SHE HATES ME!

Original post by Taken2005

Feb 10, 2006 10:35 AM

Ok, now I know that my mother-in-law and I dont have the greatest relationship. I mean, I really dont care for her, but always put a smile on my face and keep my mouth shut. But now she has just gone too far.

We got the proofs back from the wedding, and she came over to pick out the ones she wanted for her Parent Album. Also, she wanted to have a picture blown up to 11x14. So she chose to have a family picture enlarged. She chose the photo of her family (her, her husband, my husband and her other 2 childred) - I AM NOT IN THE PHOTO. Now she had 2 photos in her hand, one with me in and one without me in it.. and she turns to me and says 'I want this one' and hands me the photo with me missing.

When I told my husband, he flipped out and called her to see if maybe she made a mistake (I did not want him too, but he was way upset). She said 'no, I didnt make a mistake. I just want a photo of my family'.

This is really really bugging me and my husband. He is very upset. He told me that I dont have to call her mom anymore, and I am not. She totally disrespected me.

Any comments/advise?

babybug631 Posted: Feb 14, 2006 01:28 AM

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WOW! She sounds like she is being very territorial. Yeah, I would be very offended. You ARE a part of that family now and she is clearly having difficulty with that. My mother has never had a close relationship with my dad's mom. At first it bothered her, but she eventually got over it. I know it's difficult to hear, but if I were you I would not go out of my way for that women for one second. The person she's really hurting is your DH, because now he will take your side and lose out on his family, like my father did.

lilacwine Posted: Feb 20, 2006 02:44 PM

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OMG! I thought of you this weekend as my mom was picking out pictures she'd like to have enlarged. She picked the one w/ her, dad, me and my brother -- without DH and FSIL!

I kept thinking of you, asked 'don't you want the one with DH and FSIL, too?' and I finally just said, 'we'll get both pictures for you.' DH probably wouldn't care but FSIL would have a fit (she got insulted because my mom took the 2004 christmas picture of FSIL's nephew off the fridge last month ).

My mom LOVES DH, so I'm not quite sure what she's thinking.

SPITSBRIDE Posted: Feb 23, 2006 09:14 AM

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Posted by suven

Print the picture with YOU in it.

When you give it to her, don't say anything.

If she comments about you being in it, or it being the wrong photo, just say

'oh, I told the photographer. He said that he figured you must have made a mistake in picking the one without me, so he printed this one. I didn't feel comforatable telling him that you didn't want me in the picture, so I just kept this one.'

That's PERFECT!!!!...I would do the same thing!!...Go for it

slwh2005 Posted: Feb 23, 2006 11:00 AM

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that is just awful!! What a mean person. Your DH should definitely say something to her. She obviously has some jealousy issues or something. Maybe she's just mean & nasty and has no clue how to be nice. Doesn't she realize that she should to be nice to you now that you're married to her son (at least if she ever wants to be invited over again)???

ssdbk Posted: Feb 23, 2006 03:13 PM

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I know that my MIL wants an enlarged photo of my husband with just his brother. But I think that she plans to order that in addition to ordering a photo with me in it. I'm fine with that idea but your MIL shoulds like she is being a total JERK!!! Sorry I don't have a great solution, unless you want to ask her to order more than one enlargement, and have at least one with the bride in it!!!!