life, becuase they are fasciniated by the concept of a teacher actually having a life! So I can understand how this could be a problem for her. I had a HS teacher (a million years ago) who worked PT at a fast food restaurant near my HS. Tons of students paraded in and out of there and tortured that poor woman. At the time it seemed funny. And FHs students stare at me like I am alien when they meet me and find out that we are engaged.
I will also say that it is not as easy to find a person as some of you may think. I think the rest of the attorneys, legal secretaries and paralegals can back me up here. I spend so much time trying to find people even when I have an old address or phone number. And I don't think that too many sickos are going to resort to hiring a PI like I frequently end up doing If I had someone give me this website address, the screen name Claud2001, a picture of a child in a duck costume and expected me to find where Claud2001 lived, I would tell them they are nuts.
But everyone should do what they feel comfortable with. I will really miss the cute baby pics though Maybe some of you moms can forum email me the really cute ones.
P.S. Not picking on you Claud. Just really loved that picture!
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Just to be clear - I do not take anyone's comments here as picking on me. Sometimes we need to cite someone else's post to make a point, and that's okay.
I agree with everything you just said Becky - especially the stuff about HS kids and how they get when they have personal info about a teacher. You are absolutely right about Yabbo's situation being different.
I just know that this makes me feel better as a Mom who wants to protect her child and keep him safe. I hope everyone can understand and respect that. Besides, my hubby has been looking for a reason to get me off these boards for months!
Edited to add - I HATE to quit NOW - right before I make it to 'Addicted' status!! LOL.
I am glad you liked the pictures. You should see him in person!
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Claud: It would be such a shame for you to leave now since you have a lot of valuable information for brides to be...not to mention being fun to chat with on the other sections. I understand you want to protect your baby and there is nothing wrong with keeping things private but do you have to go? :(
And that goes for everyone who is considering leaving.
