QOTD - Are you your own worst enemy?

What do you feel you could personally improve on to make your life easier? Is it how you perceive things? Do you tend to put things off constantly? Do you have a defeatist attitude when things go wrong?

I'm learning how to let negative people and things roll off of me and not consume me like they have in the past.

I'm learning to control my temper.

I'm learning how to say no more and not feel bad about it.

Finally and most important, I'm learning how to let go and let God!

What do you feel you can change or adjust that would make your life easier?

Have a wonderful day ladies!

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I am too sensitive, if I could adjust that then life would be so much easier.

I think I could be a little more self confident.

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I dont think i have a consistent answer for this.

Most days, Im my own biggest cheerleader and feel like i could do pretty much anything if i wanted to. But then some days i just want to crawl under a rock and give up.

I find that i am having fewer of the former and more of the latter days lately but im not sure what i can do about that.

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Posted by TrayLu47

What do you feel you could personally improve on to make your life easier? Is it how you perceive things? Do you tend to put things off constantly? Do you have a defeatist attitude when things go wrong?

Have a wonderful day ladies!

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I don't think I would call myself the enemy but I tend to make things harder on myself by procrastinating and not taking care of myself better.

I am either naively optimistic or horrifically negative. I am lucky that when I thought negatively I was wrong but unfortunately completely stunned when I was optimistic and the worst things happened.

I have eliminated most of the really negative people in my life - I didn't need 'friends' to go out of their way to make me miserable.

I am trying to manage my time better that will hopefully lead to more time for DH & I, or just me. I am working off a list of tasks so that I get the satisfaction of crossing things off. It doesn't matter if more things are added, the sence of accomplishment is rewarding.

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I'm too much of a control freak. I've had to rely on myself for so long, and taken responsibility for so many things, that its very hard for me to let other people 'take over.' I tend to get very frustrated when I feel like someone is 'mis-managing' something, or if I feel I wouldn't have done it that way.

So I'm really working on reminding myself that there's more than one way to skin a cat, and other people need to have a chance, too!

I think it's tied into perfectionism. You want things to be just perfect or just right, so you feel you have to do them yourself. It's a horrible way to be...

But I'm a lot better than I used to be!!

I think I also have a tendency to expect the worst. After a string of disappointments, I guess I just started expecting bad things instead of good.

But at least I'm aware of all of this, and working on it!!

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I too, need to work on not being so sensitive. I let the little things get to me and eat away at me.

I also need to work on not bottling things up so much and realize if I am stressed, to let it out.

My last bit of work on myself for the year is to stop wanting things...and to just be happy with what I have. I have so much to be thankful for, there is nothing more I NEED in my life. Sure there are a lot of 'wants', but I need to stop putting those 'wants' in the 'needs' category.

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I am working on my being so critical and judgemental, I have been praying about it and it has gotten so much better.

I can be a slacker when it comes to my w/o out and my eating and I get in a slump and want to do the bear minumum then get upset with myself when I don't see changes.

I also use to always think the worse of a situation or of others and always wanting to do it for myself. I guess there is some control issues that I have within me that if I see people not doing it right or quick enough for my taste I tend to want to just grab it and say you know what I'll do it my d*amn self

Giving the benefit of the doubt

Girl, one day at a time, thank goodness for God's grace, b/c I truly need it.

I definitely feel you on let go and let God.

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Sage - you took the words right out of my mouth! I am totally oversensitive, cry at the drop of a hat (and not just when I have PMS either), tend to not tell others when they've upset me and hope things will get better.
I also get my 'wants' and 'needs' mixed up. I'm constantly comparing what I have to what others have and get upset when I can't have everything I want!!! Immature, I know.

Hmm, I also have to work on not getting totally stressed over everything, and to stop slamming my phone at work!

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What do you feel you could personally improve on to make your life easier?

*I could stop taking responsibility for everything and share some of my stress with others.

*I don't put things off...only things that would better myself. (how sick is that...demented but true)

*I sometimes get a 'why me' attitude when things go wrong and just get to discouraged. I think it comes from years of making bad decisions.

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Also, I am sooooo impatient. I always want things RIGHT AWAY. I have to learn to wait on things.

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As I read your lists, I think I need add all of yours on mine as well!! I have work to do! joking! Not everything, but I guess it really depends on how I'm feeling or if I'm PMSing.

However, what I really want to do is start learning how to look at things differently and not be so quick to dismiss certain things. I want to eliminate 'I can't' and replace it with 'how do I go about doing or accomplishing that!' I think it would make an overall difference.

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I am my worst enemy when it comes to job hunting.

I've been going on interviews but nothing has come of it. I'm so mad at myself for majoring in marketing/advertising in college and getting into this field. I am a point in my career where I'm not at entry-level and I'm not senior level. I can't find anything in between and I am getting so damn frustrated with myself.

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KCDC- You just said everything I was going to say. Fits me to a T. :( Always worrying did I do enough, is everyone ok. what do they think of me? Very sensitive. Constantly worrying about my parents and my sister (health, finances, etc.) Poor DH is the one I vent to about my fears. Oh well, its me. I try to talk to myself and calm down and quit worrying but it doesn't seem to be helping. I think I take a lot of guilt and responsibity for things that happen to my family..

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Denise - you could have just written that for me....seriously, that is me. In every way, shape and form!!!!!
I am the biggest worrier ever and ESPECIALLY when it comes to my family....
It's awful the weight we carry as worriers....
I wish I could just not care so much

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Me too. It makes me feel a little better I am not the only one. My sister thinks I am nuts. My poor DH is very patient and he listens, but its always my parents this and my sister that and do you think its ok that this happened. I did start to realize not to long ago that its funny but I don't see anyone that concerned about my.. You know. That sort of put things in perspective for me. My sister has her own life and my parents have theirs and no one is asking me, did you take your vitamins today! :) I always ask my Momma that. :) So, I am trying to find a happy medium, being concerned but not overbearing or constantly worrying, becuase you know what, I am the one who is going to end up being dead (not them). I will be the one with the ulcers or the cancer (God forbid) for all the stress and worrying i do. So I am trying to not care (you know what I mean). But sometimes we can't change who we are. Deep inside I am proud of who I am. I deeply care about others and I think that is a very noble thing........... FM anytime if you want to talk more about this.

Denise

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I make life so difficult because I am a serious procrastinator. I spen more time worrying about what I have to do than actuelly just doing it and getting it over with.