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Re: Help! Huge Fight With DH....am I wrong?

I don't think you're wrong for being upset. But I don't think its worth fighting about all day (not that its not an important issue). Think about it - you want to spend some quality time together but you're going to ruin another day fighting about it?

I would want some reason why he changed his mind - could he be surprising you with something tomorrow night?

Can't he understand your desire for adult time?

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I don't think you're crazy at all, and it in no way, shape or form means you are a bad mother or are crazy.

Parents NEED these nights to focus on eachother. It is a special occassion (I actually agree with doing this more often than only a special occassion) and you need 'adult time'.

I would have been looking forward to it as well and would be very disappointed if it were cancelled.

to you...AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY

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Hmmm... 'no reason' makes me wonder if he's planning some sort of surprise and lunch is a way to get you there.

Claud, you've got every reason to feel disappointed when you had your heart set on a romantic dinner together.

However, I know if I was in your situation I'd feel like the whole thing would be forced at this point. Even if he gives in and sticks with the plan he'll be resentful and it won't be the fun, romantic evening you want.

I guess one option would be to let him know how much you were looking forward to a romantic evening alone with him, and ask if you can plan one for the near future when it's a better time for both of you.

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Very good point Karen. I hadn't thought of the 'forced' issue, but it's true

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Did he explain why he wanted to switch gears? I'd try and get him to open up about it.

Maybe he has a surprise but here's another thought...

You mentioned you needed adult time. Could it be that he has gotten so used to it being the 3 of you all the time that the change in dynamic without Paul around might be intimidating. Sounds odd - and I never thought of it before - but a friend of mine experienced this with her hubby. They recently went on a vacation with just hte 2 of them and left their 2 little ones with family. They had forgotten how to act one on one b/c all of their conversations were around/about/with the kids. They both expressed concern about this before hand (of course, to their friends) and didn't really share their apprehensions iwth each other until they were down in Jamaica....but they eventually worked through it and had a great time.

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AWE Claud, big hug

I hope everything turns out wonderful for all of you!

Last time we had a dinner out, it was all 3 of us,and I actually WANTED to take the baby, and John wanted it to be just us (I won ) so I guess there's really no rhyme or reason (or no intention to hurt the significant other) when one wants to take the baby.

I wouldnt take it the wrong way. Im sure he has alternate plans to make you the happiest mommy and wife in the world...

Let us know how it goes

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I think this reeks of a secret plan!! How exciting!! Let us know how it goes.
And even if it isn't a surprise, I agree with your point, but it's no use bickering anymore. Have lunch and ask him to make it up to you some other time!!

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I would be p!ssed too - however, I don't know what it would be like if we had children. But ti change plans at the last minute is odd. esp. if this is not usual behaviour ---- maybe he has a surprise up his sleeve??

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I would want the romantic night as well...especially if you have been looking forward to it...


I think you disearve a reason at least...and if there is none...i hope that its a surprise!!!

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I think you have a right to be upset, especially if you were looking forward to it. Maybe you can have a talk with him about how you feel.

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Sounds like a plot to me
Is this a big B'Day that he might have something special planned.

Dont waste time fighting or being upset over it. Plan another 'Date Night' in the upcoming weeks. This way you get to enjoy both days!

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I can understand why you would be upset. Everyone likes to be able to spend a little time alone with their DH. I wouldn't get into a fight over it though. Just talk to him and let him know that it really means a lot to you to be able to spend some quality alone time together once in a while.
If he wants to go to lunch with the baby this time, then convince him to set aside a day next week for the two of you.

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what's up with the deleted post? How'd things go today?

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This is SOOOO funny Claud